The Manual: What Women Want and How to Give It to Them
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Authors: W. Anton
The Manual
What Women Want and How to Give It to Them
W. Anton
Copyright © W. Anton, 2010
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Dedicated to all the beautiful women in the world,
especially those I have made love to.
My intention with this book is to turn your world upside down, to wake you up, and to open your eyes. After you’ve read it, I sincerely believe that nothing will seem the same to you. Most of what you now
believe
you know about women will change. Everything that previously made no sense will simply fall into place. You may very well see all your past experiences, your current situation, and everything that happens from this day forward in a completely new light. Issues that once concerned you and problems that still concern others will vanish.
The ideas that I will present have the potential to improve the quality of your life significantly, beyond your wildest expectations, if you allow them to. These ideas also run the risk of upsetting you, so consider yourself warned. The book has not been written to make you feel good, but to help you become better.
Seduction is one of the most fascinating and misunderstood topics in the world, so let me start by laying a solid foundation for understanding how things really are, because I doubt you already know. If we were on the same page and you knew what I know, it is unlikely that you would be reading this. You would have much better things to do. I sure do; otherwise, it would not have taken me
years
to complete this book.
This book is written for a specific audience — namely, heterosexual males who are less romantically or sexually successful with women than they want to be. Males who want to know how to form more than just friendships with women. That is, almost all males. However, even though I believe anyone will find my ideas fresh and fascinating, regardless of sex or sexual orientation, I will still presume the reader to belong to the intended audience and that “he” understands the value and purpose of generalizations, without becoming obsessed with their obvious limitations and occasional exceptions.
I would ask you to bear with me and become familiar with my own definitions of the words
men
and
males
as well as
women
and
females
. The quickest way to describe their difference is that men and women refer to attractive males and females, but I will delve deeper into this idea in a later chapter.
All males want women. However, not all males will admit this, and very few actually act like it. Instead, most of them focus more on making money than on making love. They put more effort into
getting a promotion than getting a girl. They spend more time with males than with females and more time talking about women than to women.
They do this because they believe they need to, not because they really want to, and they have either no idea or too many bad ideas about how to get girls because no one teaches them how to seduce women properly. Despite its significance in life and the universal expectation of the male to take the initiative, courtship is something males are left to discover and learn all by themselves, and most never do. Parents teach their sons all kinds of things, but they do not teach them how to find the woman of their dreams or what to do when they see her. Boys certainly do not learn about seduction in school either, despite spending more than a decade there preparing for supposed real life. All that males have are their friends, who are just as clueless as they are, and ideas from movies, stories, and ads — ideas that are conceived by similarly uneducated and inexperienced people and sometimes carried out with ulterior motives, such as selling a certain product.
Thus, most males never really learn how to get the girls they want and just come up with foolish ideas they try repeatedly until luck lands in their favor or a female finds them. This results in a hilarious mess to watch for those of us who know how it all really works, but the mess is not as entertaining if you’re in the middle of it.
Most males make excuses about why they avoid women altogether, or they approach women but always with an excuse. The specific methods and maneuvers can vary endlessly, but they all have two things in common: They are both indirect and ineffective, and they include pretending to bump into women, asking to light their cigarettes, joining dance classes, asking for directions, dressing outrageously to get attention, asking friends
for introductions, forming strong friendships with women first, passing notes in class, offering to buy drinks, and buying a cute puppy hoping it will run up to a woman or draw her attention. It seems as if males will try anything other than walking up to women all by themselves and talking to them without hiding their intentions as if women were highly dangerous or uninterested in men.
To be indirect and to rely on contrived circumstances to meet women is the norm, so no one ever steps back and considers this process or its necessity, even though it is ineffective and odd. This pattern is overlooked because it is so prevalent, like trees in a forest.
However, this approach makes very little sense to me. Life is too short. I do not have time to talk to the attractive woman’s unattractive friends first or to learn how to dance salsa to meet more women. If I see a woman I find interesting, I walk straight up to her and tell her so, and women absolutely love it!
While few males believe they will live forever and would laugh away the accusation of holding such a belief as silly nonsense, most still act otherwise. With the decisions they make on a daily basis — and the way they reason in the heat of the moment and postpone things until tomorrow — weeks, months, years, and even decades can go by without much change in their situation with women. Slowly but surely they are wasting their lives away one day at a time. No male wants to do this, but most believe it is necessary and inevitable, and this belief governs their behavior.
The manner in which any male pursues women is based on his mindset, on all the beliefs he has garnered about what women want and how to best give it to them. While most males believe that women are attracted to things that are not natural to begin with, such as money, this is not the case. There is obviously a
natural way to attract women that does not rely on anything external, certainly not on anything manmade like money. All males are actually born with these instincts but learn to repress them while also learning to believe that women want things they actually do not want, and that is what this book is all about.
To understand males’ general behavior, such as why they spend more time pursuing money than women, one has to examine their general beliefs. Our underlying beliefs determine our behavior. Our mindset controls our manners.
The trouble is that we are not always aware of our beliefs or where they come from, and if we have believed something for a very long time, we are not likely to challenge it. This is dangerous. Blind faith in any endeavor tends to make people waste their lives on things that are not necessary and to do all kinds of foolish things, and the endeavor to seduce is no exception. If you want to become better with women, your first priority should be to make sure you are heading off in the right direction instead of following the crowd, especially considering the fact that most males are
not
particularly successful with women. You have to understand what makes most males believe women are to be pursued indirectly and where these shared beliefs come from. It is surely not from experience, since even unsuccessful males seem to believe they know what women want.
A male who wants to get better at seduction must understand what women want, what they are naturally attracted to, and how that differs from what he has been raised to believe.
Nature and Nurture
Before we delve into the details of seduction, you need to adopt a new mindset — a new collection of beliefs about how the world works — that is both more accurate and more productive than the traditional one you and everyone else hold.
All of the beliefs you have about yourself, about women, and about how to best pursue them governs your behavior; thus, your number one priority should be to address this mental foundation. All your thoughts and actions will align in the right direction when your mindset is corrected. You will no longer feel the same need for detailed instructions, although Parts II, III, and IV will offer more and more specifics, but those details will not make much sense if you do not understand the basis of thought that is required.
Knowing
how
to think instead of just knowing
what
to do will also be immensely more useful in the real world with all the uncertainties and different scenarios you will face. Knowing how to think will allow you to be more flexible and to solve your own problems.