Unfriending My Ex: And Other Things I'll Never Do (22 page)

“desensitization makes us bypass”
: Aboujadoude,
Virtually You
, 107 (quoting Dr. Jeanne B. Funk).

“we escape the consequences”
: Dr. Amy Wicker, interview with the author, November 13, 2011.

“empathy deficit may not be limited”
: Gary Small and Gigi Vorgan, “Is the Internet Killing Empathy?,”
CNN.com
, February 18, 2011.
http://www.cnn.com/2011/OPINION/02/18/small.vorgan.internet.empathy/index.html?hpt=C2
.

“Gentleness, common courtesy, and the little niceties”
: Aboujaoude,
Virtually You
, 96.

“our online self is also dangerous”
: Ibid., 20.

“When people tease or bully”
: Robin M. Kowalski, “Cyber Bullying: Recognizing and Treating Victim and Aggressor,”
Psychiatric Times
, October 1, 2008.
http://www.psychiatrictimes.com/print/article/10168/1336550
.

A designer by the name of Lee Byron
:
http://www.leebyron.com/what/breakups/
.

Further, a 2011 study by a market research firm
: Chris Matyszczyk, “One-Third Have Broken Up by Facebook, Text or E-mail—Survey,”
CNET.com
, November 13, 2011,
http://news.cnet.com/8301-17852_3-57323837-71/one-third-have-broken-up-by-facebook-text-or-e-mail-survey/
; Lab42, “The Relationships Status Update,” Lab42 blog, November 4, 2011,
http://blog.lab42.com/the-relationship-status-update
.

7: Unfriending My Ex

“People consider their online sexual relationships”
: Aaron Ben-Zeév, PhD, “Is Chatting Cheating?,”
Psychology Today
, September 5, 2008.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-the-name-love/200809/is-chatting-cheating
.

Some lawyers are calling Facebook
: John Stevens, “The Facebook Divorces: Social Network Site Is Cited in “a THIRD of Splits,’ ”
Daily Mail
, December 30, 2011.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2080398/Facebook-cited-THIRD-divorces.html
.

the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers announced
: Carl Bialik, “Irreconcilable Claim: Facebook Causes 1 in 5 Divorces,”
Wall Street Journal
, March 12, 2011.
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748703597804576194563288753204.html
.

The same study found that Facebook
: David Gardner, “The Marriage Killer: One in Five American Divorces Now Involve Facebook,”
Daily Mail
, December 1, 2010.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1334482/The-marriage-killer-One-American-divorces-involve-Facebook.html
.

In her online column
: Pamela Haag, “Is Facebook the Petri Dish of Jealousy in Your Love Life?,”
Marriage 3.0
(blog),
Psychology Today,
April 12, 2012.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/marriage-30/201204/is-facebook-the-petri-dish-jealousy-in-your-love-life
.

An MTV initiative called A Thin Line
:
http://www.norc.org/NewsEventsPublications/PressReleases/Pages/mtv-associated-press-norc-center-survey-finds-that-online-bullying-has-declined-young-people-are-making-better-digital.aspx
.

Google mobile application called Latitude
:
www.google.com/latitude
.

In August 2009, an off-duty cop
: Edward Marshall, “City Officer Charged,”
Journal
(Martinsburg, WV), August 11, 2009.
http://www.journal-news.net/page/content.detail/id/523593.html
.

His story is benign compared to that
: Staff, “Father Stabbed Estranged Wife to Death After She Changed Her Facebook Status to ‘Single,’ ”
Daily Mail
, January 23, 2009.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1126872/Father-stabbed-estranged-wife-death-changed-Facebook-status-single.html
.

Just last year, a Philadelphia man
:
http://www.webpronews.com/man-stabs-wife-in-the-face-over-a-facebook-like-2013-04
.

Another woman ended up dead
: Staff, “Jealous Husband Murdered Wife and Killed Himself with Electric Drill After She Ended Marriage on Facebook,”
Daily Mail
, February 11, 2009,
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1141594/Jealous-husband-murdered-wife-killed-electric-drill-ended-marriage-Facebook.html
.

And finally, a long-distance relationship
: Milton Brafado, “3 Sad Cases of Facebook Spousal Jealousy That Lead [sic] to Murder,”
Yahoo! Voices
, March 31, 2010.
http://voices.yahoo.com/3-sad-cases-facebook-spousal-jealousy-5748394.html
.

“DSM-certified narcissists”
: Aboujaoude,
Virtually You
, 68.

Dr. Aboujaoude argues that the number
: Ibid., 69.

“an exaggerated sense of our abilities”
: Ibid., 11.

9: Baby Steps

“Reality television programs”
: Valerie Strauss, “SAT Question on Reality TV Stirs Controversy,”
Answer Sheet
(blog),
Washington Post
, March 15, 2011.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/answer-sheet/post/sat-question-on-reality-tv-stirs-controversy/2011/03/15/ABjNyCY_blog.html
.

“We don’t have a choice”
: Erik Qualman, “Social Media Revolution,” YouTube video, June 8, 2011.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=3SuNx0UrnEo
.

“I spend way too much time”
: Edna Gundersen, “Will the Rolling Stones Launch a Tour in 2012?,”
USA Today
, September 19, 2011.
http://usatoday30.usatoday.com/life/music/news/story/2011-09-19/rolling-stones/50467346/1
.

“Look at the bad decisions”
:
Huffington Post
, “Arianna Huffington, Nicholas Carr Discuss the Need to ‘Unplug and Recharge’ on
Morning Joe
,”
HuffingtonPost.com
video, June 14, 2010.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/06/14/internet-addiction-nichol_n_611321.html
.

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