The Natural: How to Effortlessly Attract the Women You Want (37 page)

  She asks if you always do this (picking up women in the street), if you’re single, or some other verbal IOI.

  You know that, when she’s challenged by her friends to tell them about you later, she knows enough good things about you to paint you in a positive light.

  She’s sure enough about you to contradict her friends if they say it’s a bad idea to meet. This means putting in the time to make a solid connection.

If you can check off all these items, you’re in a very solid position, and the likelihood that she will flake is low. To minimize that likelihood even further, try to make sure that your follow-up game is as solid as possible. It will help your success rate to spend some time with the next chapter, which focuses on the matter of follow-up.

There are different levels of number closing in day game as in night, and this may result in a massive variable in your success rate. Asking a girl to meet you for dinner creates much more pressure than inviting her out to a party with her friends; therefore, you’ll need to put in a lot less work if you’re just trying to get her to a party.

There’s a filter that applies like this: when she’s sitting at home with her friends and you text her, how happy is she going to be to receive that text, and what will her friends say about the upcoming date? If you’ve spent just five minutes with her, the chance that she’ll meet you one on one is slimmer than that of her going to a party with you and her friends. If you instant-dated her at your first meeting and spent an hour with her already, then the one-on-one meeting is a lot more likely. There’s no benefit to rushing the close, and the contact number you get doesn’t mean much if it isn’t solid.

If you want to see for yourself how day game is done, then you’re going to want to check out our new advanced day-game video program. It contains over ten hours of live “infield footage” where we show you actual approaches and then break them down for you step-by-step. For more information on the program go to the following URL: www.puatraining.com/daygame.

With a one-on-one student, I was training one day in Trafalgar Square, London. I was getting the student to do some approaches when a very cute girl walked past, about five yards away; I waved and she waved back. For a minute or so I debated whether to go after her or not. When she slowed down to type a text message, I took that as my sign and ran after her. I told her exactly what I was thinking—that I hadn’t been going to run after her, but then she slowed right down and I just had to. I chatted about the National Gallery, why she wasn’t at work in the daytime, and other small talk. Then I said I’d left my friend alone and should get back to him, but that we must meet up. Her name was Melissa. I took her number and tentatively set something up for two days later. The student was impressed, and I was very happy to get such a fast number close.

I called Melissa later and we arranged to get together in the evening. We met at a subway station and I took her to a local bar. Despite my growing experience, I hadn’t known that it was possible to have a date like this or to meet someone like her. She listened to what I had to say and asked penetrating questions that showed she was listening intently, really wanted to know more, and was very intelligent. That kind of tuned-in listening is something I do too when I’m really interested in someone, and it was an amazing situation. Within a couple of hours, we got to know each other at a deep level that really should have taken months. It turned out to be the best date I’ve ever had, and the most intense connection I’ve ever had with a girl. Since that day I’ve always emphasized that there are some girls who never go to clubs and who you can meet only in the daytime. If you never do day game, you’ll never have a chance to meet these gems.

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etting a number close is a great accomplishment. As we’ve seen, though, it’s no guarantee of an actual date—and certainly no guarantee that you’ll see action later. Things aren’t entirely out of your hands, however; how you conduct yourself in the follow-up will in large part determine a girl’s response.

Let’s look at some of the options you have for communicating during follow-up—and the advantages and dangers of each.

Questions about texting a girl come up time and time again when I’m training guys. I used to be the worst possible texter, with most of my numbers flaking. Now my text game is very solid; it doesn’t ever let me down.

Text game is actually pretty simple, and if you follow my rules for texting you should notice a big difference right away. If you don’t want that prized number to turn into a flake, pay attention:

  Use only one question mark per message.

  Your messages, unless scripted, should be shorter than hers.

  Use a “fire-and-forget” strategy—send the message, put the phone down, and go do something else.

  If she texts you back, take your time before responding. Don’t rush right over to the phone. Take at least as long to reply as she did.

  When you write a message, leave it as a draft for ten minutes; then go back and read it again—and make sure it’s not embarrassing!