Authors: Krystal Kuehn
Restore Your Marriage
& Fall in Love Again
A Couples Guide to 12 Relationship Building Tools and Applications
By Krystal Kuehn, MA, LPC, LLP, NCC
Cover Design by Violet James
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This book is dedicated to my husband of 30 years—the love of my life, my high school sweetheart, soul mate and best friend forever!
I thank God for the gift of our love and for the grace, guidance and strength to overcome challenges to our marriage. We have shared many times of great joy and have also suffered disappointment and loss. We have been blessed with the many tools and insights presented in this book. We have lived by the principles outlined and have grown closer, stronger and more in love as a result.
For this reason, I want to share the practical tools and timeless wisdom with others who want to strengthen their marriages and deepen their love. They are proven to work. I have found that their faithful application will not return void, but will produce wonderful results. I sincerely believe that a happy, loving, and successful marriage is something every couple can have. With a willing heart, open mind, dedication, persistence, and application, marriages can be restored and love can be renewed!
I also want to dedicate this book to my sister, Violet James. This book was inspired by her passion to help couples restore their marriages. I thank God for blessing me with the best friend and co-worker anyone could ever imagine. Since childhood we have shared dreams and a vision to help people be their best and live life to the fullest. Today we work together making those dreams come true. Violet is one of the most caring, creative, and positive people in my life. She is the motivation and encouragement behind this book; and it is because of her that it is made possible!
Never cease loving a person, and never give up hope for him, for even the prodigal son who had fallen most low, could still be saved; the bitterest enemy and also he who was your friend could again be your friend; love that has grown cold can kindle. ~ Soren Kierkegaard
Before a marriage or relationship ends, one or both partners usually claim to no longer be
“in love”. The passion, affection, and harmony that were once present are now replaced with disagreements, emotional withdrawal and physical distancing.
Relationships grow and develop as partners change and adapt to life and one another. It is an ongoing process. At the beginning of a new relationship, love is intoxicating. Differences and incompatibilities go unnoticed. This highly enjoyable stage of a relationship does not last forever. Soon after the excitement wears off, partners have an opportunity to get to know and accept each other for who they really are. It is at this point that they discover the hard work and investment that happy and successful relationships require.
All marriages will face problems and challenges, even times of questioning love for one another. Yet, most couples want their marriages to work. They want to restore what was lost and fall in love again. If they are willing to invest the time and commitment to their marriage, they can rekindle their love and acceptance of one another, learn how to resolve conflicts, become better listeners, and deepen their bond and commitment to one another. There is no perfect marriage or relationship. Marriages go through many changes that allow partners to grow closer and deeper in love as a result.
Being in love is one of the greatest experiences in the world. It is more than a good feeling that eventually fades. It is an intimate connection with another human unlike any other. It involves a life commitment that surpasses feelings and reaches deep into the soul where true love resides. This love lasts forever and is unconditional. It is not dependent upon feelings or circumstances. It is eternal and true. It is a love every marriage can experience.
If you want to fall back in love with your spouse, it begins with a decision. Are you willing to invest in the process and stay committed to your partner and marriage? Can you accept your differences and agree that you can disagree and still love and respect each other? Relationships can be restored. Love can be rekindled. Marriages can be happy and successful.
In Restore Your Marriage and Fall in Love Again
, you will discover relationship building tools to improve communication, resolve conflict, increase acceptance and understanding, demonstrate affection and gratitude, strengthen commitment, and renew hope and trust so you can restore your marriage and fall in love again!
How to benefit from this book
: The following chapters are divided into 12 relationship building sections. Each section begins with a relationship restoring tool with explanations and examples followed by an empowering
Say It and Believe It
affirmation. Next is
Put It Into Practice
application exercises so you can apply the principles to your life. Then it concludes with an insightful and reflective
Think About It
section to help provide some encouragement, inspiration and motivation along the journey. Free downloads are included and can be accessed by going to
and entering the password found in the Resources section in this book.
Restore Your Marriage & Fall in Love Again
can be used in many beneficial ways. You may want to use it as a 12-week guide with your spouse (or monthly, bi-weekly, daily). You may simply want to read through the entire book or go to sections that most interest you. There are no set rules for how it is to be used. The intention is to provide you with relationship building tools to help improve your marriage and your life. Actually, you will most likely find that much of what you learn will apply to many of your relationships. And that is the goal of this book and my sincere desire.
Restore Your Marriage and Fall in Love Again
is intended for personal growth and development only. It is not intended to take the place of professional counseling, consulting or treatment. Participants are advised to consult their own health care professional regarding the treatment of medical and mental health issues. Neither the author or publisher take any responsibility for any possible consequences from any treatment, action or application of information applied in this eBook
(Optional but recommended)
If you and your spouse are serious about restoring your marriage and falling in love again, and are ready to commit to work on your relationship, then:
Read the following commitment statement aloud with your partner:
I (your name) am making a commitment today (month/day/year) to Restore Our Marriage and Fall in Love Again.
I will devote time each week to read through the given chapter with you and do my best to apply the exercises in this program to renew and improve our marriage!
If just one person in the marriage is willing to work on the relationship, read the following commitment statement aloud:
I (your name) am making a commitment today (month/day/year) to Restore My Marriage and Fall in Love Again with (name of spouse). Although my spouse is not joining me in this effort, I choose to do my part and my best to make positive changes in our relationship. I will devote time each week to read through the given chapters and apply the exercises in this program to renew and improve my marriage!
When people first get married they usually expect their love and commitment to last for a lifetime. Unfortunately, for at least half of all couples it doesn't. What happens? Soon after marriage, couples discover that the bliss of falling in love quickly fades. They no longer see each other through rose colored glasses. The ease with which they once overlooked each other's faults becomes much more difficult.