8 Ways to Make Her Come Orally (4 page)

Cunnilingus is typically used as either foreplay (bringing her close to orgasm) or as the means to give her an orgasm before he has his in intercourse. The bonus: Performing cunnilingus does help you last longer and thus be a better lover. If you have a tendency toward premature ejaculation, then going down on your woman slows you down. When you make cunnilingus the focus of a
lovemaking event, you begin to see it as more than foreplay or her guaranteed orgasm. It’s also the path to orgasmic intensity for her. Try pulling back when she’s close to orgasm and kissing, caressing, and stroking her in ways that sustain arousal but don’t bring her immediately to orgasm. When you finally do take her there, her orgasm will be bigger and stronger than it usually is.

THE ROYAL TREATMENT

We all want to be treated like royalty on occasion. In this scenario, she is your queen, but not a cold, distant, bitchy one. She’s hot. In fact, her majesty is a bit kinky.

She wants to be worshiped in a carnal way. Sit her on a throne and give her the royal treatment.

Perfect the Move

Practice by creating the image in your mind’s eye. You will be performing cunnilingus on her as she is seated on a throne (or a near approximation to one), giving you an unforgettable view of her and access to angles that you never explored.

In your minds eye, imagine your girl’s vulva. See yourself putting two fingers on the sides of her clitoris (in a V shape) to make her jewels stand up and at attention. Imagine that you are tapping the tip of her clitoris with the tip of your tongue. You can even put your tongue to your wrist and gently tap.

The Royal Treatment Scenario

It’s an ordinary day, but you know no special occasion is needed for the queen to be treated well. She will likely accept the offerings of your kingdom any of the 365 days of the year.

Last-Minute Preparations

Create the throne. Pull out a chair and place some pillows on it. If you have a raised space in your home, such as a fireplace or a step to another room, place her chair on that step. A padded bar or counter stool also makes a nice throne.

Put a pillow down before her throne to give your knees a break.

Kiss and caress her. Remove her panties. Lead your lady to her throne and ask permission to worship.

The Royal Treatment Technique

• As you bring your mouth reverently to her, use two lubed fingers to form a V around the sides of her clit.

• Slide your tongue over the tip of her clitoris a few times.

• Lick the sides of her clit as you insert two fingers of the other hand into her vagina.

• Suck her clitoris as you stroke her G-spot.

• Tap the tip of her clitoris again a few times.

• Put your lips around her clitoris, and as you suck gently, move your head back and forth.

• Swirl your tongue around her clitoris, alternating fast and slow. Switch directions.

• Continue the G-spot massage until she comes.

SEX FACT

Staying consistently sexually active will help maintain the sexual response of lubrication. Other factors, such as fluid intake, stress, smoking, alcohol, and medications, all play a part in the degree to which women lubricate. In their studies, Masters and Johnson found three women over the age of sixty who lubricated in response to sexual stimulation as rapidly as women in their twenties did. They discovered it was because these women reported satisfying sex once or twice a week for their entire adult lives.

The Sexpert Says

If your lover takes a while to come, remind her that you enjoy giving her oral pleasure, that there is no rush, and that she looks, smells, and tastes wonderful. Women get performance anxiety, or orgasm anxiety, too. Be authentic, sharing the truth about this, and devote more time to “foreplay,” including the twenty-four-hour variety, kissing and caressing her even when you don’t have sex in mind.

Give her the gift of cunnilingus more often. It is often a sure path to orgasm for many women.

LIGHT HER FIRE

Light her fire—literally as well as figuratively. A man who can build a roaring fire for a woman is sexy. The fire touches something primal inside us. Imagine the cavewoman edging closer to the fire builder, her man.

Stretch her out in front of the fire you’ve just created, and build a different kind inside her with your tongue.

Perfect the Move

• No fireplace? Rent a weekend getaway cabin with a fireplace.

• Practice your fire building skills. (Hint: Start with a fire log; you can’t go wrong.)

• If you have a flannel shirt, wear it. It helps set the mood.

The Light Her Fire Scenario

It’s snowing outside (or it’s damp and chilly). You say, “It’s a perfect night for a fire” and settle her onto the sofa. You make sure she has a clear view of her man at work. Start lighting those fires.

Last-Minute Preparations

Wrap your arms around her and blow warm breath onto her body.

Pull one of those new warming gels out of your shirt pocket. Put some in your hands and rub it into her vaginal lips.

The Light Her Fire Technique

• Lie down on your belly between her legs. Kiss and caress her whole body as you remove her pants or skirt. If she’s very agile, lift her legs above her head. Lick her labia and perineum with swift, broad strokes of your tongue.

• Slap her ass lightly a few times, sending a nice vibration to the clitoris and surrounding area.

• Bring her legs back down. Gently “nibble” her labia with your lips covering your teeth.

• Flutter your tongue across her clitoris.

• Now, nibble her clitoris the same way you did her labia.

• Insert a dildo into her vagina and apply slight, slow pressure to the left and right of her cervix, a move often called The Frisbee. Massage these regions with gentle but firm pressure.