How to Rise Above Abuse (Counseling Through the Bible Series) (69 page)

19
. See Margaret J. Rinck,
Christian Men Who Hate Women: Healing Hurting Relationships
(Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1990), 17-18.

20
. Elizabeth Dawn Keetley and John Charles Pettegrew,
Public Women, Public Words: A Documentary History of American Feminism
(Lanham, MD: Rowman & Littlefield, 2005), 172-73.

21.
Domestic Violence: The Facts
(Somerville, MA: Peace at Home, 2004), 4. See also
http://www.betterman.org/dv-the-facts.pdf
.

22
. For cycles of abuse see Patricia Riddle Gaddis,
Battered but Not Broken: Help for Abused Wives and Their Church Families
(Valley Forge, PA: Judson, 1996), 27-29; Kay Marshall Strom,
In the Name of Submission: A Painful Look at Wife Battering
(Portland, OR: Multnomah, 1986), 44-46; Lenore E. Walker,
The Battered Woman
(New York: HarperPerennial, 1979), 55-70.

23
. For research and statistics in this paragraph see Donald G. Dutton, “Witnessing Parental Violence as a Traumatic Experience Shaping the Abusive Personality” in Robert A. Geffner, Peter G. Jaffe, Marlies Sudermann, eds.,
Children Exposed to Domestic Violence: Current Issues in Research, Intervention, Prevention, and Policy Development
(New York: The Haworth Maltreatment & Trauma Press, 2000), 61.

24
. See also S.R. McDill and Linda McDill,
Shattered and Broken
(Old Tappan, NJ: Fleming H. Revell, 1991), 76-82; Ginny NiCarthy and Sue Davidson,
You Can Be Free: An Easy-to-Read Handbook for Abused Women
(Seattle, WA: Seal, 1989), 16-19; Strom,
In the Name of Submission
, 35-39.

25
. See also Brent Curtis,
Guilt
, ed. Tom Varney (Colorado Springs, CO: NavPress, 1992), 14-29.

26
. On the three God-given inner needs, see Lawrence J. Crabb, Jr.,
Understanding People: Deep Longings for Relationship
(Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1987), 15-16; Robert S. McGee,
The Search for Significance
, 2nd ed. (Houston, TX: Rapha, 1990), 27-30.

27
. See also Marie M. Fortune,
Keeping the Faith: Questions and Answers for the Abused Woman
(San Francisco: HarperSanFrancisco, 1987), 28-29.

28
. See also Strom,
In the Name of Submission
, 56-57.

29
. See also Strom,
In the Name of Submission
, 56-58.

30
. Sharon Ries,
My Husband My Maker
(Eugene, OR: Harvest House, 1989), 36.

31
.
Hope for the Heart
transcript, “Surviving an Abusive Marriage,” with Sharon Ries, April 23-27, 1990, 4.

32
. See
www.raulries.com

33
.
Hope for the Heart
transcript, “Surviving an Abusive Marriage,” 10.

34
. Ries,
My Husband My Maker
, 98.

35
. Raul Ries,
From Fury to Freedom
(Eugene, OR: Harvest House, 1986), 13.

36
. Ries,
From Fury to Freedom
, 94.

37
. Ries,
From Fury to Freedom.

38
. Ries,
From Fury to Freedom
, 97.

39
. Ries,
From Fury to Freedom
, 102.

40
. Ries,
From Fury to Freedom.

41
. Ries,
From Fury to Freedom
, 107.

42
. Ries,
From Fury to Freedom
, 108.

43
. For the following checklist, see Peace at Home,
Domestic Violence: The Facts
, (Somerville, MA: Peace at Home, 2004), 14-15,
http://www.betterman.org/dv-the-facts.pdf
.

44
. For this section see Texas Young Lawyers Association,
Family Violence: Legal Choices for Victims of Domestic Violence
(Austin, TX: State Bar of Texas, 1996),
http://www.texasbar.com/PrinterTemplate.cfm?Section=Home&CONTENTID=3881&TEMPLATE=/ContentManagement/ContentDis-play.cfm
. Be sure to check the current laws in your area.

45
. For the following section see also Strom,
In the Name of Submission
, 102-06.

1
. See Patricia Evans,
The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond
(Holbrook, MA: Bob Adams, 1992), 164.

2
. Linda Strom,
Karla Faye Tucker: Set Free
(Colorado Springs: Harold Shaw, 2000), 19.

3
. Strom,
Karla Faye Tucker
, 49.

4
. Strom,
Karla Faye Tucker
, 139

5
. Strom,
Karla Faye Tucker
, 206.

6
. Strom,
Karla Faye Tucker
, 52.

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