Threesomes: For Couples Who Want to Know More (15 page)

Being the one to walk away
makes it easier for everyone, though some couples might very well invite you to cuddle and spend the night.

Being the one to walk away makes it easier for everyone, though some couples might very well invite you to cuddle and spend the night. If you’re really tired, I don’t seem the harm in it, but there’s always the potential for an awkward morning after, even with the best of couples.

Sleeping on the couch is another option, but you never know what can happen when a man has an early morning hard-on trip to the bathroom. He may get some ideas about giving you a try solo, and even if you might be into that as well, it’s just bad form and she will notice her man has been gone for an extended period of time and investigate his whereabouts. Do you really want to risk that ugliness? Of course not, so yes, definitely leave while everyone is feeling good and happy and sleepy.

Give the couple their time alone. Chances are they’ll even screw like crazy once you’ve left, or fall asleep spooning and then wake up and screw like crazy. You got what you wanted, they got what they wanted, and who knows, and they could call on you for a repeat performance, though I wouldn’t count on that.

It’s not the most usual
of scenarios, but there is that alpha female who would love to go at it with two men she doesn’t know.

The heterosexual’s heterosexual who wants to be extra bad by dominating two men or getting two men so turned on and desperate to have her that they are willing to get naked and risk crossing swords for her.

If this is your thing, don’t wait around for two men to make it happen with you. Most men wouldn’t dare. But two men could approach you because one guy thinks you’re fine and his friend is just being the wing-man. Two men talking to you and giving you a lot of attention is fantastic, and if you’re a strong, capable woman with a big libido and an adventurous nature, you can get things going, even if it wasn’t their intention at all.

Having such a three-way takes a lot more time, and caution. It’s a great fantasy to be picked up by two men, but in real life you want to make sure that they are two men who are going to treat you right and not act like this is some gonzo gang-bang film in which they can rough you up and jizz all over your hair and face. This scenario may sound appealing too, but with that much testosterone on your hands, there’s a lot more room for things to go wrong. Men stick together, and if one says he doesn’t want to use a condom, the other won’t either.

Choose wisely. One guy may want to do this to get into your pants, while the other feels really uncomfortable but will buckle under the peer pressure of his buddy. A lot of men do not feel comfortable having sex with the same woman at once, so one could have problems keeping or even getting it up, while the other could have a hard time coming because he thinks his buddy is looking at him too much.

The best thing to do is to engage in this folly with two men who are friends with each other and whom you know. If you know them well, you know they will not do you any kind of bodily harm, and if you know them as good buddies who are open-minded and easy going when having a good time, then having your way with them both is very do-able. For the best safety, I’d recommend doing this at a party or hanging out with a large group of friends at a bar—friends bring other friends to both of these places so it’s likely that everyone at the junction will be cool and normal.

Choose two nice, fun guys that you know who are friends and have both had their time lightly engaging in flirtation with you. They could be both doing a task at a party together like playing DJ or taking turns bartending. Hang around them and be a flirty buddy. Help them out or tell them what kind of music you’d be into hearing. Talk to them both and have an open, easy body language that says you’re feeling good and up for anything. They’ll be receptive to you, especially if they don’t have their eyes on anyone particular at the party. If you hang in more bohemian, artsy, or even hippie-type circles, this can happen with greater ease and safety than if you’re hanging in a more jock or aggressive male environment.

When they see you’re hanging out for an extended period of time, they’ll start to get ideas, or at least wonder which of them you’re trying to get. If you see that eye exchange between the two of them, this is a good time to excuse yourself to get a drink for both of them or to use the bathroom and let them know not to go anywhere. Tell them, “You’re my two favorite guys—I’ll be right back.” Give them time to talk for a brief moment. They’re both into you, they’re both horny, they’re going to say, “Dude, I don’t know what’s going on here, but let’s find out.”

After some time talking to your two studs, ask them whether they want to go pick up some beer or a bottle of something and go to your place to hang out. Again, your place, your rules, you’re in control. If they exchange confused glances, get more to the point by grabbing both their hands and saying you’d love it if BOTH of them came over to hang out. They’ll say yes right away.

Before you leave for home, pull aside the one you feel more verbal with and ask whether he’s ever shared a girl with his buddy. Watch his reaction and laugh. His answer may be a stammering no, or a yes but not with him, or he may ask you bluntly whether you are serious. Smile and say you’d like to play with both of them, that you think they’re both cute and you’d like to have them both. But safely. Tell him you’ve got condoms and that you’re going to be the leader in this. And when you say stop, it stops. Then disappear to freshen up or get your coat while he tells his friend what’s on your mind.

If one starts to panic with a stupid excuse about having to get up early, don’t be surprised. Then it’s up to you to decide whether you want just the one—but that wasn’t the point of the evening, was it? Smile and say, okay another time, and go home by yourself. But chances are they will both be curious and horny enough to be game for what you have to offer.

Once you all arrive at your place, tell them to make themselves at home while you get more comfortable. Let them get situated in your living room with food, drink, music, or TV while you go into your room and change. This is not the time to get into your Victoria’s Secret stash; put on something sexy and sporty, something that you can reach into or pull off easily—a pair of booty shorts and a tank, some cute low-slung yoga pants and a tight T-shirt (no bra). Even a soft robe over your bra and panties is fine. This will clear away any questions still rolling through their heads about whether you really are ready for this.

Dim the lights and sit between them. You’ll probably be drinking or grooving to music, or even channel surfing late-night cable. You’re all friends, and you want that feeling to keep going without the vibe getting too weird and uncomfortable. Don’t wait too long either or all of you may lose your nerve.

While you’re all sitting on the couch, one of the guys could start rubbing your neck or playing with your hair. This is your cue to put your arm around the other guy or play with his hair. Set the precedence that it’s all three of you doing this, not one guy doing and one guy watching, which could happen easily if you don’t keep on top of things.

Lean against one guy while pulling the other to you to stay in close contact. Turn your head to kiss one while you bring the other one to your neck so he can kiss you there. Or you can take turns kissing one and then the other, but when you’re kissing one keep touching the other so he doesn’t get impatient.