Odd Girl Out (61 page)

repression.
See
anger; emotions, feelings

reputation,
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research on bullying,
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resistance

among working-class girls, girls of color,
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to daughters who are bullies,
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encouraging resilience,
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fighting back,
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and standing up for others,
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using GIRL protocol,
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See also
African American girls; interventions; Latinas; parents and guardians

respect, respectful behaviors,
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retaliation,
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Reviving Ophelia
(Pipher),
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Rich, Adrienne,
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rite-of-passage, bullying as,
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role-playing,
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Roma

as adult,
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as student,
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Rosa (student),
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rudeness,
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Ruiz, Jacqueline.
See
Jacqueline (student)

rules, knowing and enforcing,
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rumors.
See
gossip, lies, rumors

Ruth (student),
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safety concerns,
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Samantha (student),
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Sarah (student),
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Sarah Beth (student),
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school counselors,
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Schoolgirls
(Orenstein),
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schools

anti-bullying policies and programs,
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changing culture within,
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complaining to effectively,
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noninterference strategy,
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response to cyberbullying,
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response to reports of bullying,
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See also
educators, teachers

schools, switching,
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Scott, Jill,
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secrets,
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See also
covert aggression; girl bullying

self-blame

and alliance building,
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and fear of hurting others,
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and hiding bullying from adults,
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physical and psychological effects,
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as response to bullying,
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self-esteem

class, race and,
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during adolescence,
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and the ideal
vs.
anti-girl, characteristics,
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impacts of bullying on,
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middlegirls,
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rebuilding,
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and resistance to bullying,
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and sexting,
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social media and,
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and stereotypes about femininity,
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See also
anger; emotions; social media

selfishness,
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self-mutilation,
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self-reliance,
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sexting,
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sexual abuse,
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sexual identity, sexuality,
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shame,
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Shannon (student),
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Shelley (student),
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Sherry (student),
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"she's all that" (code word),
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See also
conceitedness

She's All That
(movie),
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silent treatment, silence

announcing anger/contempt using,
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and cyberbullying,
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and the female experience,
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of girls who are "all that,"
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health impacts,
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as relational aggression,
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resisting,
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and role of middlegirls,
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See also
isolation

"skank."
See
code words

"slut."
See
code words

Smith, Cassie,
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social aggression,
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social-emotional learning (SEL),
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social media

addiction to,
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anonymous messages,
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and cyberdrama,
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exploring power and identity using,
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lack of inhibitions and,
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lack of privacy and,
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limiting access and use,
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multitasking,
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and the paradox of authenticity,
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proving popularity and social status using,
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safety concerns,
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and sense of aloneness,
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sexting, sexual imagery,
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skill sets needed for,
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social media contracts,
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social skills

lack of, and bullying,
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learning, practicing,
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online, need for,
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relational aggression and,
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solitude.
See
isolation

Sorority
(movie),
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Stacy (student),
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state governments, anti-bullying policies,
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Stephanie (student),
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success, fear of,
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sugar-and-spice myth,
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suicide, suicidal thoughts,
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Survivor
(TV show),
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Susie (student),
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Sussman, Susan (mother),
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Tamika (student),
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Tammy (student),
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Tanya (student),
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Taylor (student),
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Taylor, Jill McLean,
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Taylor, Julia (counselor),
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teachers.
See
educators, teachers

teasing,
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technology.
See
social media

Teen Vogue,
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television,
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television,
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texting

communication rituals,
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evaluating tone of messages,
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frequency/amount of,
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and friendship dynamics,
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overuse of,
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by parents, as poor model,
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relationship questions raised by,
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third grade,
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third parties, bullying using,
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Thompson, Michael,
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Tiffany (student),
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Tina (student),
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TMI (too much information),
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Tolman, Deborah,
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Torie (student),
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toxic friendships,
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See also
relational aggression

Toya (student),
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Tracy (student),
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Trisha (student),
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trust

and female stereotypes,
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impact of bullying on,
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of parents and other adults,
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and "real" friends,
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