The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know (16 page)

Possible transformation of consciousness

Boundaries between you

and partner dissolve

Pleasure pulses through entire body

Pleasure floods your brain

Pleasure expanding up your spine

Pleasure felt primarily

in your genitals

Multiple whole-body orgasms

Draw energy up spine to brain using the Orgasmic Upward Draw

“
Contractile phase
”
orgasm (involuntary
PC
contractions)

A

Finish lovemaking with energy radiating through your body

B

“
Point of No Return
”
(ejaculation for men or single orgasm for women)

Your Orgasmic Potential—instead of the ordinary ejaculatory orgasm for men or singular orgasm for women, you and your partner can multiply and expand your orgasms

throughout your body.

1. Ordinary
   “
   Big Bang
   ”
   ejaculatory orgasm for men or single orgasm for women
   

2. Multiple whole-body orgasm with Orgasmic Upward Draw
   

   acupressure, and chi kung. Chinese medicine has long known that in addition to the structures of the body, there is a bioelectric energy, called
   chi
   (pronounced
   CHEE
   ), that constantly circulates through every cell of our body. As Western physiology and chemistry have become more advanced, they have demonstrated that indeed our whole body and the whole universe is made of energy and electrical charges. As Dr. Felice Dunas explains, “Taking a num-ber of different forms, chi flows constantly through our bodies, creating brain waves, causing the heart to beat, stimulating the nervous system, driving cell metabolism . . .”
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   The recognition of our bodily energy, or chi, is not unique to China. The West may in fact be one of the few cultures that does not have a traditional term for this bioelectric energy, although even in the West we commonly speak of feeling
   energized
   or being
   low energy.
   The best way to understand chi, however, is not to explain it but to feel it in your own body.
   

   Cultivating Your Energy
   

   While Western science does not yet know why this energy, or chi, circulates on the paths that it does, Chinese medicine long ago mapped out these paths and learned to use them for greater health. You only need to learn the basic path along which energy travels in your body. It is called the Microcosmic Orbit (see illustration opposite), and it rises up from your sexual organs and travels along your spine up to your head and down through your tongue and the front of your body to your navel and back to your sexual organs.
   

   These channels are not arbitrary. They arise from our earliest development in utero. When we are first conceived, our body resembles a flat disk, which then folds over. This leaves two “seams” along the back and front of the body. The back seam is easy to see in the spine. The front seam is less obvious. It can be seen when closure is not complete, as in children who are born with a harelip, or on many women during pregnancy when they develop a dark line up the center of their belly called the
   linea nigra.
   

   The Microcosmic Orbit is really two channels: one that goes up your back
   

   and one that comes down your front. It is your tongue that actually connects the two channels, closing the circuit.
   So it is essential that you learn to touch the tip of your tongue to the front roof of your mouth
   (see illustration on p. 70). There is a little indentation at the front of the roof of your mouth (your palate), and it is through here that the energy descends most easily from your brain and moves through your tongue and down your throat and chest to your abdomen.
   

   

   

   The Microcosmic Orbit—a natural circuit of energy in the body. There are three reservoirs of energy, at the brain, heart, and abdomen.
   

   Touching your tongue to your palate
   

   (If you have high blood pressure, you should keep your tongue in your lower jaw rather than touching your palate, and also make sure to bring the energy all the way down to the soles of your feet.)
   

   

   FEELING ENERGY MOVE IN YOUR BODY
   

   Many people are surprised to learn that they have energy moving in their body all the time, but like the invisible bonds of atoms that hold our world together, it is always, if silently, present. Without it, we would not be alive. Usually we are not aware of this energy, which is subtle and constantly mov-ing, but as we cultivate it, we can learn to move it with our mind and to experience its warm, tingling feeling throughout our body for greater pleasure and health.
   

   What Does Energy Feel Like When It Is Moving in My Body?
   Warmth and tingling are two feelings that many people describe. Others feel prickling (like static electricity), pulsating, humming, bubbling, or buzzing. Most
   

   

   people feel it move slowly, especially at first, almost like molasses. While it sometimes can move quickly, like a rush of energy, it is very important not to try to force it. Don’t be surprised if you feel the energy more at some places than at others.
   

   How Can I Move Energy?
   There is an old Taoist saying, “The mind moves and the chi follows.” Wherever you focus your attention, the chi tends to gather and increase. This fact has been demonstrated through biofeedback experiments that indicate increased activity in the nerves and muscles in the area where a person focuses attention. You can test this through an experiment. Concentrate on warming your hands, and notice how the blood and chi flow to your hands. It is this awareness of the power of the mind to affect our body that the Western technique of biofeedback uses to help people control their body’s seemingly unconscious processes.
   

   Remember: you are not pushing or pulling the chi; you are simply shifting your focus to another place. This is very important because you do not want to force the energy, which can cause you to hurt yourself. Energy is very powerful, and you need to move it slowly and gently. In fact, it is much easier to move energy if your body is soft and relaxed than if it is rigid and tense.
   

   Sexual Energy
   

   Sexual energy, or
   ching-chi
   (pronounced
   CHING
   -
   CHEE
   ), is a very powerful form of bioelectric energy. When you get aroused, or horny, it is this spreading of sexual energy that you are feeling in your body. As we have discussed above, Healing Love is based on developing the ability to cultivate this sexual energy for your pleasure, health, and spiritual growth. In the Orgasmic Upward Draw exercise, we will show you how to draw the sexual energy up out of your genitals and circulate it through the rest of your body. According to the Taoists, since we are conceived through orgasm and orgasmic energy permeates every cell of our body, we need to feel this rejuvenating, orgasmic energy regularly—ideally every day—to stay healthy.
   

   When you are able to circulate this energy, you will find that you have a great deal more energy. Indeed, when you are able to draw up your sexual energy to your brain, you will find that it is more effective than caffeine for giving you a shot of energy when you are feeling tired. Unlike with caffeine, however, there are no side effects.
   

   You are not pushing or pulling the chi; you are simply shifting your focus to another place.
   

   According to the Taoists, since we are conceived through orgasm and orgasmic energy permeates every cell of our body, we need to feel this rejuvenating, orgasmic energy regularly
   —
   ideally every day
   —
   to stay healthy.
   

   

   In the exhausting rush of our modern life, juggling work and family, we often have very little energy left for lovemaking. Yet it is lovemaking, when done with the healing circulation of energy, that can rejuvenate us more than any artificial stimulant.
   

   Generating, Transforming, and Storing Sexual Energy
   

   Before you learn to circulate your sexual energy up to your brain, you will need to learn how to bring the energy already in your brain down to your abdomen. As we discussed, our genitals are capable of generating an enormous amount of energy (you certainly know this!), but this part of our body is not good at using or storing this energy. Our brain, on the other hand, is superb at transforming and projecting this energy out into the world through our thinking and creativity. The brain, however, is not very good at generating or storing energy. For this reason, it is never good to leave energy in the brain for very long. The energy should always be brought down to the abdomen, for it is the organs in our abdomen that are ideal for storing energy. The organs store and release energy to the body when it is needed, almost like timed-release capsules. As we will discuss in chapter 5, for the Taoists, bringing orgasmic energy to our organs is a vital part of maintaining our health.
   

   

   Finding the W ay
   

   Energy in the Body
   

   • GENITALS: Generate energy
     

   • BRAIN: Transforms and projects energy
     

   • ORGANS: Store energy