The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know (12 page)

1. reasons why this is the case. If your partner is “
   scent
   -ually stunted” or is turned off by your scent, try bathing together, and as a last resort you can substitute finger play for tongue play.
   

   The only time that a woman’s vagina has an unpleasant smell is if she has an infection. If you note that you have increasing discharge and/or foul odor, you should consult your doctor.
   

   If your partner has not yet become a cunnilingus connoisseur, refer him to the couples chapter. For most men, it is not the idea or even the smell that keeps them from becoming adept at cunnilingus but the fear that they won’t know what they’re doing. You can be of great help in pointing out what feels good and showing your partner where you’re sensitive. A little positive rein-forcement can work wonders.
   

   STEP 5: TEASE YOURSELF
   

   The following method of teasing is a classic sexual technique that every woman should have in her sexual repertoire. It can greatly enhance sexual pleasure and increase the likelihood of orgasm and multiple orgasms. The technique is simple but very effective.
   

   Arouse yourself or have your partner arouse you to a point of low to mod-erate desire, and then back off on the stimulation you are receiving so that your desire decreases somewhat but does not disappear completely. Then increase stimulation again so that your desire increases to above the level that it was at previously. Now back off slightly on stimulation again. Continue slowly increasing the level of your arousal and backing off slightly prior to orgasm. This will increase the intensity of your pleasure, and, when you do orgasm, your sexual energy will be very high. Immediately following orgasm, begin stimulation again to maintain your level of arousal. Using the stimulation and backing-off technique will allow you to build to another orgasm.
   

   Some women find that their sensitive spots, be they vaginal, clitoral, nipple, or whatever, are hypersensitive at the time of orgasm or just after. If this is the case for you, have your lover stop stimulation for a short period of time (less than thirty seconds) but then continue to stimulate you. If you wait too long to restart stimulation after the first orgasm, your body may move into a refractory period, making a second orgasm less likely.
   

   While this method of teasing can stoke your sexual fire, being teased for too long can be frustrating. If you are practicing this with your partner, be sure to communicate when your erotic suspense is turning to boredom and you want to move on to the next step.
   

   

   STEP 6: GO, SPOT, GO
   

   Earlier in the chapter we discussed the location of the G spot. In addition to this famous spot, you may also have found other “spots” of your own. Remember that these sensitive spots are better found when you are fully aroused. Many women report having found their G spot accidentally, sometimes after decades of intercourse with the same partner. It is more than worth your time to try different angles of penetration with fingers, penis, or dildo to see if you have any particularly sensitive areas of your vagina. Having vaginal in addition to clitoral stimulation greatly enhances the pleasure and likelihood of having multiple orgasms.
   

   Many women find that their first orgasms come primarily from their clitoris while their later orgasms, when they’re more fully aroused, occur more deeply in their vagina. These deeper orgasms can be extremely satisfying. Since different nerves carry the sensations from the vagina and the clitoris to the brain, some authors have suggested that vaginal orgasms are quite different from clitoral orgasms. The clitoral orgasm is more akin to the penile orgasm, with clitoral engorgement and repetitive contractions of the
   PC
   mus-cle. With the vaginal orgasm, the woman begins to have deeper contractions and pleasure spreading throughout the pelvis.
   

   

   The Brauers studied women capable of having these deep vaginal orgasms and recorded their
   EEG
   s (which monitor brain waves). These tracings showed that women in the throes of deep vaginal orgasms have the same brain wave patterns as people who are in deep meditation.”
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   These deep vaginal orgasms were well known to women in China who practiced the Tao. The Taoist egg exercises that have been used for centuries to strengthen a woman’s vagina can enhance the experience of these orgasms (see the woman’s chapter in
   The Multi-Orgasmic Man,
   “Satisfaction Guaranteed”). The sexual energy created by these orgasms can easily be circulated throughout the body to create whole-body orgasms, as will be discussed in chapter 3. The Taoists also believed these deep vaginal orgasms are extremely healing and could energize the rest of the body. We will discuss this more in chapter 5.
   

   During intercourse, one of the best positions for stimulating the G spot is to have the man enter the woman from behind, while the woman is on hands and knees or lying down flat on her stomach (see illustration opposite). This allows the man to move up over her in a more vertical position and to use slightly shallower thrusting to stimulate her G spot. The G spot usually lies
   

   

   

   G SPOT
   

   only a few inches inside her vagina through the anterior (front) wall of her vagina (
   see illustration on p. 32
   ). Another variation is to have the man on his back and the woman on top facing the man’s feet. Still another variation is for the woman, when on top facing the man’s feet, to recline back on her hands toward her partner’s chest. In any of these positions, she can control the depth of penetration and guide his penis to stimulate her G spot. Whatever method works best for you to stimulate your G spot, this orgasmic trigger point is sure to help you double, triple, or quadruple your pleasure.
   

   STEP 7: USE YOUR PC MUSCLE
   

   In the section on strengthening your
   PC
   muscle, we discussed at length the importance of this muscle to orgasmic potential. Contracting the
   PC
   muscle is one of the primary methods the Taoist sexual experts used to get sexual energy flowing in the body. When practicing the
   PC
   exercises, you may also have noticed that it increases your desire. When you contract your
   PC
   muscle during lovemaking it has the same effect, increasing your pleasure and mov-ing you closer to multiple orgasms.
   

   As your sexual energy rises with
   PC
   muscle contractions, your heart rate will increase and your breathing will shorten. Stimulating your clitoris or hitting a sensitive vaginal spot at this time will often push you over into orgasm. Since it is the
   PC
   muscle that contracts with orgasm, having a strong
   PC
   mus-cle will also make the pleasurable rhythmic contractions of orgasm more intense.
   

   The G spot can be stimulated when the man is behind and the woman lies on her belly. A pillow under her waist can sometimes help.
   

   Detail shows how the angle of the penis
   

   in this position stimulates the G spot.
   

   

   Finding the W ay
   

   PC Secrets
   

   Here are several
   PC
   techniques to try that will pleasure you and your partner:
   

   • STIMULATING THE ENTRANCE: When your partner (or dildo) enters you, contract rhythmically around the head of his penis to stimulate the entrance to the vagina.
     

   • SUCKING YOUR PARTNER IN: Have your partner slowly penetrate you while you rhythmically contract your
     PC
     as if you were sucking your partner into your vagina.
     

   • SQUEEZING DURING WITHDRAWAL: With regular in-and-out thrusting, squeeze your
     PC
     while your partner withdraws. This creates suction against your vaginal walls, which can be quite pleasurable.
     

   • STAYING DEEP INSIDE: When your partner is deep inside you, have him remain still while you contract your
     PC
     muscle against him.
     

   • CONTRACTING SHORT AND LONG: Using the traditional Taoist thrusting technique of nine shallow and one deep (see chapter 4), squeeze briefly as your partner withdraws during the shallow thrusts. During the long deep thrust, squeeze continuously as he slides in and out.
     

Like any exercise, these
PC
techniques can be difficult or tiring at first. Start slowly and do what is comfortable and pleasurable. With time, your increased strength and control of your
PC
muscle will add greatly to your orgasmic ability and your partner’s pleasure.