Finding the Center Within: The Healing Way of Mindfulness Meditation. (41 page)

Watts, Alan, 20–21

success myth and, 115–16

Way of the Wizard, The
(Chopra), 103

“Work with Anger Thoughts” practice,

Wen-hui, 86

178

When Anger Hurts
(McKay, Rogers, and

“Work with Worries” practice, 179–80

McKay), 175, 177, 182

worry, 25, 68, 151–52, 178–80

“Where Are You?” practice, 8

“Write Your Life Chapters” practice,

wholeness vs. holiness, 242–44

231–33

Why Can’t I Get What I Want?
(Elliott

writing, 134–35, 136–37, 159, 160, 161.

and Lassen), 166, 182

See also
journaling

wisdom, inner, 73, 119, 225–28

wu-wei,
art of, 85–86, 97

wise old man/woman, 143, 225, 226

wishes, dreams as, 130–31

yoga, bhakti, 74

words, using in meditation, 66, 67, 70,

yoga, dream, 127

71, 73, 194

Young, Jeff, 164, 182

work

anger at, 174–75

Zen

compassion in, 117

Chinese, 85

environment, 94–96

Rinzai, 20–21

fragmented, 9–11

“stench of,” 242

right livelihood and, 109–10

• EEn
  
• Finding the Center Within - The Healing Way of Mindfulness Meditation
  
• Copyright Info
  
• Dedication
  
• TOC
  
• Preface - Calm in the Storm
  
• Integrating The Spiritual And The Psychological
  
• Which Spirituality? Which Psychology?
  
• Our Journeys
  
• A Retreat In Daily Life
  
• How This Book Is Organized
  
• How To Use This Book
  
• Finding The Time
  
• Language And Anonymity
  
• Part I - The Key
  
• 1 - Week One - Know Where You Are
  
• Pushing The Stone Uphill
  
• Connect Where You Are
  
• Look At Life�s Curveballs
  
• Open To Abundance
  
• Escape From The Future
  
• Become Aware Of Fragmentation
  
• Recognize Disconnection
  
• Recognize Disconnection In Time
  
• Sometimes We Need Separation: Jerry�s Story
  
• Find Your Roots
  
• Negative Emotions And Low Self-esteem
  
• Relationships: Great Expectations
  
• See Yourself As A Flower
  
• Practice For Week One
  
• 2 - Week Two - Find A Path To The Center
  
• Mindfulness
  
• Work With Three Kinds Of Experiences
  
• Killing The Buddha
  
• Accept Your True Face: John�s Story
  
• Acknowledge All Your Experience: Joe�s Story
  
• Reclaim Your Authority
  
• Release The Illusion Of Control
  
• Don�t Worry About Doing It Right
  
• See That The Island Is Beautiful
  
• Practice Radical Acceptance
  
• Discover No Self
  
• The Purpose Is To Be Fully Alive
  
• Abandon The Chase
  
• Practice For Week Two
  
• Part II - The Door
  
• 3 - Weeks Three and Four - A Gentle Approach To Meditation
  
• Befriend Your Inner Life: Kate�s Story
  
• The Meditative Attitude
  
• Meditation Is A Natural State
  
• Remember Who You Are
  
• Cow Taming
  
• Peace Is The River
  
• Coffee-break Attitude
  
• Finding The Discipline
  
• Practice Meditation As Self-love
  
• Refuse To Compare: Betty And George
  
• Make A Start
  
• Find A Comfortable Position
  
• Set The Stage
  
• Remember To Smile
  
• Use A Timer
  
• Move Mindfully During Meditation
  
• I�m Sitting: Now What?
  
• So Here�s What To Do
  
• Common Problems In Getting Started
  
• Encourage Yourself
  
• A Word About Words
  
• Use Gathas
  
• Dwell With A Word Or A Phrase
  
• Breath, Body, Thoughts, And Feelings
  
• Practice The Four Immeasurable Minds (brahma-viharas)
  
• Go From Sound To Silence
  
• Go From Motion To Stillness
  
• Inner Light Meditation
  
• Take A Break
  
• Practice Walking Meditation
  
• Take Refuge
  
• Walk The Path Of Devotion
  
• Start An Inspirational Bookshelf
  
• How Do I Know Which Approach To Follow?
  
• Enjoy Your Practice
  
• Practice For Weeks Three And Four
  
• 4 - Week Five - Bring Meditation Into Your Life
  
• Change The Channel
  
• Saturate Your Life
  
• Slow It Down A Notch
  
• Radical Medicine
  
• Learn The Art Of Wu-wei
  
• Begin And End The Day Intentionally
  
• Harry�s Dilemma
  
• Find Bells Of Mindfulness
  
• Ask: �Where Am I?� �What Am I Doing?�
  
• Allocate Attention To Centering
  
• Cultivate A Balanced Lifestyle
  
• Examine Your Environment
  
• Let Your Peace Return To You
  
• Stay In Charge Of The Task
  
• Devote A Day To Mindfulness Practice
  
• Connect With Your Tradition
  
• Not What It Seems
  
• Practice For Week Five
  
• 5 - Week Six - Look Deeply At Your Life
  
• Appreciate What Is
  
• Touch The Preciousness Of Life
  
• Practice Nonattachment
  
• Just Ease Your Grasp
  
• Follow The Eightfold Path
  
• Practice Right Action
  
• Be Aware Of What You Take In
  
• Lower Your Threshold Of Pleasure
  
• Give Up The Struggle
  
• Protect Yourself
  
• Be Free To Be Yourself
  
• Avoid Roadblocks
  
• See Everything As Alive
  
• Practice For Week Six
  
• Part III - The Path
  
• 6 - Week Seven - Work With Dreams
  
• Spiritual Bypassing: Tim�s Story
  
• Look To Your Dreams
  
• Respect Your Dreams
  
• Remember Your Dreams
  
• Understand The Alternative View
  
• Become Aware Of The Symbols
  
• Dreams And Mindfulness
  
• How To Work With Dreams
  
• Be Patient With Your Dream Work
  
• Identify The Archetypes
  
• Encounter The Characters Of Your Dreams
  
• Anima And Animus
  
• Become Acquainted With Your Shadow
  
• Contact Your Wise Old Man/wise Old Woman
  
• Work With Your Dream Characters
  
• Look Beyond The Personal
  
• Look For Circles And Squares
  
• Explore The Transformation Of Dream Characters
  
• Look At The Meaning Of Journeys
  
• Explore Water As The Boundary Of The Unconscious
  
• Find Hidden Puns
  
• Transform The Animals
  
• Schools, Tests, And Exams
  
• Trees As A Symbol
  
• Children: A Dream�s Symbol For New Beginnings
  
• Cross Rivers And Borders
  
• Recognize The Divine
  
• Value Synchronicity
  
• Know Yourself
  
• Practice For Week Seven
  
• 7 - Week Eight - Transform Negative Emotions
  
• Sadness And Worry: Barbara�s Story
  
• Learn The Lessons
  
• Recognize The Need For Self-care
  
• Calm The Feelings
  
• Look Deeply At The Root Of The Problem
  
• Look Deeply At Your Thoughts
  
• Don�t Make It Worse
  
• Barbara�s Story Continued
  
• Understand Schemas And Complexes
  
• See The World Afresh
  
• Eleven Schemas
  
• Bring Mindfulness To Your Schemas
  
• Nurture Yourself
  
• Look Deeply At Your Behavior
  
• Send Yourself A Love Letter
  
• Take Care Of Your Anger
  
• Care Now: Decide Later
  
• Identify Anger Thoughts
  
• Transform Anxiety
  
• Practice �maybe It Will Be Okay�
  
• Taking Responsibility
  
• When Do I Need More Help?
  
• Practice For Week Eight
  
• 8 - Week Nine - Cultivate Healthy Relationships
  
• Invite A Change Of Heart
  
• Open Your Heart
  
• Metta Meditation
  
• Develop True Self-love
  
• Love Yourself And Then Others
  
• Pinpoint Your Resistance
  
• Simplify, Simplify
  
• Examine Your Relationship Skills
  
• Listen Deeply
  
• Put Beliefs And Attitudes Aside
  
• Become An Active Listener
  
• Reflect Before Dispensing Advice
  
• Cultivate Loving Speech
  
• Develop Skillful Speech
  
• Sometimes You Have To Hiss
  
• Encourage Loving Action
  
• Identify What Loved Ones Truly Want
  
• Express Appreciation
  
• Learn To Let Go
  
• Open To A Different Reality
  
• Practice For Week Nine
  
• 9 - Week Ten - Meditate On Paper
  
• Create A Vessel
  
• Manage Difficulties
  
• Enjoy The Slower Pace
  
• Create The Time
  
• Examine Your Busyness
  
• Keep It Constructive
  
• Keep It Private
  
• Find The Right Time And Place
  
• Make A Quiet Space
  
• The Felt Sense
  
• Journaling To Remember
  
• Build A Memory Bridge
  
• Use Stream-of-consciousness Journaling
  
• Inner Guide Journaling
  
• Listen To Your Wise Inner Self
  
• Patiently Untie The Knots
  
• Dialogue With Significant People
  
• The Other Person Is You
  
• Hold To The Center
  
• Find Your Creativity
  
• In Essence
  
• Practice For Week Ten
  
• Part IV - Arriving Home
  
• 10 - Week Eleven and Beyond - What Kind Of Buddha Are You?
  
• A Western Buddha-Dharma
  
• Wholeness Rather Than Holiness
  
• The Prime Directive
  
• The Ten-Week Program: A Recap
  
• Practice For Week One
  
• Practice For Week Two
  
• Practice For Weeks Three And Four
  
• Practice For Week Five
  
• Practice For Week Six
  
• Practice For Week Seven
  
• Practice For Week Eight
  
• Practice For Week Nine
  
• Practice For Week Ten
  
• Sources and Readings
  
• Index