The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know (35 page)

CHAPTER TWO

1. P. Blumstein and P. Schwartz (1983), quoted in Julia R. Heiman, Ph.D., and Joseph LoPiccolo, Ph.D.,
   Becoming Orgasmic: A Sexual and Personal Growth Program for Women
   (New York: Simon & Schuster, 1992), pp. 223–25.
   

2. The G spot is named after Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg, the first modern physician to describe it.
   

3. Some sex researchers compare the G spot to the male prostate gland, since they derive from the same embryonic tissue and both are made up of glands and ducts, swell when they are stimulated, and produce secretions. While female ejaculation is rare, the release of fluid from the urethra with orgasm is a natural part of some women’s sexual response.
   

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4. Beverly Whipple, William E. Hartman, and Marilyn A. Fithian, “Orgasm,” in
   Human Sexuality: An Encyclopedia
   , ed. Vern L. Bullough and Bonnie Bullough (New York: Garland Publishing, 1994), p. 432.
   

5. William Masters and Virginia Johnson,
   Human Sexual Response
   (Boston: Little, Brown, 1966).
   

6. Beverly Whipple, Gina Ogden, and Barry R. Komisaruk, “Physiological corre-lates of imagery induced orgasms in women,”
   Archives of Sexual Behavior,
   21, no. 2 (1992): 121–133.
   

7. Having a glass of wine, a beer, or one drink a day has some health benefits and is unlikely to be harmful unless there is some history of alcohol abuse in yourself or your family. However, alcohol can impair sexual response, and we would not suggest using it routinely to get you in the mood.
   

8. Beverly Whipple, quoted in Anne Vachone, “Multiple Orgasms: Why One Orgasm is Never Enough: Cosmo’s Guide to Making Orgasms Happen and Happen and Happen,”
   Cosmopolitan,
   July 1998, p. 156.
   

9. Arnold Kegel was the physician who first recommended these exercises, in 1948, to strengthen the vaginal muscles and as a treatment for incontinence.
   

10. Carol Anderson Darling, Jay Kenneth Davidson Sr., and Donna A. Jennings, “The Female Sexual Response Revisited: Understanding the Multi-Orgasmic Experience in Women,”
    Archives of Sexual Behavior
    20, no. 6 (1991): 529.
    

11. Julia Heiman and Joseph LoPiccolo,
    Becoming Orgasmic: A Sexual and Personal Growth Program for Women,
    rev. ed. (New York: Prentice-Hall, 1988), p. 27.
    

12. Darling et al., “Female Sexual Response Revisited,” p. 529.
    

13. Quoted in Susan Bakos, “Just When You Thought You Knew All There Was to Know About Orgasm,”
    Cosmopolitan
    , August 1996, p. 148.
    

14. Alan P. Brauer and Donna J. Brauer,
    The ESO Ecstasy Program: Better, Safer Sexual Intimacy and Extended Orgasmic Response
    (New York: Warner Books, 1990), pp. 103–9.
    

15. Brauer and Brauer,
    ESO Ecstasy Program,
    p. 70.
    

16. Joy Davidson, “You Always Have Orgasms . . . Then Suddenly You Don’t,”
    

    Cosmopolitan,
    December 1996, 90.
    

17. Some
    IUD
    s release progesterone into the uterus and may have some small effect on sex drive.
    IUD
    s are available without hormonal components.
    

18. The
    IUD
    , though it does not increase the risk of sexually transmitted diseases, can cause a much more severe infection if you do contract one. An infection of the uterus and fallopian tubes (pelvic inflammatory disease) can cause scarring, which may compromise future fertility.
    

19. Linda DeVillers, as quoted in “Sexual Satisfaction Guaranteed,”
    Redbook,
    

November 1996, p. 74.

CHAPTER THREE

1.
Felice Dunas,
Passion Play
(New York: Riverhead Books), p. 53.

CHAPTER FOUR

1. See Theresa Crenshaw’s excellent book,
   The Alchemy of Love and Lust: How Our Sex Hormones Influence Our Relationships
   (New York: Simon & Schuster, 1997).
   

2. Crenshaw,
   Alchemy of Love and Lust,
   p. 96.
   

3. Crenshaw,
   Alchemy of Love and Lust,
   p. 122.
   

   

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4. Robert T. Michael, John H. Gagnon, Edward O. Laumann, and Gina Kolata,
   Sex in America
   (Boston: Little, Brown, 1994), pp. 158–65.
   

5. P. Blumstein and P. Schwartz, quoted in
   Becoming Orgasmic: A Sexual and Personal Growth Program for Women,
   by Julia R. Heiman, Ph.D., and Joseph LoPiccolo, Ph.D. (New York: Simon & Schuster, 1992), pp. 223–25.
   

CHAPTER FIVE

1. Susan Crain Bakos, “Just When You Thought You Knew All There Was to Know About Orgasm,”
   Cosmopolitan,
   August 1996, p. 148.
   

2. While it was not clear from the study whether the men were ejaculating each time, we assume they probably were. This study suggests that ejaculatory sex is still better than no sex. From a Taoist perspective, the sex would have been even healthier and more healing had they minimized ejaculation.
   British Medical Journal,
   December 20, 1997, vol. 315, no. 7123, p. 1641; “Sex and Death: Are They Related? Findings from the Caerphilly Cohort Study.” George Davey Smith; Stephen Frankel; John Yarnell.
   

3. Theresa L. Crenshaw, M.D.,
   The Alchemy of Love and Lust: How Our Sex Hormones Influence Our Relationships
   (New York: Simon & Schuster, 1997), pp. 4–5.
   

4. Daniel P. Reid,
   The Tao of Health, Sex, and Longevity: A Modern Practical Guide to the Ancient Way
   (New York: Simon & Schuster, 1989), p. 290.
   

CHAPTER SIX

1.
Theresa L. Crenshaw, M.D.,
The Alchemy of Love and Lust: How Our Sex Hormones Influence Our Relationships
(New York: Simon & Schuster, 1997), p. 95.

CHAPTER EIGHT

1. Consumer Reports
   survey, reported in Herant A. Katchadourian,
   Fundamentals of Human Sexuality,
   4th ed. (New York: Holt, Rinehart and Winston, 1985), p. 385.
   

2. For a full description of our different sexual stages and the latest hormonal research, we strongly recommend the excellent work of Theresa Crenshaw, particularly “Sexual Stages,” in
   Alchemy of Love and Lust,
   pp. 18–52.
   

3. Reported in the
   Los Angeles Times,
   June 4, 1995.
   

4. As we have said previously, testosterone is primarily responsible for active female libido, but supplemental estrogen plays an important role in augmenting sexual interest and improving orgasmic ability.
   

5. Increased desire in 90 percent of women, sensitivity in 50 percent of women, orgasm frequency in 30 percent of women, and orgasm intensity in 40 percent of women. See Maida Taylor, M.D., M.P.H., “Sex, Drugs, and Growing Old: Sexual Dysfunction in Perimenopause, Menopause, and Post-Menopause: Physiology, Psychology, and Pharmacology” (paper presented at Current Issues in Women’s Health Conference, Sacramento, CA, 1999).
   

6. Recent studies call into question the benefits of hormone replacement therapy for reducing heart disease, particularly in the first two years of therapy. Because the field of hormone replacement therapy is rapidly evolving, we suggest that you consult your physician for the most current information.
   

7. Unfortunately, oral testosterone decreases your good cholesterol (
   HDL
   ) and increases your bad cholesterol (
   LDL
   ). In addition, there are no long-term studies that show that it improves sex drive after more than three months. There is also some question about its effect on breast cancer. Topical forms of testosterone, which do not affect cholesterol
   

   

   levels, will soon become available. If you are interested in testosterone replacement therapy, please discuss the current available options with your physician.
   

8. Phytoestrogens and natural progesterones do not increase bone density and are not as effective as hormone replacement therapy in relieving menopausal symptoms.
   

9. Marion Dunn and Jan Trost, “Male Multiple Orgasms: A Descriptive Study,”
   

   Archives of Sexual Behavior
   18, no. 5 (1989): 385.
   

10. Masters and Johnson,
    Human Sexual Inadequacy,
    quoted in Jolan Chang,
    The Tao of Love and Sex: The Ancient Chinese Way of Ecstasy
    (New York: Dutton, 1977), p. 21.
    

11. Crenshaw,
    Alchemy of Love and Lust,
    p. 282.
    

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