This is a Book for Parents of Gay Kids: A Question & Answer Guide to Everyday Life (29 page)

Books

Homosexuality in Islam: Critical Reflection on Gay, Lesbian, and Transgender Muslims
, by Scott Siraj al-Haqq Kugle. Oxford, U.K.: Oneworld Publications, 2010.

Examines the Koran’s writings about homosexuality, with an end goal of reconciling homosexuality and Islam
.

Unfair: Christians and the LGBT Question
, by John Shore. Seattle: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Forum, 2013.

A combination of personal essays by LGBT-identified Christians and essays by Shore about the importance of reconciling homosexuality and Christianity
.

What the Bible Really Says about Homosexuality
, by Daniel Helminiak. Estancia, NM: Alamo Square Press, 2000.

Biblical scholars analyze the Bible, especially the passages often used to condemn homosexuality, to demonstrate that homosexuality and Christianity are not as at odds as many believe
.

Films

For the Bible Tells Me So
, by Daniel Karslake. New York: First Run Features, 2007.

Documentary that follows five families of faith as their child comes out and the family must learn to reconcile homosexuality and Christianity. A study guide can be found online
.

A Jihad for Love
, written and directed by Parvez Sharma. New York: First Run Features, 2008.

Documentary that examines Islam and homosexuality, interviewing people from around the world
.

Through My Eyes
, directed by Justin Lee. Raleigh, NC: Gay Christian Network, 2009.

Documentary that features young Christians who talk about their struggles in accepting their homosexuality and reconciling with their faith
.

Trembling Before G-d
, by Sandi Simcha Dubowski. New York: New Yorker Films, 2001.

Documentary that follows lesbian and gay Orthodox Jews who struggle with accepting both their sexuality and their faith
.

LGBTQ-Friendly Places of Worship

GLBT Near Me

www.glbtnearme.org

This is a generic LGBTQ-friendly search engine for all types of businesses with a specific filter for places of worship
.

Institute for Welcoming Resources

612-821-4397

www.welcomingresources.org

Includes both a search engine for LGBTQ-friendly places of worship and online resources for issues about faith and LGBTQ issues
.

Advocates for Youth

202-419-3420

www.advocatesforyouth.org

Their services include online and print resources, policy analysis and advocacy, and outreach initiatives around the country
.

Health Initiatives for Youth

415-274-1970

www.hify.org

A multicultural organization whose mission is to improve the health and well-being of underserved young people through youth leadership, popular education, and advocacy, in pursuit of multi-level social change
.

Planned Parenthood

Health services: 800-230-7526

Information: 212-541-7800

www.plannedparenthood.org

A leading organization in advocating for and providing sex education and sexual health services
.

Websites

Go Ask Alice

goaskalice.columbia.edu

This Columbia University site offers a daily question-and-answer blog about health and sexuality
.

Scarleteen

www.scarleteen.com

A plethora of informational articles geared for teens about topics related to healthy sexuality, from anatomy to relationships to sexual politics
.

Books

S.E.X.: The All-You-Need-To-Know Progressive Sexuality Guide to Get You Through High School and College
, by Heather Corinna. Cambridge, MA: Da Capo Press, 2007.

Covers a wide spectrum of topics about sexuality, from anatomy to STIs to misogyny to deciding to live together. The writing is LGBTQ-inclusive
.

A

Activism, 198–200
,
201–2
,
211

AIDS, 121
,
129
,
131
,
136

B

Bacterial infections, 122

Behavior, changes in, 196–97

Bisexuality, 98
,
102–4

Blame, 50–51
,
52–53

Bullying, 38–40
,
188–92
,
193–95
,
211

C

Chlamydia, 122
,
123

Cisgender
, definition of, 160
,
161–62

Clothing choices, 41
,
43
,
45
,
169–72

Coming out

   after accidental

   
discovery, 26
,
29–32

   
awkward moments after, 23–26

   
bullying and, 38–40

   
creating safe environment for, 33–35

   
experiences of, 15–18
,
27–28
,
36–37

   
as ongoing process, 16
,
22–23

   
to only one parent, 82–85

   
as a parent of a gay child, 65
,
89
,
213–14

   
at school, 35
,
38–40

   
sharing information about, with others, 65–89

   
siblings and, 62

Condoms, 123–25
,
129–30

Counseling, 197

Coworkers, telling, 77–78

D

Dating, 132–33
,
137

Dental dams, 125

Depression, 192
,
196–97

Dialogue, importance of, 213

Discrimination, 104–10
,
114

F

Family

   
concept of, 111–13
,
114

   
religious beliefs of, 149–52
,
158

   
telling, 75–77

Friends

   
child’s, 132–33

   
religious beliefs of, 149–52
,
158

   
telling parents’, 71–72

Future, vision of, 90–95
,
99–101
,
111–13
,
114

G

Gay
, use of word, 19–21

Gender.
See also
Gender identity

   
assigned, 159

   
questioning, 163–68

Genderfluid
, definition of, 162

Gender identity

   
categories, 19–21
,
161–62

   
concept of, 160

   
name changes and, 172–74
,
185

   
parent’s perspective on, 165–68

   
pronouns and, 172–74
,
185

   
restrooms and, 174–76
,
185

   
sexual orientation vs., 161–62
,
185

   
toy and clothing choices and, 40–43
,
45
,
169–72

   
transitioning, 176–84

Genderqueer
, definition of, 162

Grandparents

   
religious beliefs of, 149–52
,
158

   
telling, 76–77

H

Herpes, 122
,
123

HIV, 121
,
122
,
136

Home environment, creating safe, 42–44
,
45

Hormonal treatments, 177–80
,
186

HPV (human papilloma virus), 122
,
123

I

Interests, changing, 95–98

L

Legal discrimination, 107
,
108

Lubricants, 126

M

Marriage, 112
,
147–49
,
158
,
200
,
203–4

N

Name changes, 172–74
,
185

P

Pansexuality, 102

Parasitic infections, 123

Partner, telling, 82–85

Patience, importance of, 213

PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays), 41
,
204–8
,
222

Political activism, 198–200
,
201–2
,
211

Political parties, choosing, 200
,
203–4
,
211

Prayer, 141

Pride, showing, 208–10
,
212

Promiscuity, 116–18

Pronouns, 172–74
,
185

Protozoal infections, 122

Q

Queer
, use of word, 20–21

R

Reflection, importance of, 213

Religious beliefs

   
child’s, 152–57
,
158

   
of family and friends, 149–52
,
158

   
love and, 138–44
,
158

   
marriage and, 147–49
,
158

   
parents’, 138–49
,
158

Restrooms, 174–76
,
185

S

Safe sex, 118–21
,
122–26
,
131–32

Same-sex marriage, 112
,
147–49
,
158
,
200
,
203–4

School

   
bathroom policies at, 175–76
,
185

   
bullying at, 38–40
,
188–92
,
193–95
,
211

   
coming out at, 35
,
38–40

Sex

   
casual, 116

   
safe, 118–21
,
122–26
,
131–32

   
talking about, 115–21
,
127–30
,
131–32

Sexuality

   
asking questions about, 33–35
,
42
,
50–51
,
55
,
59–60
,
64

   
cause of, 50–51
,
64

   
as “choice,” 47–49
,
64

   
gender identity and, 161–62
,
185

   
identity categories, 19–21

   
as “phase,” 51
,
54–55
,
56–58

   
of siblings, 61–63

Siblings

   
religious beliefs of, 149–52
,
158

   
sexuality of, 61–63

   
telling, 75–76

Sleepovers, 134–35
,
137