The Natural: How to Effortlessly Attract the Women You Want
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Authors: Richard La Ruina
How to Effortlessly
Attract the Women
You Want
The Natural
Richard La Ruina
9. The Follow-Up Game: How to Keep Women Interested After a Number Close
The Invitation
London, England; Friday Night, 2:15
A.M.
Hundreds of Europe’s most beautiful women crowd the dimly lit nightclub—each dressed more provocatively than the next, each looking to let loose. Ava, a five-foot-ten Estonian fashion model I met just minutes earlier, lays her head on my shoulder.
“It feels like I’ve known you my whole life,” she confides.
I smile and give her a reassuring hug. We’ve now reached what I call the point of no return. She’s mine and I know it. Just a few short years ago, I’d never have been in a situation like this. I would have been at home with my mom, playing
Street Fighter
, eating ice-cream sandwiches on a Friday night. But now, life is different.
Very
different.
Five nights a week I go out. Five nights a week I have the opportunity to go home with a beautiful woman. What’s changed? The short answer: everything. The slightly lengthier answer: I became a pickup artist … a very, very good one. And now I’m going to make you one too.
I don’t care what you look like, how much money you make, or how old you are. If you can follow simple directions and are willing to put in a little bit of work, I can
promise you a new life. A life filled with beautiful women, incredible relationships, and of course … lots of sex.
How can I make such a promise? Simple. Just like riding a bike, driving a car, or hitting a baseball, meeting women and making them quickly fall for you is a
skill
. At first, it might seem hard … even impossible. But once you learn the proper technique and put in some practice, you can do it over and over again—effortlessly, naturally, and easily. To date, I’ve shared this skill set with hundreds of thousands of men around the world, and if I know one thing to be true it’s this: anyone can become a natural at the art of seduction. All you’ve got to do is
want it
. I’ll supply the rest.
In the pages that follow I’ll lay out for you, step by step, the methods and techniques that will give you power, choice, and control over your love life—attributes that until now you probably didn’t realize were possible.
But before I do, there’s something you need to understand. What you’re about to read is not theory or guesswork; it’s not stuff I came up with by sitting around and thinking about what women might or might not like.
There’s enough of that out there already, and it’s crap.
Instead, what you’re about to discover is all field-tested and battle-proven. It’s what I’ve
personally
discovered through my years of going out—night after night, day after day—working endlessly to figure out what works … and what doesn’t.
I’ve done the hard work
for
you. I’ve endured the thousands of rejections it took before I finally figured out what worked, and now all
you’ve
got to do is read this book and then do what I say.
The results will follow. I guarantee it.
In coaching thousands of students over the past four years, I’ve learned how to structure my teachings for maximum impact. Reflecting that experience, this book is organized in a very specific manner, the goal of which is to give you, the reader, the quickest possible route to mastery over the natural art of seduction.
Because of this, I urge you, please, do
not
skip, skim, or flip through the pages in hopes of finding a magic “pickup line.” If you do, I guarantee you will not find what you are looking for.
Instead, read this book cover to cover, taking in each section in the correct order, allowing each piece to build upon the previous.
You will begin with “From Geek to Natural.” This is my personal story of transformation from a twenty-three-year-old who had kissed only one girl, to a guy whom many now consider one of the world’s top seducers. My road to mastery was not easy. I started in a very dark place and had all the chips stacked against me. But I overcame the countless obstacles in my path and pushed forward to get what I knew deep down I really deserved in life. My hope is that in reading my story you are inspired. That you begin to
realize that
anything
is possible; that if you aspire to be incredible with women, you really can be.
In reading my story you will see the challenges I faced and how I dealt with them. This will provide you with a map to navigate the sometimes-stormy seas of personal transformation and the path to a newfound confidence and success with women. You will be equipped with a perspective that I simply did not have, and this will allow you to greatly accelerate the pace at which you improve with women. It took me years to get where I am today. For many of my students it takes just weeks, and in some cases, just days.
In the second chapter, titled “The Attraction,” you will learn what attraction really is, how it works, and most important, how to be a guy who makes women feel it. If you’re thinking that it has something to do with having fantastic facial features or a big bank account, I suspect you will be pleasantly surprised. The truth is, there are a few “triggers” that cause attraction in women. In this section, you will learn them, and the result will be responses from women that far surpass anything you’ve ever experienced before. Women will attempt to lock eyes with you when you pass them walking down the street, they’ll laugh at your jokes even when you’re not funny, and they’ll generally make the whole process of seduction
very
easy for you.
In “The Seduction” you will learn the exact steps you need to take in order to seduce a woman in a smooth, natural fashion. We’ll begin with the overarching structure of a seduction that I have developed—the “three characters of seduction” model—and then in subsequent chapters we’ll go step by step through the model, giving you all the methods and techniques you will need to make it work.
This includes how to approach a woman whom you’ve just laid eyes on; what to say to her to immediately lower her guard; how to build trust, comfort, and a deep connection; how to smoothly take things forward in a sexual way, while limiting any chance of rejection that might have existed; and how to handle the days and weeks following your first encounter so that you maintain control of the relationship, whether you want it to be a casual thing or something more serious.
We will then turn our attention to specific situations, such as meeting women during the daytime, online dating, and a whole host of situations in which you may find yourself at one point or another. With the information contained in these chapters, you can easily master the skills and become a natural at dealing comfortably and effectively with women.
A Word of Caution
When you have completed this book, you will possess a kind of raw power that at first can be intoxicating. With great power comes great responsibility. I encourage you to use your moral compass when operating from this new place of strength. Use these skills to treat women better, not worse. And when you find that special someone, offer her the love and respect she deserves.
W
herever you are right now with women, I promise you that my situation was worse. I entered this world on July 7, 1980—in one of the slummiest and most dangerous parts of London, England, where I was born to a struggling young single mother who raised me the best way that she knew how. My father, who I hear is an actor somewhere in Italy, dumped us both before I even arrived. I grew up pretty much scared shitless, shy, and geeky … a natural-born loser and outcast from the very start.
Deathly insecure, I was a total failure when it came to any and all social interactions from grade school on to well past college. It’s hard to believe now, but up until I was twenty-one, I had never even gone on a single date, much less kissed a girl. Back then, if you’d looked up the word “geek” in the dictionary, you probably would have found a picture of me.