Odd Girl Out (56 page)

See also
alliance building; cliques; loss

Abby (student),
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abuse, recognizing/accepting,
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academic performance,
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acceptance, desire for,
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activities, as coping strategy for targets,
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administrators, school,
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advertising,
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African American girls,
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aggression

expressing effectively,
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female, myths about,
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as normal, accepting,
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sexting as,
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and social values,
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talking about,
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types of,
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using social media,
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See also
girl bullying

Alexis (student),
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Alisa (student),
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Alison (student),
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Alix (student),
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Alizah (student),
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alliance building

and cliques,
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and desire to "fit in,"
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ganging up,
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and middlegirls,
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physical fights,
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using social media,
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See also
popularity

Allison, Dorothy,
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alternative aggressions.
See
girl bullying

Amanda (student),
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Amber (student),
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Amber (teacher),
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American Association of University Women,
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AOL Instant Messenger (AIM),
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Amy (student),
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Andra (student),
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Andrea (mother),
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Angela (student),
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anger

allowing and expressing,
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in boys
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girls,
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expressing indirectly,
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and girl fights,
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hiding/denying,
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from parents,
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triggers,
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See also
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Anne (friend),
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Annie (student),
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anonymous messages,
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anti-bullying policies and programs,
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"anti-girl," characteristics of,
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anxiety

about friendship and social networking,
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about relationships/popularity,
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among educators,
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among parents,
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panic attacks,
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and social media,
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apologies,
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Ashley (student),
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assertiveness

class and race differences in,
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encouraging, valuing,
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hostility toward,
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and societal vulnerability,
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associates
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friends,
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Astrid (student),
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Atwood, Margaret,
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authenticity, authentic relationships,
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backbiting, backstabbing,
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Bank, Pam (administrator),
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Barbara (mother),
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battered women,
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Becca (student),
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Best Friends, Worst Enemies: Understanding the Social Lives of Children
(Thompson et al.),
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Beth (student),
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Bittel, Maggie,
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blame,
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See also
self-blame

body language,
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Bonnie (student),
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boyd, danah,
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boys

competition for,
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dominance in classrooms,
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masculinity and sexualization,
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openness of,
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perception of danger,
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physical aggression,
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relational aggression,
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research focus on,
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societal expectations for,
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break ups, "friend divorces,"
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See also
cliques, clique expulsion

Brianna (student),
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Brittney (student),
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Bronwyn (student),
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Brown, Lyn Mikel,
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bullies.
See
girl bullying

Camille (student),
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Campbell, Anne,
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Canter, Debbi (teacher),
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caregiver/nurturer role,
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Cari (student),
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Carmen (student),
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Carter, Lily (student),
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Cassie (student),
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Cat (student),
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Cat's Eye
(Atwood),
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cell phones,
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See also
social media

Cerise (student),
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Chanel (student),
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Chapin, Liane (student),
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Charlotte (student),
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Chastity (student),
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Chat,
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See also
AOL Instant Messenger

Chatroulette website,
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Cheryl (student),
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Chloe (student),
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Christina (student),
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Christine (mother),
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civility, respect,
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classroom environment,
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See also
educators, teachers

cliques, clique expulsion

and bullying,
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experience of,
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long-term effects,
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and popularity, alliance-building,
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clothing, appearance,
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code names,
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code words

among non-white girls,
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for assertive girls,
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"copying,"
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"flirt,"
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"hysterical,"
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for "ideal"
vs.
"anti-girl,"
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"I'm so fat,"
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"she's all that,"
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