Sex Secrets of an American Geisha (34 page)

monogamous:

having a committed relationship with only one sex partner.

mound of Venus:

the fleshy mound over the pubic bone above the clitoris, often covered in pubic hair.

obi:

wide, heavy sash worn with a kimono.

ochaya:

teahouse, where the
maiko
and geisha often entertain clients. More sake and scotch are served than tea.

okiya:

geisha house, where the geisha family (geisha, “mother,” cook, maids, and
maiko)
lives.

Older Sister:

the author’s role in this book; trains the apprentice geisha
(maiko).

onesan:

older sister in a geisha family; guides and trains a
maiko.

orgasm:

a climax reached during sexual excitement; coming. The peak of sexual excitement usually accompanied by muscle contractions and ejaculation in the male, or by muscle contractions and possible ejaculation in the female.

pelvic nerve:

connects to the bladder, uterus, urethra, female prostate, and the lower spinal cord; involved in the more rare and very emotional uterine orgasm, usually with no female ejaculation; also involved in G-spot orgasm.

prostate gland:

in the male, the gland that surrounds the neck of the bladder and the urethra, and which produces seminal fluid. In the female, the organ that is felt through the vaginal wall when pressing on the G-spot inside the vagina; also involved in producing the larger quantity of female ejaculate.

pubococcygeus muscles (PC muscles):

“love muscles,” vaginal muscles; a set of pelvic muscles in both the man and the woman that aid ejaculation and cause the contractions in an orgasm; also control the urinary steam. They run from the pubic bone to the coccyx bone (tailbone) and help to support the pelvic floor. Contraction of these muscles makes possible female ejaculation and G-spot orgasm.

pudendal nerve:

responds to stimulation around the clitoris, labia, and vaginal entrance, as well as the front portion of the PC muscles; involved in clitoral and G-spot orgasms.

quiet place:

place of contemplation to become aware of your deepest and most fundamental needs and desires in a relationship with a man.

reservoir of ejaculate liquid:

in women the urethral sponge, located near the female prostate.

seminal fluid:

the fluid from the male prostate that mixes with sperm and is ejaculated from the cock during orgasm; a somewhat similar fluid may be ejaculated by the woman after G-spot stimulation.

sense of class:

attention to the classy image you always want to convey with your combination of beauty (you plus your clothes), femininity, and sexiness.

sexual animal:

you and all animals are physical and sexual creatures; a reminder to enjoy our bodies and to enjoy sex as freely and totally as the lower animals do, without inhibition.

sex toys:

sex aid; any object used to bring about or enhance sexual arousal or orgasm. The basic sex toy is the vibrator.

shooting:

also called squirting, gushing, flooding, emitting. Explosive, volcanic release of Gräfenberg Juice; the female ejaculation.

shrine:

small bedroom area devoted to worshiping your Good Man’s cock.

Skene’s glands:

named after Dr. Alexander Skene; a small group of glands and ducts surrounding the urethra; now acknowledged as the female prostate; involved in female ejaculation.

Taoism:

(pronounced “dow-ism”) A Chinese religion and philosophy based on the teachings of Lao-tse (sixth century B.C.), that advocates simplicity and selflessness.

testicles:

balls, testes. The two male sex glands located in the scrotum.

urethra:

urethral canal; urinary tract. The canal or tube that carries urine from the bladder; also serves as the passageway for the ejection of ejaculate in both males and females. In women it runs from the bladder to the urethral opening; in men it runs from the bladder to the tip of the penis.

urethral opening:

where urine and ejaculate exit the body; in women, located between the clitoris and the vaginal opening.

urethral sponge:

See “erectile tissue.”

uterine muscles:

a section of the PC muscles that lies close to the coccyx; involved in the rare uterine orgasm.

uterine orgasm:

reached through stimulation of the pelvic nerve and depends upon deep, strong cock thrusting that jostles the cervix and indirectly stimulates the uterine muscles. This orgasm seems to have the most intense emotional component. It is much less likely to involve female ejaculation.

uterus:

womb; contains the developing fetus; involved in some orgasms.

vagina:

the soft, short passageway that leads from a woman’s vulva to her cervix.

vaginal walls:

interior portion of the vagina; secretes lubricating fluid (which makes a woman “wet”).

vulva:

a woman’s external sex organs (clitoris, clitoral hood, labia majora, labia minora).

yang:

represents the masculine (from Taoism).

yellow fever:

see “Asian fetish.”

Yellow Emperor:

a legendary Chinese ruler (approximately 2600 B.C.); he figured prominently in the medical and sexological teachings of Taoism nearly 2,000 years later.

Yellow Emperor’s female sex expert:

Su Nu, the Elemental Maid, one of the most widely quoted instructresses in Taoist sex; she is credited with authoring several sexual handbooks.

yin:

represents the feminine (from Taoism).

Younger Sister:

the reader’s role in learning the American Geisha’s secrets from the author; similar to the role of
maiko
(apprentice) in a geisha family.

zodiac:

fate and destiny as foretold and unfolded by four pillars: the year, month, day, and time you are born; a way to passively wait for life to happen, surrendering to fate without specific future plans.

Resources and Recommended Readings

Author Contact Information

Website:
www.AmericanGeishaHouse.com

E-mail:
[email protected]

Must-Haves

The following resources are particularly recommended:

BOOKS

Downer, Lesley.
Women of the Pleasure Quart
ers:
The Secret History of the Geisha
. New York: Broadway Books, 2002. A Westerner’s inside view of the geisha life.

Ladas, Alice K., Beverly Whipple, and John Perry.
The G Spot and Other Discoveries about Human Sexuality
. New York: Owl Books, 2005. Presents the science beind the female prostate and female ejaculation.

Sundahl, Deborah.
Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot.
Alameda, CA: Hunter House, 2003. Excellent book to aid you in becoming a “shooter.” See especially pages 45–46 and 93, concerning the rare uterine orgasm.

Venning, Rachel, and Claire Cavanah.
Sex Toys 101: A Playfully Uninhibited Guide
. New York: Fireside, 2003. A large-size book full of colorful illustrations of sex-toy products.

DVD

Dr. Susan Block’s
Dr. Suzy’s Squirt Salon.
Available through the website www.dr susanblock.com. Extremely frank and truly educational 2½-hour video. Absolutely the best instruction for becoming a female ejaculator.

VIBRATOR

Pocket Rocke
t, available in most sex and romance shops, as well as online at

www.babeland.com

www.adameve.com, and

www.thepleasurechest.com.

Recommended Reading

The following books were helpful to me in
writing
Sex Secrets of an American Geisha and may be useful to you as further reading:

RELATIONSHIPS, MARRIAGE, AND SEX

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Behrendt, Greg, and Liz Tuccillo. He’s Just Not That Into You. New York: Simon Spotlight Entertainment, 2004.

Bodansky, Vera, and Steve Bodansky. Extended Massive Orgasm. Alameda, CA: Hunter House, 2000.

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