Odd Girl Out (59 page)

Hoffman, Jan,
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hooks, bell,
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Hope (student),
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humiliation,
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humor, jokes,
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hypersensitivity,
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hypocrisy.
See
duplicity

"ideal" girl, characteristics,
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identity, female,
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"I'm so fat" (code word),
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indirection, indirect aggression,
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injustice, fighting,
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insecurity.
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alliance building; popularity; relational aggression

instant messaging,
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insults, public,
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See also
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interventions

anti-bullying policies and programs,
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bodily harm standard,
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changing school and friends,
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by educators, school authorities,
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protocol for,
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and speaking truth to power,
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See also
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intimacy

and anger,
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and female friendships,
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and social media,
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Iris (mother),
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isolation

as consequence of bullying,
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fear of,
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self-awareness as consequence of,
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self-imposed,
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See also
silent treatment

"it's a phase,"
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Jackie (student),
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Jacobs, Connie (mother),
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Jacobs, Kelsey.
See
Kelsey (student)

Jacqueline (student),
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Jane (student),
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Janet (adult),
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Jasmine (student),
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Jawbreaker
(movie),
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jealousy,
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Jennifer (student),
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Jenny (roommate),
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Jenny (student),
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Jessica (student),
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Jessie (student),
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Jill (student),
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Joanna (student),
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Johnston, Jessie (student),
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Johnston, Paula (mother),
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Johnston, Susie (student),
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jokes.
See
humor, jokes

Judith (student),
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Julie (student),
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Juliet (student),
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Kaminski, Kim (counselor),
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Kaplan, Chloe (student),
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Kaplan, Margaret.
See
Margaret (mother)

Karen (student),
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Kate (student),
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Kathy (student),
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Katie (student),
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Kayla (student),
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Keisha (student),
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Keller, Tasha (student),
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Kelly (student),
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Kelsey (student),
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Keltner, Dacher,
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Kendra (teacher),
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Kenya (student),
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Kim (student),
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kindergarten,
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Lacey (student),
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Lambert, Erin.
See
Erin (student)

language

inflammatory,
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for discussing bullying,
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See also
code words; insults; nonverbal communication

Latinas,
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Laura (student),
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Lauren (student),
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leadership behaviors,
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Leah (student),
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legislation,
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Leslie (student),
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Levine, Madeline,
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Lexie (student),
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Limber, Susan,
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Linda (mother),
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Lindsey (student),
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Lisa (student),
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listening,
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"Listening Guide" (Brown and Gilligan),
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Liu, Kathy (student).
See
Kathy (student)

Lori (student),
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loss, fear of

and abandonment,
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and alliance building,
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and the politics of popularity,
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and showing leadership,
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and tolerance of bullying,
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See also
alliance building; relational aggression

low-income girls, stereotypes and myths about,
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Lucia (student),
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Lynn (school counselor),
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Mackenzie (student),
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Maggie (student),
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Mallory (student),
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manipulation

as bullying,
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and female sexuality, femininity,
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by mothers of bullies,
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and popularity,
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using social media,
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manly women,
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Marcie (student),
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Margaret (mother),
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Maria (student),
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Marilyn (teacher),
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Marissa (student),
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Martin, Leah.
See
Leah (student)

Mary (mother),
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Mary (student),
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Maryann (teacher),
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masculinity,
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Maura (student),
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McCullough, Shelley,
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meals, family,
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meanness, mean girls

asking question about,
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as relational aggression,
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repressing,
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See also
girl bullying

mediators, "middlegirls,"
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Meeting at the Crossroads
(Brown and Gilligan),
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Megan (student),
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Meghan (student),
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Melanie (student),
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Melissa (student),
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Meredith (student),
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Michelle (student),
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middle-class communities,
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middlegirls,
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middle school,
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Miller, Allison,
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minority identity,
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Miranda (student),
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modesty,
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Mollie (student),
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Molly (student),
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mothers,
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See also
parents and guardians

multitasking,
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name-calling,
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See also
code words; insults

Nancy (student),
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Naomi (student),
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