The Energy of Words: Use the Vibration of Language to Manifest the Life You Desire (27 page)

withdrawn, and moody.

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Clingy (7)

Meaning:
“Clingy” vibrates to the 7, the deep, philosophical, teaching and learning, truth-seeker energy. In the

negative, the distrustful and skeptical 7 causes “clingy”

to be needy and demanding from a lack of trust; “I

know I’ve been clingy lately, but I’m a little gun-shy after

my last relationship.” In the positive, “clingy” becomes a

challenge for the truth-seeking 7 to get to the bottom of;

“Why are you so clingy lately? Let’s talk about this.”

Positive: wise, contemplative, achiever, truth-seeking, de-

termined, and hands-on.

Negative: stubborn, overactive, distrustful, hesitant,

skeptical, and loner.

Closed (4)

Meaning:
“Closed” vibrates to the 4, the solid, stable, practical, and balanced foundation number. In the negative,

the impatient and instant gratification-seeking 4 loses

steam for the challenge when it hits anything that is

closed; “No matter how hard I try, I keep coming up

against closed doors.” As the physical energy considered

the number of the “doer,” when something is closed,

whether it be a relationship, opportunity, or path, the

enduring, stable, positive 4 aims to find balance; “This

may seem like a closed door for now, but I’m deter-

mined to make it work.”

Positive: endurance, progress, foundation, practical, bal-

anced, organization, solid, stable, and loyal.

Negative: materialistic, impatient, addictive, instant grat-

ification, and self-absorbed.

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Codependent (6)

Meaning:
“Codependent” vibrates to the 6, the number of creativity, the nurturer, and the visionary. In the negative, when the visionary 6 loses sight of the bigger pic-

ture, becoming codependent is a natural response,

needing to be guided by outside sources instead of its

own inner vision; “He’s become so codependent in this

new relationship. It’s sad that such an outgoing guy has

lost sight of his individuality.” In the positive, the cre-

ative visionary 6 sees the broader scope of why a tempo-

rary codependent state might benefit the whole; “She’s

just codependent now because she’s in a new environ-

ment. We’ll soon see the old her back full force.”

Positive: creative visionary, certainty, balanced, nurtur-

ing, peace-making, optimistic, and forward-thinking.

Negative: Pessimistic, judgmental, critical, worry-wart,

people-pleasing, doubtful, and gossipy.

Competitive (2)

Meaning:
“Competitive” vibrates to the 2, the number of intuition, sensitivity, cooperation, and dualistic energy. In

the negative, the dualistic, opposing, or separated energy

of the 2 gives “competitive” its fighting gloves; “He’s so

competitive with everyone and everything. Someone

needs to tell him it’s not all about winning.” In the posi-

tive, “competitive” turns friendlier with the sensitive and

cooperative 2 energy; “I love a little friendly competitive

action, especially when it’s all in good fun.”

Positive: balance, cooperation, sensitive, intuitive, sup-

portive, and harmonious.

Negative: contrast, codependent, uncertain, submissive,

passive, and hypersensitive.

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Concern (9)

Meaning:
“Concern” vibrates to the 9, the ambitious, idealistic, responsible humanitarian number. The 9 is re-

sponsible for all the incredible achievements seen in the

previous century; everyone born between 1889 and 1999

had at least one 9 in their date of birth. The 9 is the most

active mental number, the highest change vibration, and

considered the “big dreamer.” In the negative, “concern”

takes on a critical and judgmental stance through the

idealistic 9 energy; “I’m concerned she won’t be an asset

to the team.” In the positive, the humanitarian qualities

come forth to express genuine and selfless concern with-

out judgment or criticism; “I’m concerned for your

health working all those hours.”

Positive: humanitarian, ambitious, responsible, jus-

tice-seeking, idealistic, and unselfish.

Negative: driven, opinionated, judgmental, critical, black

and white, and narrow-minded.

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Confined (7)

Meaning:
“Confined” vibrates to the 7, the deep, philo-

sophical, teaching and learning, truth-seeker energy. To

feel confined is to have a sense of entrapment, imprison-

ment, or being shut up in some way. In the negative,

“confined” exhibits symptoms of distrust; “This rela-

tionship feels so trapping and confined.” In the positive,

the deeper sense of inner trust associated the positive 7

energy is able to see past the confining situation with a

knowing it is for a greater purpose than just your restric-

tion; “My life seems restricted and I feel confined by

work at the moment, but I know if I work hard, I’ll get

where I want to be.” Gandhi is a perfect example of

someone who viewed restricting and confining situa-

tions in the positive.

Positive: wise, contemplative, achiever, truth-seeking, de-

termined, and hands-on.

Negative: stubborn, overactive, distrustful, hesitant,

skeptical, and loner.

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Consumed (4)

Meaning:
“Consumed” vibrates to the 4, the solid, stable, practical, and balanced foundation number. In the negative, the impatient and instant gratification-seeking 4

loses steam and feels swamped or consumed with the

circumstances; “This term paper has consumed my life

for the past month. I didn’t realize how much work it

would be.” In the positive, the hardworking, enduring,

and foundation-building 4 is consumed with its work

and loving it; “I’m happiest when I’m consumed with a

new project.”

Positive: endurance, progress, foundation, practical, bal-

anced, organization, solid, stable, and loyal.

Negative: materialistic, impatient, addictive, instant grat-

ification, and self-absorbed.

Cold (7)

Meaning:
“Cold” vibrates to the 7, the deep, philosophical, teaching and learning, truth-seeker energy. In the negative, “cold” draws upon the isolated and distrustful qual-

ities of the 7, making it distant and difficult to reach;

“You’ve been so cold lately. Is there something you want

to tell me?” In the positive, the deep-thinking and

truth-seeking 7 can also create a detached scenario with

“cold”; “Whenever he’s hard at work on a writing proj-

ect, he seems detached and cold but that’s just him in

creative mode.”

Positive: wise, contemplative, achiever, truth-seeking, de-

termined, and hands-on.

Negative: stubborn, overactive, distrustful, hesitant,

skeptical, and loner.

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Conflicted (8)

Meaning:
“Conflicted” vibrates to the 8, the number of

wisdom, independence, confidence, and manifestation.

As the most active soul-plane number, 8 has a direct link

to the spiritual realm, creating a sense of wholeness and

completeness. In the negative, “conflicted” pulls out the

detached 8 energy; “I’m conflicted with this choice but

I’m the only one that can make it.” In the positive, “con-

flicted” utilizes the wise and loving qualities of the 8;

“I’m conflicted about who to team up with because I

don’t want to step on any toes, but I know I have to de-

cide what’s best for all involved.”

Positive: wise, confident, assertive, independent, mani-

festing, assured, and loving.

Negative: detached, selfish, greedy, dominating, bossy,

and attention-seeking.

Confused (6)

Meaning:
“Confused” vibrates to the 6, the number of creativity, the nurturer, and the visionary. In the negative,

when the visionary 6 loses sight of the bigger picture, it

becomes confused; “I’m not sure what the right thing is.

I’m so confused!” In the positive, the creative visionary 6

sees the bigger picture of why being confused may be

necessary in the short term; “I know you’re confused

now, but when you get older, you’ll understand why she

had to leave.”

Positive: creative visionary, certainty, balanced, nurtur-

ing, peace-making, optimistic, and forward-thinking.

Negative: pessimistic, judgmental, critical, worry-wart,

people-pleasing, doubtful, and gossipy.

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Control (7)

Meaning:
“Control vibrates to the 7, the deep, philosophical, teaching and learning, truth-seeker energy.
In the negative, the stubborn, distrustful, and skeptical 7 seeks

to control what it doesn’t understand or trust com-

pletely; “She’s such a control freak. Someone should tell

her to loosen up.” In the positive, the truth-seeking and

achieving 7 takes charge in order to shed some light on

the truth; “Don’t worry guys, I’ve got it all under con-

trol, we’ll be fine.”

Positive: wise, contemplative, achiever, truth-seeking, de-

termined, and hands-on.

Negative: stubborn, overactive, distrustful, hesitant,

skeptical, and loner.

Couldn’t (1)

Meaning:
“Couldn’t” vibrates to the number 1, with the

isolated pioneer, new beginnings, and trailblazing en-

ergy. The 1 is the only number not divisible by any other

number so it is a stand-alone energy. In the negative,

“couldn’t” is lacking the pioneering and trailblazing

qualities of the 1 and instead focuses on the self-ab-

sorbed, self-centered, and isolating energy; “I couldn’t

do it because I had no one to help me.” In the positive,

the trailblazing pioneer energy steps forward; “They

said I couldn’t do it, but I showed them.”

Positive: verbal self-expression, initiate, action, ambi-

tious, determined, and pioneering.

Negative: aggressive, egocentric, overly driven, self-ab-

sorbed, overachieving, and single-focused.

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Critical (3)

Meaning:
“Critical” vibrates to the 3, the intellectual number of imagination, memory, and inspiration. The 3 also

represents unity or coming together. In the negative,

“critical” is the epitome of the self-doubting and self-crit-

ical 3 energy; “You’re so incredibly critical, no matter

what I do. I give up!” In the positive, “critical” is soft-

ened by the inspirational and imaginative 3; “She seems

critical and negative but I’ve seen her softer side peek

through a few times.”

Positive: analytical, intelligent, humorous, social, sensi-

tive, observant, unity, and inspirational.

Negative: critical, vain, grandeur, self-doubting, self-criti-

cal, overanalyzing, and indecisive.

Criticize (3)

Meaning:
“Criticize” vibrates to the 3, the intellectual number of imagination, memory, and inspiration. The 3

also represents unity or coming together. In the nega-

tive, “criticize” gets its harshness from the self-doubting

and self-critical 3 energy; “You always criticize her for

doing the wrong thing but never praise her for the right

things.” In the positive, “criticize” is subdued by the in-

spirational and imaginative 3; “She tends to criticize me,

but I take it with a grain of salt and let it roll off my

back.”

Positive: analytical, intelligent, humorous, social, sensi-

tive, observant, unity, and inspirational.

Negative: critical, vain, grandeur, self-doubting, self-criti-

cal, overanalyzing, and indecisive.

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Damaged (8)

Meaning:
“Damaged” vibrates to the 8, the number of wisdom, independence, confidence, and manifestation. As

the most active soul-plane number, 8 has a direct link to

the spiritual realm, creating a sense of wholeness and

completeness. In the negative, the 8 energy is detached,

cold, and selfish, giving “damaged” an air of being im-

perfect or not worthy; “She’s damaged goods, not worth

my time.” The 8 in the positive is the number of wis-

dom, independence, and loving by nature. It does not

view anyone or anything as damaged or tainted, but

rather sees the deeper wisdom of what has happened

and why; “Everyone thinks my past abuse has damaged

me beyond repair, but I know who I truly am.”

Positive: wise, confident, assertive, independent, mani-

festing, assured, and loving.

Negative: detached, selfish, greedy, dominating, bossy,

and attention-seeking.

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Defeated (5)

Meaning: “Defeated” vibrates to the 5, the number of the

heart, emotions, and compassionate “freedom of ex-

pression” energy. In the negative, the uncertain, with-

drawn and moody 5 takes center stage, creating the