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Authors: Lainie Speiser
Okay, so even if the man you choose is hot, clean, and sane, it doesn’t mean he won’t turn out to be a jerk. He may decide he likes you more than your girlfriend or your girlfriend more than you. And when one of you goes to the bathroom or to get a drink, he might make his intentions to be with just one of you very clear. This is rude and disrespectful.
However, if you find you like the guy, whisper, “Next time, alone,” and then later ask your girlfriend whether it’s okay that you see him on your own. But do not go along with it for that moment, even if your girlfriend doesn’t care. This is supposed to be a team sport, and no one enjoys being a benchwarmer.
While there is safety in numbers, you still want to be as safe as safe can be. So, unless you know the guy, stick to going to either your place or your girlfriend’s place, because these options offer more control of the situation and fewer bad surprises.
Unless you personally know the man, you just don’t know what or even who will be waiting at his place. Don’t be uptight, but of course don’t be an idiot either. Play it safe. You and your girlfriend should discuss everything discreetly during a trip to the bathroom together so when you make your move you have a definite plan and there’s no room to waiver from it.
Once you’ve broken the ice and there has been sufficient flirting between all three of you, all one of you needs to say is, “Wanna move this party to my place?”
He’s going to wait to see what either one of you will do, so know that right away, it’s for the two of you to initiate, because when you take control the evening will be what you both want it to be. Your new boy toy will be happy to have either of you, or even both of you, call the shots.
More men than you think are actually good guys and in this case would rather you say what you want so they don’t accidentally say or do the wrong thing and totally mess up the sexual opportunity of a lifetime.
It’s so much fun to assert your sexuality in this way, and it’s fun to do it with a girlfriend as your partner in crime. You two naughty girls are up to no good, and your man can’t wait for both of you to use him and wreak havoc all over his and each other’s bodies. In this case, it’s fun to get to it right away, so if the three of you jump in a cab, don’t be too shy to sit him in between you and start rubbing his thighs, kissing his neck, or cupping his package. There’s no reason to wait if you don’t want to.
If you’re walking down the street, start the physical connection right away. Each of you can link an arm so he feels like a real stud. Let the sexual energy of the two of you course through his veins and let him know this is really going to happen, buddy.
Once at your place or your girlfriend’s place there are a few ways you can play it. You can sit him on the couch between the two of you with some drinks and music and each take turns kissing him. You can start this by saying to your girlfriend, “Shall I see if he’s a good kisser?” When she gives you the nod, turn his face toward yours and go in for a good, long kiss, but not so long where you’ll get carried away and the two of you will go off on your zone.
One of you might say
, “Why don’t we freshen up and take a nice hot shower?”
Think of this man as a delicious dessert you and your gal pal have decided to share. So you take a few bites and then pass him her way, and while she’s kissing him you can start unbuttoning his shirt or massaging his hardening member. Do this back and forth until it’s starting to drive him or all three of you crazy for the real action to begin.
Another way you can play it is to suggest a shower. Spending a few hours at a bar or in a party drinking and smoking, you all might need a refresher, and both you and girlfriend may feel a lot more comfortable knowing the man you’ve picked up is clean enough to eat off of. Taking a shower is a good way to sensually introduce your bodies to each other before you start screwing and sucking and getting dirty and messy. One of you might say, “Why don’t we freshen up and take a nice hot shower?” Take him by the hand and lead him there, and have him undress for both of you before either one of you takes off your clothes, or better yet, you can all undress each other while the water is running.
Once inside the shower, the strong water pressure and the three of you in a semi-small space should get your blood pumping. Take turns soaping each other up and take your time to explore each other’s bodies. Press yourself against your girlfriend’s back while you and your guy wash her body. Kiss each other in the shower with the hot water falling on your faces and off your bodies and stimulate each other’s genitals while you’re rinsing off the soap. This will get all three of you stirred up, and then when you’re finished dry each other off very thoroughly.
Rub his cock with the towel and rub each other’s breasts with it, too, and then maybe taste each other’s clean tits right afterward. All three of you will want to run to the bedroom after that.
Some men want to see a little bit of a show before they begin. If you’re all listening to music, put on a show for him. The two of you can do a slow, grinding dance and kiss each other a little. If you don’t feel comfortable kissing your girlfriend on the mouth, kiss her neck and caress her instead.
You may need to break the ice between the two of you more than with him to begin, so this is the easy way to go. Look over at him and ask him whether seeing the two of you is getting him hot, which may seem like a stupid question, but asking stupid questions and stating the obvious with sex is all part of the game. You know what you’re doing, but it helps to actually hear it. “Is your cock getting hard watching us together? I think you need to pull your cock out and show us what you’ve got. Show us how excited we’re making you.” He may just jump up and join you, or he may start stroking himself and ask the two of you to come back to the couch and tend to his rock-hard cock. Either way, you can’t lose.
It’s great to play stud service with a man who wants two women to use him for everything he’s got. Remember, he is there for both of you, not just one of you. But to keep that going, you both have to be active participants continuously through the experience. And if both of you don’t feel quite so comfortable fooling around together or going into heavy petting and touching, that’s totally okay. There is still plenty to do.
While he’s sitting on the couch or laying down on the bed, one of you can start sucking his cock while the other sits on his face. I suggest facing your girlfriend while she sucks his cock to keep the three-way feeling going and to get the sexual charge of watching the action. The same goes for her watching your clit being licked and devoured by this hot man.
Take yourself out of the mindset that this is your girlfriend and totally let go and get into the moment. Before you know it, you’ll find yourself going into a 69 position, and both of you will have your mouth on his cock while he’s munching away at your pussy. Your girlfriend can work his balls while you taste her saliva all over his slick, hard dick. You can start kissing each other over his cock, letting it get a little sloppy, and allowing your respective mouth juices drip on his dick. This will drive him totally nuts.
You can take turns making out with him, or both of you can kiss his chest, stroke his cock, or play with his balls. Or you can both totally dominate him by each of you putting your tits in his face for him to play with and suckle to his heart’s content. A man with four tits in his face is a very happy man, and he will totally enjoy being nearly smothered by both of you. Have him take each of your nipples into his mouth or on his tongue and have him work you both together. This is going to turn you on enormously and loosen you both up for some heavier action between all three of you.
Keep him very busy. This way he won’t ask the two of you to do things to each other that you may not feel comfortable doing. This is your fantasy and you can act it out any way you want without feeling pressured to do things you aren’t so sure of doing. Change positions. Get off his face, take a condom, and get on his cock while your girlfriend rides his face. Again, look at each other while you’re both getting served.
Take in the sight of your girlfriend’s clit getting swollen and hard from his mouth and tongue and give her a show as you’re riding that cock. Let her see it going in and out of you, tell her how good it feels, and ask her if he’s making her wet. See if you can come together, or invite her to reach out and jerk his cock while you’re bouncing on it. She may even be curious to touch your exposed clit while this is happening.
If you’re feeling loose and daring, have him go behind you, both of you on your knees, and take his hands and squeeze them on your tits. Invite your girlfriend to get on her knees and get a closer look at how stiff and hard your nipples are. Have him pinch them and ask her to pinch her own, then have him bring her close to the two of you, and rub each other’s stiff nipples against each other.
Your girlfriend and your guy should lock into an embrace and kiss over your shoulder as you close your eyes and feel the sensuality of your bodies all pressed together; it’s so lush and amazing. Then he should slip his hard cock in you from behind, and all three of you should rock together in time, his cock slowly pumpingin and out of you while you and your girlfriend’s clits rub against each other until all three of you have one explosive orgasm.
True Story: Best Friends Angela and Diane
For Angela, a stunning 24-year-old model from Long Island, years of going to all-girl Catholic school and forming very strong, intense female relationships probably made the transition from two-way sex to three-way sex easy. She has had more than 20 experiences, is well versed in the fine art of ménage à trois, and will probably continue to have these joy rides with sex before she decides to settle down with one man. A good number of these sexy sessions have been with her best friend Diane, with whom she has been best friends since childhood.
Angela’s first experience was when she was 14 and hanging out at her boyfriend’s house with Diane. Angela had never had any kind of sexual contact with another female up to that point.
“Diane and I went to his house and after awhile I started kissing him in front of her, but then I stopped because I felt something weird was going to happen.” And it did, because Angela’s boyfriend suddenly leaned over and kissed Diane, then kissed Angela again, and then dared the girls to kiss each other, which they did.
“We told him we felt strange about it after we stopped, and he was relaxed about it and told us it was no big deal because he kissed men before and it didn’t mean he was gay or anything, they were just his friends. I thought, ‘Wow, that’s nice.’ Diane and I would have more secrets and private jokes to share.” So the three kept on going. And ever since then, Diane has not only enjoyed three-ways but has been the instigator of all of them, but again only with a girlfriend.
“With a girlfriend it’s safer. I trust my friends. Let’s be real, with any guy, even the best of them, they’ll keep going and won’t notice if something doesn’t feel right to you, but your girlfriend will notice right away, stop, and say, ‘What’s wrong? Are you okay?’ “
Angela also feels more comfortable indulging with a girlfriend because the trust issues are gone; she knows her girlfriends would never go behind her back to call her man or understand that it could very well be a one-time thing. And because Angela also understands and loves her friend, she is more caring and conscientious that her friend is having a good time, and visa versa. For a good Italian Catholic girl, these factors are important.
“I break the ice by doing something silly like playing a game, usually a drinking game. Whoever chugs has to take off an article of clothing. Or spin the bottle—I love playing spin the bottle after a night out dancing and partying. It’s a way to put the idea into everyone’s head. It’s fun, it’s playful, and the next thing you know, everyone’s down to their underwear, having a great time, laughing and hmmm … what do we do next?” Angela laughs at her own bossiness—she’s a child playing sex school, only it is she who gets to play the teacher every time.
And not only does Angela’s own assertiveness turn her on, but so does that of her girlfriends. A two-girl-one-guy ménage à trois can turn into a sexy sci-fi flick in which a man is stranded on an all-female island and sentenced to erotic servitude, or at least girlie domination.
“What men should worry about is not keeping up … it’s keeping in!” she says. Because she does this either with men she is dating or with boyfriends, she finds there is no pressure to please him as much. “When it’s with your guy, you know you can do stuff with him any time. Sometimes guys just want to sit back and watch for awhile, and that’s fine. But if you watch too long, we’ll forget about you!”
For those who are over 25 or who feel they are too sophisticated to play parlor games or act out fantasies, Angela has other handy tips. “You could all be sitting on the couch next to each other, and then you start kissing the guy, and then you kiss her, then you take his hand and put it on her. You have to try to
find a way to get the third person involved. You can push him toward her and then just jump in. At first it can be awkward, but then it does become like any other sexual experience and a flow happens.”The flow Angela talks about for her is best done with another woman. For Angela, there are far fewer things she can do with two men than with a man and a woman. She says a three-way is supposed to include constant involvement with all three people, and for her it’s hard to keep that going with two hungry boys waiting to fill and pump.
“I won’t ever try double penetration, so that leaves out that. So then what do you have? When I do this with a girl, no one is left out and three is never a crowd.”