The Natural: How to Effortlessly Attract the Women You Want (11 page)

Examples of Mr. Seducer

Ryan Phillippe as Sebastian in
Cruel Intentions

Johnny Depp as John in
Don Juan DeMarco

Brad Pitt as Joe in
Meet Joe Black

These three characters provide the general framework for what to do when you interact with a woman. It’s a map, if you will. What we’ll do in the chapters that follow is zoom down to “street level” and look at the nitty-gritty of how you actually navigate through the seduction each step of the way. We’ll learn how to master the skills of each character, and how to tie them all together in a step-by-step way, so that when you go out and meet women, success is practically guaranteed.

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t all begins with the approach—the moment you lay eyes on a woman you want and make your first steps toward her. Most guys fear the approach. They see it as a scary situation where the odds of success are low and the chances of brutal rejection are all too high. And you know what? This is completely justified for guys who have no game plan, no technique, and no strategy for smoothly and confidently getting in the door. After you’ve read the pages that follow, though, you will. And for you, the approach will no longer be a numbers game.

A cold approach is when you initiate a conversation with a girl and are unsure of the response you’ll get. She hasn’t shown prior interest in you and may not even have noticed you. A warm approach is one where you think the response will be at least somewhat positive because you’ve already made eye contact or received some sign of interest, like a smile, a wink, or a quick glance before looking away.

Obviously, if all of our approaches could be warm approaches, the results would be a lot more successful and less stressful. But there are ways of having a successful approach, no matter what.

Being Mr. Sociable and talking to people
other than
the hottest women will disarm that super-hot girl you’re really after. She’ll see you having fun with people, and by the time you get near her she’ll be a lot more open and receptive to your advances. This is easier than trying to stand out in a club by being super-cool and aloof, since many other guys are trying to do the same thing.

This approach has the added benefit of loosening you up and giving you a chance to practice your sociability skills.

Most guys deal with eye contact from a girl in one of three ways. Is one of these
your
response of choice?

  Nervously look away.

  Hold eye contact until she looks away.

  Force a smile.

These are all pretty bad, unfortunately. Even the second one, which may strike you as the “right” answer since I’ve been urging good eye contact, isn’t effective because—barring any other response on your part—the held contact will feel forced to her and she’ll look away out of pure discomfort.

It’s a conundrum, for sure. And it may be a deal-breaker if you don’t know how to handle it. If you’re wondering why a girl is looking at you, you may use the uncertainty as an excuse not to approach. Maybe she was looking at someone else; maybe you have a spot on your nose; maybe she was just daydreaming. In 90 percent of cases, she
is
looking at you and would welcome your approach, but there’s always the other 10 percent, and that’s enough to discourage most guys from approaching.

How many missed opportunities have you suffered over the years? Potential girlfriends, girls that would have loved to sleep with you, and maybe even that special “one.” I can make sure you never miss an opportunity like that ever again.

Here’s what to do: force her interest!

When you’ve made eye contact with the girl, provoke a response from her by doing something along these lines: pointing at her; waving; raising your glass; making a funny face; poking your tongue out. If you use this technique, you will be in very good company. Over the years, I’ve met many great naturals as well as professional seduction coaches who, independent of each other, have come up with this technique. They all do it slightly differently, but the idea is the same. Cardenas, one of the most alpha naturals I’ve ever met, who is the typical gym buff with big muscles, pokes his tongue out. It’s a great contrast to his tough-guy look. Rob, who is my age but had slept with seven hundred women by the time I’d slept with only seven, hides his face behind his hands and does a childish peek-a-boo. It sounds stupid, but the results speak for themselves. Steve, the best seducer I’ve ever seen, draws an imaginary pistol and shoots his intended “target” with it while smiling playfully. Personally, I do my trademark “point.” I guess it looks like something Joey from
Friends
would do. To see a video of how I force an indication of interest (IOI), go to www.puatraining.com/forceioi.

The point of all these actions is that they’re so bold that the girl is compelled to respond. The number of responses she can give is limited. She can:

  Mirror your action.

  Smile.

  Smile and look away, embarrassed.

  Look away in disgust.

  Raise an eyebrow as if to say, “What are you doing?”