Prime Time (58 page)

  
1
Vaillant,
Aging Well,
p. 96.

  
2
Suzanne Braun Levine,
Inventing the Rest of Our Lives: Women in Second Adulthood
(New York: Plume, 2006), p. 59.

  
3
Ibid.

  
4
Joan Halifax,
Being with Dying.

  
5
William Bridges,
Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes
(Cambridge: Da Capo, 2004), p. 146.

  
6
Marion Woodman,
Leaving My Father’s House,
p. 194.

  
7
William Bridges,
The Way of Transition
(Cambridge: Perseus, 2001), p. 196.

  
8
Gail Sheehy,
Sex and the Seasoned Woman
(Random House).

CHAPTER 5:
Eleven Ingredients for Successful Aging

  
1
Vaillant,
Aging Well,
p. 213.

  
2
Tom Kirkwood,
The End of Age,
p. 63.

  
3
Vaillant,
Aging Well,
p. 207.

  
4
Quoted in ibid., p. 206.

  
5
Ibid., p. 48.

CHAPTER 6:
The Workout

  
1
Walter Bortz,
Dare to Be 100,
p. 47.

  
2
Ibid.

  
3
Jane Brody, “Mental Reserves Keep Brain Agile,”
The New York Times,
December 11, 2007.

  
4
Ibid.

  
5
Archives of Internal Medicine,
http://archinte.ama-assn.org/
.

  
6
Michael Hewitt,
Growing Older, Staying Strong: Preventing Sarcopenia Through Strength Training
(New York: International Longevity Center, September–October 2003), p. 4.

  
7
Scott McCredie,
Balance: In Search of the Lost Senses
(New York: Little, Brown, 2007), p. 189.

  
8
Quoted in McCredie,
Balance,
p. 214.

  
9
Joan Halifax, interview with the author.

10
John W. Rowe and Robert L. Kahn,
Successful Aging
(New York: Dell, 1998), p. 98.

CHAPTER 7:
Now More than Ever, You Are What You Eat

  
1
Nutrition Action Healthletter,
July–August 2008.

  
2
Jane Brody, “Even Benefits Don’t Tempt Us to Vegetables,”
The New York Times,
October 5, 2010.

  
3
For more on yogurt with active and live cultures, I recommend the book
Gut Insights,
by Jo Ann Hattner.

CHAPTER 8:
You and Your Brain: Use It or Lose It

  
1
From a talk I attended at the Age Boom Academy, held at the International Longevity Center in New York on September 24, 2007.

  
2
Cynthia Gorney,
The New York Times Magazine,
April 18, 2010.

CHAPTER 9:
Positivity: The Good News Is You’re Getting Older!

  
1
Published online in the
Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences,
May 2010.

  
2
Vaillant,
Aging Well,
p. 206.

  
3
Carstensen,
A Long Bright Future,
p. 16.

CHAPTER 10:
Actually Doing a Life Review

  
1
Real,
The New Rules of Marriage,
p. 71.

  
2
Levine,
A Year to Live,
p. 88.

  
3
Zalman Schachter-Shalomi and Ronald S. Miller,
From Age-ing to Sage-ing: A Profound New Vision of Growing Older
(New York: Grand Central, 1997), p. 98.

CHAPTER 11:
The Importance of Friendship

  
1
Ursula Le Guin,
Dancing,
p. 151.

  
2
Jean Baker Miller,
Toward a New Psychology of Women,
2nd ed. (Boston: Beacon), p. xxi.

  
3
Gene Cohen,
The Mature Mind: The Positive Power of the Aging Brain,
p. 28.

  
4
The Diane Rehm Show,
NPR, August 26, 2008.

  
5
Shirley MacLaine,
Sage-ing While Age-ing
(New York: Atria Books, 2007), p. 239.

CHAPTER 12:
Love in the Third Act

  
1
David Schnarch,
Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships
(New York: Owl Books, 1997), p. 56.

  
2
Real,
The New Rules of Marriage,
p. 257.

  
3
Jane Loevinger,
The Meaning and Measure of Ego Development
(San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 1976).

  
4
Betty Friedan,
The Fountain of Age
(New York: Simon & Schuster, 1993), p. 286.

  
5
David Gutmann,
Reclaimed Powers: Toward a New Psychology of Men and Women in Later Life
(New York: Basic Books, 1987), p. 153.

  
6
Time,
October 12, 2007.

  
7
Tara Parker-Pope,
The New York Times,
June 10, 2008, p. D1.

  
8
Paraphrased from Real,
The New Rules of Marriage,
p. 76.

  
9
Real,
The New Rules of Marriage,
p. 254.

10
Ibid., p. 255.

11
The New York Times Magazine,
April 18, 2010.

12
Suzanne Braun Levine,
Inventing the Rest of Our Lives,
p. 132.

13
Ibid., p. 131.

14
For more information on Women for Women International, go to
womenforwomen.org
.

15
Vaillant,
Aging Well,
p. 305.

CHAPTER 13:
The Changing Landscape of Sex When You’re Over the Hill

  
1
Friedan,
Fountain of Age,
pp. 262–63.

  
2
Ibid., p. 286.

  
3
Schnarch,
Passionate Marriage,
p. 79.

  
4
Ibid., p. 76.

  
5
Ibid., p. 99.

  
6
Ibid., p. 134.

  
7
Ibid., p. 85.

  
8
Marty Klein,
Let Me Count the Ways: Discovering Great Sex Without Intercourse.

  
9
Gail Sheehy,
New Passages,
p. 311.

10
Gail Sheehy,
Passages,
pp. 454–55.

11
Louann Brizendine,
The Female Brain
(New York: Morgan Road Books, 2006), p. 177.

12
“Stimulation of the Libido: The Use of Erotica in Sex Therapy,”
Psychiatric Annals,
vol. 29, no. 1 (January 1999), p. 60.

CHAPTER 14:
The Lowdown on Getting It Up in the Third Act

  
1
Jane Brody, “A Dip in the Sex Drive, Tied to Menopause,”
The New York Times,
March 31, 2009.

  
2
E. O. Laumann, A. Nicolosi, D. B. Glasser, A. Paik, C. Gingell, E. Moreira, and T. Wang, “Sexual Problems Among Women and Men Aged 40–80 Y: Prevalence and Correlates Identified in the Global Study of Sexual Attitudes and Behaviors,”
International Journal of Impotence Research,
vol. 17 (2005), pp. 39–57.

  
3
Rowe and Kahn,
Successful Aging,
pp. 80–81.

  
4
Ibid., p. 82.

  
5
Marianne J. Legato,
Eve’s Rib: The New Science of Gender-Specific Medicine and How It Can Save Your Life
(New York: Harmony Books), p. 204.

  
6
Susan Rako, “Testosterone Deficiency and Supplementation for Women: Matters of Sexuality and Health,”
Psychiatric Annals,
vol. 29, no. 1 (January 1999), p. 23.

  
7
Legato,
Eve’s Rib,
p. 213.

CHAPTER 15:
Meeting New People When You’re Looking for Love

  
1
Pepper Schwartz,
Prime: Adventures and Advice on Sex, Love, and the Sensual Years
(New York: HarperCollins, 2007), p. 68.

  
2
Ibid., p. 70.

CHAPTER 16:
Generativity: Leaving Footprints

  
1
Vaillant,
Aging Well,
p. 4.

  
2
Vaillant,
Aging Well.

  
3
Schachter-Shalomi and Miller,
From Age-ing to Sage-ing,
p. 16.

  
4
Vaillant,
Aging Well,
pp. 48, 113.

  
5
Schachter-Shalomi and Miller,
From Age-ing to Sage-ing,
p. 57.

CHAPTER 17:
Ripening the Time: A Challenge for Women

  
1
Gutmann,
Reclaimed Powers.

CHAPTER 18:
Don’t Put Off Preparing for the Inevitable: One of These Days Is Right Now

  
1
Carstensen,
A Long Bright Future,
p. 230.

  
2
Bernice Bratter and Helen Dennis,
Project Renewment
(New York: Scribner, 2008), p. 23.

  
3
Terry Savage,
The New Savage Number: How Much Money Do You Really Need to Retire?
(Hoboken, N.J.: Wiley, 2009).

  
4
Terry Savage,
The Savage Number
(Hoboken, N.J.: Wiley, 2005), p. 48.

  
5
Ibid., p. 84.

  
6
Study cited in Alan Walker, “Care for Elderly People: A Conflict Between Women and the State,” in
A Labour of Love: Women, Work and Caring,
edited by Janet Finch and Dulcie Groves (London: Routledge & Kegan Paul, 1983), p. 123.

CHAPTER 19:
Let’s Hear It for Revolution!

  
1
Florian Kohlbacher and Cornelius Herstatt, eds.,
The Silver Market Phenomenon: Business Opportunities in an Era of Demographic Change
(Heidelberg, Germany: Springer, 2008).

  
2
Maxine Frith, “The Woofs: A Graying Generation with Golden Spending Power,”
Independent,
September 25, 2003.