8 Ways to Make Her Come Orally (5 page)

• Continue with the massage as you suck and wisp your tongue over her clitoris.

The Sexpert Says

Some women report that stimulation to the anterior (AFE zone) and posterior fornices surrounding the cervix offers an intense orgasm and an emotional release. Other women report that the fornices can’t be stimulated without contact to the cervix, which could be painful at times and arousing at others. The fornices have been described as a ring-like structure that encircles the cervix, with the texture similar to the back of a Frisbee.

WET AND WILD

Hot tubs are sexy. The warm water, the bubbles, the minimal clothing—it’s a potent erotic combination. If you have a hot tub, or access to one, you’ve probably fooled around in it.

In this scenario, water is foreplay—take a breath. You’re going under.

Perfect the Move

• Practice holding your breath under water. The secret: Breathe slowly out your nose and do not panic. As you practice, your lungs expand their capacity to take in more air, giving you more time under water for when you go down.

The Wet and Wild Scenario

It’s a star-lit night. Champagne in one hand, your girl in the other, both of you enjoying the hot tub. Getting Wet and Wild may make “meet me in the hot tub” a regular household saying.

Last-Minute Preparations

Take a moment to connect with your lover using kissing, petting, and stroking.

Make eye contact. This will help her to feel like she is engaged with you and not giving you a show of her masturbating with the jets (unless of course that is the direction it takes).

Position her on the jets by having her hold onto the side. You will hear a moan when she finds it.

For a gradual progression, hold her labia over her clitoris and allow the jets to offer indirect stimulation. After some time, move them away and open her up so that the water hits her clitoris. (Make sure that she’s far enough away from the jet to experience the water as arousing, not painful.)

As you’re doing that, give her little sucking kisses on her neck and breasts.

Turn her around to face you, with her back to the jets.

Now take a deep breath—and dive.

The Wet and Wild Technique

• Insert your tongue and thrust in and out, in time with the water jet stroking her back.

• Come up for air. Using a silicone lube (it’s water resistant), goo up your finger, a G-spot stimulator, or a dildo, and insert it.

• Hold it in and gently push it forward toward her abdomen.

• Take a deep breath and go down again. Replace the dildo with your tongue.

• Repeat a few more times, alternating the tongue thrusting with broad licks of her labia and perineum.

• Now, lift her out of the tub and sit her on the edge. Kneel before her and bring her to orgasm using a combination of licking, sucking, and swirling the tip of your tongue around the tip of her clit.

The Sexpert Says

Women are more likely to believe a story or situation as “true” if it includes details. Without them, women wonder about the validity of your statements. Men brush over the details and get straight to the facts. This explains why men often get frustrated with women when they tell a story loaded with details. Women often get frustrated because they think their man is holding out on them.

What does this have to do with sex? Everything. She needs to hear what you want to do to her in exquisite detail. Verbal foreplay is very hot for a woman, but don’t forget the details.

SEX FACT

Kissing has physiological benefits, such as slowing down our brain waves and putting us into a more calm and relaxed state. It’s also fantastic foreplay for cunnilingus. Your lips seem to make their way naturally from her mouth to her pussy.

THE HARLEQUIN SPECIAL

Romance novels are a hearty genre. They have grown increasingly more erotic in recent years. (Yes, women like it hot.) The books reflect our new recognition that women do think about
sex
, not just love. In fact, romance and sex are entwined in female fantasies.

In this scenario, you’ll use an erotic romance as foreplay and help her bring that fantasy to life.

Perfect the Move

• Go to the bookstore and select a sexy novel that has a theme you know she finds arousing. (Check her bookshelf and draw upon memories of shared fantasies.)

• Practice reading aloud from the sections you’ve highlighted in your romance novel of choice. (Obviously, it should include a cunnilingus scene.)

• If you’re going to try a new mouth move, practice that, too. If you don’t find a book to your liking, write your own scene.

The Harlequin Special Scenario

Set the scene by adding your own paragraph for imagination. If the scene for the book is set in Tuscany, Italy, set the scene by having her close her eyes and imagine the golden rolling hills, the smell of grass, and the warmth of the sun. Begin your reading. When you get to specific details, hand her the book. Ask her to read. You act them out as she does.

Last-Minute Preparations

Have your scene bookmarked. Stroke her legs and caress her feet as you begin reading. Work your hands up her body, bypassing her vulva.

When it’s her turn to read, ask her to sit facing you with her legs spread. Stroke her thighs and listen to her voice change as she becomes aroused.

The Harlequin Special Technique

It depends on the book, but here are a couple suggestions.

• Here’s a move very popular in erotica: the lollipop lick. Slowly lick her clitoris up the shaft, to the top, swirling your tongue around the tip. Repeat, repeat.

• Another good one: darting tongue. Penetrate her vagina with your tongue, but instead of going straight in and out, dart to the sides as you thrust.

THE HARLEQUIN SPECIAL VARIATIONS