The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know

Sex u a l Sec r ets

Every Couple Should
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H o w C o u p l e
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D r a m a t i c a l l y E n h a n c e

T h e i r P l e a s u r e , I n t i m a c y
,

COUPLE

a n d H e a l t h

Montok Chio and Moneewon Chio

Douglas Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams
,
M.D.

The Sexual Secrets

In this book you and your partner will learn

How women can have multiple orgasms every time

and overcome difficulties having orgasms

How men can have multiple orgasms without losing their erection

and overcome problems with erection and premature ejaculation

How both of you can have longer, more intense whole-body orgasms

and have more desire, energy, and creativity

How to harmonize male and female desire and satisfy each other fully

and the arts of genital massage, oral sex, and thrusting

How sex can heal you and keep you young

and sexual positions for harmonizing and healing

How to connect love and lust

and cultivate love for each other

How to experience Soul-Mating and Soul Orgasms

and the importance of sexuality for your spiritual relationship

How to maintain the sexual charge in your relationship

and cultivate passion and pleasure over a lifetime of lovemaking

Sexual Secrets

Every Couple

Should Know

Mantak Chia, Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams,

and Rachel Carlton Abrams, M.D.

CONTENTS

Warning:
These are powerful practices…

Preface xi Introduction xiii

P A R T O N E

Solo: Multiplying and Expanding Your Orgasms 1

C H A P T E R O N E

Fireworks: Multiple Orgasms for Men 3

Orgasm and Ejaculation 4 Understanding Your Orgasm 7 Multiplying Your Orgasm 8 Learning to Control Ejaculation 14

From Genital Orgasms to Whole-Body Orgasms 21

C H A P T E R T W O

The Pool of Desire: Multiple Orgasms for Women 23

Desire Is the Energy of Life 24

Building Desire: Exploring Your Erotic Potential 26 Knowing Your Body 29

Pleasuring Yourself 34

Cultivating Your Orgasmic Potential 38 Your Sex Muscle 41

Becoming Multi-Orgasmic 46

Nine Steps to Multiple Orgasms for Any Woman 48 Missing the Big Bang: Overcoming Anorgasmia 58

C H A P T E R T H R E E

Better than Chocolate, Better than Coffee:

Expanding Your Orgasms and Your Energy 65

Your Energy 67 Cultivating Your Energy 68 Sexual Energy 71

Generating, Transforming, and Storing Sexual Energy 72 Orgasmic Upward Draw 77

Understanding the Power of Your Sexual Energy 88

P AR T TWO

Duo: Sharing Passion, Healing, and Intimacy with Your Partner 91

CHAPTER FOUR

Pleasuring Each Other 93

Fire and Water 94

Men Are from Yang, Women Are from Yin 94 Arousal: Boiling Water and Igniting a Flame 96 Harmonizing Your Desires 96

Learning the Circuits of the Body 98 Body Parts 101

Tongue Kung Fu: Oral Sex on Women 116 Mouth Kung Fu: Oral Sex on Men 116 Shallow and Deep 120

Finding a Rhythm That Works for Both of You 120 Depth, Direction, and Speed 122

Real Screwing 122 Getting Really Hot 124

CHAPTER FIVE

CONTENTS
VI

Sexual Healing 127

The Fountain of Youth 128

When Sparks Fly: Sexual Energy Healing 129 Mapping Your Genitals 130

Healing Positions 136 Circulating Sexual Energy 144

Multi-Orgasmic Quickies and Marathons 147 Coming and Going 149

Strengthening Your Sex Organs 150 Safer Sex and Sexual Health 152 The Power to Hurt and to Heal 154

CHAPTER SIX

Making Real Love 155

Cultivating Self-Love 156 Cultivating Love for Each Other 159 Staying in Touch 160

Love Lies Within 161 Power and Compassion 163

CHAPTER SEVEN

Sexing the Spirit 165

Morning Prayer 166

Union: Soul-Mating and Soul Orgasms 167 Universal Love 171

Transforming Sexual Energy into Spiritual Energy 172 Compassion and the Virtues of Our Spiritual Life 172 Cultivating Compassion 173

Revealing Ourselves 175

CHAPTER EIGHT

Making Love for a Lifetime 177
The Waxing and Waning of Desire 178
Harmonizing Different Desires 179
Being Sexual Without Doing It 180
Lifelong Lovemaking 182

Love Just Gets Better and Better 184 Sexual Health for Older Women 185 Sexual Health for Older Men 187 Sexual Health for Older Couples 191 Maintaining the Charge 192

Avoid Increasing Sexual Stakes 194 The Real Secret of Sexuality 194 Sharing Secrets 195

P
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BOOK EXTRA
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Soul Orgasms, Multi-O Quickies, Two Full Careers, and The Arts of the Bedchamber: A Conversation with Doug and

Rachel AbramsNotes 197 Resources 201

About the Authors Credtis

About the Publisher Front Cover Copyright

FINDING THE W AY

Emptying Your Bladder Inhale Through Your Nose Pelvic Pressure

Your Prostate Ring Muscles

PC Secrets

Expanding Levels of Orgasm Energy in the Body

Smiling Eyes

Cautions

Loosening Up

Discovering the G Spot

Three Thrusts

Nine Taoist Thrusts Rotating Your Sacrum Harmonizing and Healing

Three Levels of Cultivating Sexual Energy

Emotional Chart

Helpful Hints for Soul-Mating

Making Love for a Lifetime

WARNING
:
These are powerful practices
. The techniques given in this book can profoundly improve your health as well as your sexuality. However, we do not give any diagnoses or suggestions for medication. If you have a medical condition, a medical doctor should be consulted. People who have high blood pressure, heart disease, or a generally weak condition should proceed slowly in the practice. If you have questions about or difficulty with the practice, you should contact a Universal Tao instructor in your area (see Resources: Universal Tao Books and Instructors).

Practice makes pleasure.
Because this book is based on a three-thousand-year tradition of actual sexual experience, the authors are well aware of the effort that is involved—pleasurable as it may be—in changing your sex life. Learning sexual secrets is one thing, but using them is quite another. The techniques in this book have been tested and refined by countless lovers over thousands of years in the laboratory of real life. We have tried to present them in as clear and simple a way as possible, but the only way to benefit from them is to really use them.

PREF ACE

It may help to know a little about the authors to better understand the book and the many benefits of multi-orgasmic lovemaking. Let us begin by explaining how we came to write this book with Mantak and Maneewan Chia, since we never set out to write a sex book.

We stumbled across Taoist sexuality while Rachel was entering medical school and Doug was studying and working ten-hour days. We were amazed not only at the far more pleasurable and profound lovemaking we experienced but also at the increased energy we had for our work and our lives as a whole.

Taoist sexuality, also called the “Arts of the Bedchamber,” is a three-thousand-year-old tradition that has long known about male multiple orgasms and many other secrets of sexual satisfaction. It was developed to help couples experience more pleasurable and more healing lovemaking. With all the shame and misinformation that most of us grow up with about our sexuality, the Taoist Arts of the Bedchamber were a revelation.

We shared the existing books on Taoist sexuality with our friends, who said the practice sounded wonderful but they didn’t know how or where to begin. Unfortunately, there was no simple step-by-step book that showed ordinary men and women like us how to become multi-orgasmic and how to experience the physically healing, emotionally intimate, and spiritually profound aspects of lovemaking. Finally, after many requests from friends, we agreed to try and write such a book.

After extensive reading and research, it was clear that Mantak and Maneewan Chia were the most authentic and practical teachers of this tradition. Mantak Chia had studied for many years with Taoist masters, learning the sexual wisdom that he distilled into a unique system he called “Healing Love.” Its benefits are greater healing and love as well as greater pleasuring and passion. He has taught thousands of people around the world, has trained hundreds of teachers, and is respected as the world’s leading teacher of Taoist sexuality, as well as powerful Taoist practices such as tai chi, chi kung, and others.