How to Rise Above Abuse (Counseling Through the Bible Series) (67 page)

61
. Van Derbur,
Miss America by Day
, 315.

62
. Van Derbur,
Miss America by Day
, 315.

63
. Van Derbur,
Miss America by Day
, 314.

64
. Van Derbur,
Miss America by Day
, 307.

65
. For additional advice on responding to abusive situations see Grant Martin,
Please Don’t Hurt Me
(Wheaton, IL: Victor, 1987), 52-60.

66
. Van Derbur,
Miss America by Day
, 428.

67
. Van Derbur,
Miss America by Day
, 324.

68
. Van Derbur,
Miss America by Day
, 413.

69
. Van Derbur,
Miss America by Day
, 413.

70
. Van Derbur,
Miss America by Day
, 413.

71
. See Martin,
Please Don’t Hurt Me
, 51-59.

72
. See Van Derbur,
Miss America by Day
, 423-24.

73
. See Van Derbur,
Miss America by Day
, 207.

74
. See Martin,
Please Don’t Hurt Me
, 96.

75
. For more preventative measures see Martin,
Please Don’t Hurt Me
, 90-93.

76
. For Jaycee Dugard’s story see Alex Tresniowski, “Jaycee Dugard Captive No More,”
People
(September 14, 2009); Alan B. Goldberg and Sarah Netter, “Jaycee Dugard Exclusive: ‘It’s Been a Long Haul,’ ”
ABC News
(March 5, 2010), at
http://abcnews.go.com/2020/TheLaw/jaycee-dugard-home-video-kidnap-survivor-speaks-time/story?id=10009310&page=1
; Jesse McKinley and Carol Pogash, “Kidnapping Victim Was Not Always Locked Away,”
New York Times
(August 28, 2009), at
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/08/29/us/29abduct.html?pagewanted=1&_r=2
.

77
. Alan B. Goldberg and Sarah Netter, “Jaycee Dugard Exclusive: ‘It’s Been a Long Haul,’”
ABC News
(March 5, 2010), at
http://abcnews.go.com/2020/TheLaw/jaycee-dugard-home-video-kidnap-survivor-speaks-time/story?id=10009310&page=1
.

78
.
Abba
is an Aramaic term Jesus used to refer to God. It is a term of affection children would use to address their father, similar to saying, “Daddy.” See Gerhard Kittel, Geoffrey William Bromiley, Gerhard Friedrich,
Theological Dictionary of the New Testament
, vol. 1, electronic ed. (Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 1976), 5-6.

79
. Van Derbur,
Miss America by Day
, 197-98.

80
. Van Derbur,
Miss America by Day
, 252.

81
. Van Derbur,
Miss America by Day
, 173.

1
. Edward J. Cumella, “Religious Abuse,”
The Remuda Review
(Spring 2005), 17.

2
. David Johnson and Jeff Van Vonderen,
The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse: Recognizing and Escaping Spiritual Manipulation and False Spiritual Authority Within the Church
(Minneapolis: Bethany House, 1991), 20.

3
. See Ken Blue,
Healing Spiritual Abuse: How to Break Free from Bad Church Experiences
(Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity, 1993), 44-48; Johnson and VanVonderen,
The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse
, 37-39.

4
.
Merriam-Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary
, electronic ed. (New York: Merriam-Webster, 2001), s.v. “Legal.”

5
. Charles C. Ryrie,
Balancing the Christian Life: Biblical Principles for Wholesome Living
(Chicago: Moody, 1969), 159.

6
. Dr. Donald T. Atkinson,
Magic, Myth & Medicine
(New York: The World Publishing Company, 1956), 271-72.

7
. Andrew White,
A History of the Warfare of Science with Theology in Christendom
, vol. 2 (New York: George Braziller, 1955), 63.

8
. White,
A History of the Warfare of Science
, 125.

9
. Bob George,
Discipleship Counseling Training Student Manual
(Dallas: Discipleship Counseling Services, n.d.).

10
. See Cumella, “Religious Abuse,” 17-18.

11
. See also David A. Seamands,
Healing Grace
(Wheaton, IL: Victor, 1988), 18-19.

12
. See also Seamands,
Healing Grace
, 100-06.

13
. See Cumella, “Religious Abuse,” 18.

14
. See Cumella, “Religious Abuse,” 18.

15
. See Cumella, “Religious Abuse,” 18.

16
. See also Seamands,
Healing Grace
, 126-38.

17
. See Cumella, “Religious Abuse,” 18.

18
. See also Seamands,
Healing Grace
, 12-14.

19
. See also Cumella, “Religious Abuse,” 19; Seamands,
Healing Grace
, 19.

20
. David Schley Schaff,
John Huss: His Life, Teachings, and Death after Five Hundred Years
(New York: Charles Scribner’s Sons, 1915), 249.

21
. Schaff,
John Huss
, 255.

22
. Schaff,
John Huss
, 257.

23
. See also Seamands,
Healing Grace
, 12-19.

24
. For further information on wrong thinking see Stephen Arterburn and Jack Felton,
Toxic Faith: Understanding and Overcoming Religious Addiction
(Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 1991), 265-314.

25
. On the three God-given inner needs, see Lawrence J. Crabb, Jr.,
Understanding People: Deep Longings for Relationship
(Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1987), 15-16; Robert S. McGee,
The Search for Significance
, 2nd ed. (Houston, TX: Rapha, 1990), 27-30.

26
. John Newton, “Amazing Grace” in
Olney Hymns
(London: W. Oliver, 1779).

27
. See David R. Miller,
Breaking Free: Rescuing Families from the Clutches of Legalism
(Grand Rapids: Baker, 1992), 174-75.

28
. See also Kevin A. Miller, “I Don’t Feel Like a Very Good Christian: Why Does It Seem That You Can Never Quite Measure
Up?” Discipleship Journal
(September/October 1988), 9.

29
. For teachings and practices of the FLDS see James Walker, “Watchman Profile: Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (FLDS)” (Arlington, TX: Watchman Fellowship, 2004), at
http://www.watchman.org/old_wf/assets/files/flds_profile.pdf
.

30
. For information concerning Raymond Jessop and the 2008 raid in Eldorado, TX, see Edecio Martinez, “In Land of Fundamentalist Mormons, Can Texas Find Impartial Jury for Polygamist Raymond Jessop?”
CBS News
(October 27, 2009), at
http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504083_162-5129817-504083.html?tag=mncol;lst;1
; “Polygamist Gets 10 Years for Marrying Teen” (Washington, D.C.: United Press International, November 11, 2009), at
http://www.upi.com/Top_News/US/2009/11/11/Polygamist-gets-10-years-for-marrying-teen/UPI-28921257920937/
.

31
. Walker, “Watchman Profile: Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (FLDS),” at
http://www.watchman.org/old_wf/assets/files/flds_profile.pdf
.

32
. Martinez, “In Land of Fundamentalist Mormons, Can Texas Find Impartial Jury for Polygamist Raymond Jessop?”
http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504083_162-5129817-504083.html?tag=mncol;lst;1
.

33
. W.E. Vine, Merrill F. Unger, and William White,
Vine’s Complete Expository Dictionary of Biblical Words
(Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 1985), s.v. “Sabbath.”

34
. Kenneth O. Gangel, “Reexamining Biblical Worship,”
Vital Christian Living Issues: Examining Crucial Concerns in the Spiritual Life
, ed. Roy B. Zuck (Grand Rapids: Kregel, 1997), 84.

35
. Frederick Dale Bruner,
Matthew: A Commentary
(Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 2004), 216.

36
. Robert A. Baker and John M. Landers,
A Summary of Christian History
(Nashville: B&H Publishing Group, 2005), 15.

1
. See Andre Bustanoby and Fay Bustanoby,
Just Talk to Me: The Principles and Practice of Communication in Marriage
(Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1981), 148.

2
. Charles R. Solomon,
The Ins and Outs of Rejection
(Littleton, CO: Heritage House, 1976), 13.

3
. Solomon,
The Ins and Outs of Rejection
, 13, 18.

4
. Francis Brown, Samual Rolles Driver, and Charles Augustus Briggs, eds.,
Hebrew-Aramaic and English Lexicon of the Old Testament
, electronic ed. (Oak Harbor, WA: Logos Research Systems, 2000).

5
. See
Merriam-Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary
, electronic ed. (New York: Merriam-Webster, 2001), s.v. “Brainwashing.”

6
. Josh Mankiewicz, “Kidnapped Heiress: The Patty Hearst Story,”
Dateline
transcript, July 25, 2009.

7
. Mankiewicz, “Kidnapped Heiress: The Patty Hearst Story.”

8
. Mankiewicz, “Kidnapped Heiress: The Patty Hearst Story.”

9
. Frank Bolz, Kenneth J. Dudonis, David P. Schulz,
The Counterterrorism Handbook: Tactics, Procedures, and Techniques
(Boca Raton, FL: CRC Press, 2002), 209.

10
. Mankiewicz, “Kidnapped Heiress: The Patty Hearst Story.”

11
. Mankiewicz, “Kidnapped Heiress: The Patty Hearst Story.”

12
. Mankiewicz, “Kidnapped Heiress: The Patty Hearst Story.”

13
. CNN Larry King Live, “Interview with Patty Hearst” (January 22, 2002),
http://transcripts.cnn.com/TRANSCRIPTS/0201/22/lkl.00.html
.

14
. CNN Larry King Live, “Interview with Patty Hearst.”

15
. John 8:32.

16
. For this section see also Robert Burney, “Emotional Abuse Is Heart and Soul Mutilation,” Joy2MeU,
http://www.joy2meu.com/emotional_abuse.html
; Scott Wetzler,
Living with the Passive-Aggressive
Man, repr. ed. (1992; New York: Fireside, 1993), 35-37; Harold I. Kaplan and Benjamin J. Saddock,
Synopsis of Psychiatry: Behavioral Sciences/Clinical Psychiatry
, 8th ed. (Baltimore: Williams & Wilkins, 1997), 793-94; Michael Arndt and Clare Dacy, “Healing Emotional Abuse,”
Designed Thinking
, at
http:/www.designedthinking.com/Fear/Abuse/abuse.html
.

17
. For the three God-given inner needs, see Lawrence J. Crabb, Jr.,
Understanding People: Deep Longings for Relationship
(Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1987), 15-16; Robert S. McGee,
The Search for Significance
, 2nd ed. (Houston, TX: Rapha, 1990), 27-30.

18
. See Crabb,
Understanding People
, 15-16; McGee,
The Search for Significance
, 27-30.

19
. For suggestions on confronting parents see Susan Forward,
Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life
(New York: Bantam, 1989), 236-74.

20
. Bustanoby and Bustanoby,
Just Talk to Me
, 159-60.

21
. For additional advice on setting boundaries see Robert Burney, “Setting Personal Boundaries—Protecting Self,”
http://joy2meu.com/Personal_Boundaries.htm
.

22
. Chad J. Angotta, “Emotional Boundaries: To Be or Not to Be…Yourself,” at
http://www.psych-point.com/boundary.html
.