How To Set Up An FLR (12 page)

You can use just about anything to tie up your partner's private parts. I recommend using a round boot-lace. You can get them in pretty long lengths so you have plenty with which to work. If you prefer, you can use any type of string or twine as long as it is not too thin. Kite string, for example, would be way to thin and might cut into his skin. Try something in the range of one-sixteenth of an inch to one-quarter of an inch. Anything in this range should work well.

You can bind his penis in just about any way you like. Be creative. You can tie it when it is hard, or when it is soft. Tying string around his penis when it is soft can be fun if you arouse him afterword. When his penis attempts to get hard, of course, it won't be able to. You can bind his balls just about any way you like as well. Just be careful not to leave them tied very long if you tied them tightly. Sometimes, loose is better. You can wrap a boot-lace around his scrotum enough to stretch the skin very tightly over his balls. If you don't wrap it too tightly, you can leave the binding in place for several hours.

Take a quarter-inch piece of nylon rope and tie one end snugly around his scrotum, then tie the other end to something else... A door knob, the foot of the bed, this ankle, or even his neck if you run it between the cheeks of bottom first. No, I don't recommend slamming the door if you use the door knob, but the idea is to make him try to keep the slack. If you use one of his ankles, you can make him hop around the room trying to keep his bound ankle up high enough to keep from causing himself pain. You could easily do the same to his penis as long as you don't tie it so tightly that it cuts off the blood flow. Again, be creative.

Stretching the Bag:

Often (inaccurately) called “ball stretching” this is one of the more common forms of CBT. The goal is to see how much pain or stretching your partner can withstand. You can use several wraps of twine or rope to accomplish this, or you can purchase what is called a “Ball Parachute.”

A parachute can be obtained from any of a number of sex shops and certainly any online shop. It consists of a conical shaped leather piece that usually snaps in place so that it just covers the balls. It has a number of chains attached that are usually fastened together or to a ring at the bottom, underneath the balls. You can attach weights to the chains (or ring) and that will provide the stretch you need. I would not try attaching one of your workout weights to it though. Go to your local department store and purchase some fishing weights. They come in various sizes and you can add them, as desired, to the chain. If you have any of those little hooks you use to hang Christmas ornaments on your tree, they work great as a way to add weights to his parachute.

Clips & Clamps:

Of course, probably the single most common form of CBT is the clothespin. Clothespins can be used on the scrotum, or the penis just about anywhere you can grab enough skin. Put a few in place before your partner gets hard and have fun watching what happens when you arouse him. You might want to purchase a cheap set of clothespins, because they usually have weaker springs. If you can keep it on your little finger for several minutes without too much pain, they should work just fine.

You can also purchase several varieties of clips from your favorite sex shop as well. If you don't find CBT clips, try looking under 'Nipple Clips' for them. There are many kinds of nipple clips and clamps available and all you need do is select the one that appeals to you. The fingertip test is the best method I have found for testing clips. Clamps are different in that you can tighten them down or loosen them up when needed. There are a few penis clamps that have recently appeared on the market. These are specially made for the penis and will work very well.

The key safety precaution about clips and clamps is not to leave them in place too long. Also, it's good to remember that they cause just as much (if not more) pain when you remove them as they do when you first apply them. Sort of a double whammy!

Electric Play:

There are a large number of electroshock devices on the market designed to send small electrical currents through the body. If you purchase one from a sex shop you are likely to pay a premium price, but it may be worth it. Although there are many manufacturers out there, the ones specifically designed for sexual enhancement are safe for this kind of thing. There are some (not carried by sex shops) that can actually be quite painful and may even due damage if not used properly. It's best to pay the price and get one that is specifically designed for use in sexual activities.

There are a number of places to put the electrodes in order to achieve different goals. I like to put them in position so that with each pulse, my partner's penis will jerk as it does when he has an orgasm. Even though nothing is produced (in the way of ejaculate) he feels as if he is ejaculating the entire time. I control the speed at which his 'spasms' occur and that's a nice feeling. You will have to experiment with the placement of the electrodes to get whatever effect you desire. For the above trick, I place one on his perineum (between his thighs behind his balls) and the other on the under side of his penis near the tip.

Regardless of what you might have heard or read elsewhere, there is little to no risk of causing your partner to have a heart attack because you placed the electrodes in the wrong place. Much higher currents and voltages have been used for years in the torture of prisoners of war with out a single death due to electrocution. That doesn't mean you can strip the end off an extension cord and then plug it into the wall socket! That could be deadly! But using the electroshock devices sold at major sex toy outlets don't provide that kind of power.

Other CBT Methods:

Of course, the are some CBT methods that don't require much in the way of expense. For example, try putting a small bag of ice cubes (or even a single cube) on his penis or balls. Don't leave it there for too long as ice can cause frost bite and will become painful after only a few seconds.

Rubber bands make great CBT devices as well. Place one fairly loosely around his penis and then snap him with it. Or just stretch it between your forefinger and thumb and, using your other hand, snap his scrotum or penis (or anything else you want to snap) with it. Nipples make excellent targets, too.

You can use a toothpick, or even a straight pin, to prick his skin. Of course, that is good anywhere on the his body. You can purchase a 'pinwheel' at your favorite sex toy store as well. It is actually a medical instrument used to test a patient's reflexes, or ability to feel certain things. But it makes a great stimulator.

There are all sorts of contraptions on the market designed specifically for CBT. If you have the money and the desire to use them, go ahead and try them out.

Basically, anything you can think of that might be fun for tormenting or torturing your partners privates is okay as long you use good judgment. Remember, the object is to have fun (both of you) and not to do any damage to something you might want to use later on.

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Chapter 14
: Milking & Other Anal Fun

You may have read about male milking on the Internet or heard about it from a friend. Male milking is simply draining all of a man's seminal fluid in one of a number of different methods. Why would you want to do such a thing? Because you are in control of all of his sexual activity and that includes his seminal emissions. When a man is sufficiently stimulated, physically, he will ejaculate. Even some paraplegics can be masturbated even though they may have no feeling in their genitals. It is a physical response to a physical stimulus.

Milking your partner of all his semen can be sexually stimulating for the both of you. There are several ways in which you can accomplish this. The first is to masturbate him (or have him do it himself) until he has ejaculated as many times as he can. These would be normal (or full) ejaculations (orgasms) and it will take a great deal of time. Sometimes it can take hours, but normally you can do it in less than an hour. If he has at least three orgasms this way, you can be relatively sure that you have completely drained all the semen he has.

The second method is called “
ruined orgasm
” milking. A ruined orgasm is one that occurs when a man has been stimulated to the point of ejaculating but in which the stimulation is stopped a few seconds before he could have a full orgasm. That is, because he has been stimulated passed the “point of no return” his semen will be ejaculated, but because the stimulation stopped just prior to the beginning of his ejaculation cycle, there is no force behind it. His ejaculate simply oozes out of his penis with very little force at all. Ruined orgasms can be difficult to achieve for the novice Mistress. Predicting the exact right moment to stop the stimulation is difficult to predict and is different for each individual. But with a little practice, it can be mastered. If you intend to ruin your partner's orgasms, I suggest lots of practice.

The third method is what I call the “
stifled orgasm
” method. A stifled orgasm is one in which the ejaculate is forcefully prohibited form exiting the penis until all efforts (spasms within the male reproductive system) have ceased. Put simply, his ejaculate (semen) is forced to remain inside his body until his body stops pushing it out. The end result should be about the same as a ruined orgasm would be. Some semen will seep (or ooze) out of the penis once the blockage is removed. The “blockage” can be anything from a tight grip around the base of the penis with a thumb and forefinger, a palm or a thumb over the tip of the penis, or even a tight grip on the sides of the head of the penis. I have even heard of people using a foam-style earplug being placed inside the end of the urethra (the hole at the tip of the penis) to block the exit of any ejaculate. It works, but I have not personally tried it.

Finally, we come to the fourth method of milking a man's semen. This is called “
prostate milking
” and is an entirely different kind of milking. Just a few centimeters from the rectum, inside his anus, is a gland used to provide a nourishing fluid to the sperm just before it is ejaculated. This gland is called the prostate gland. By massaging the prostate one can cause a man to expel his semen without even so much as an erection. Doctors do it quite often when examining the health of the prostate or for checking for certain social diseases.

There has been a great deal of discussion about the value and purpose of prostate milking. I have not been able to find one definitive study on the subject of prostate milking for health reasons. (The key word there being “definitive.”) There seems to be two basic camps when it comes to prostate milking. One camp says that if a guy is not allowed to ejaculate for an extended period he should have his prostate milked (for health reasons). On the other hand, I have found no proof that any damage is caused from prolonged abstinence. In other words, do it if you think you need to, don't if you don't want to. I know for a fact that many men (past and present) practice abstinence with no side effects what so ever. So I don't feel it is a serious problem.

Having gotten that out of the way, let me talk about 'blue-balls' for a second. I'll bet you didn't know that blue-balls is actually a short term malady that effects men when they first start tease and denial. Yep. When you stimulate the male penis into arousal and don't allow it release, his semen will build up in his system as his body prepares itself over and over again for release that never comes (pun intended). But after awhile, his body gets used to not being able to release all that excess semen and it quits making so much. It takes from one to two weeks for this to happen, but once it does, his blue-balls will go away.

So what can prostate milking do for you (or him)? Simply put, it can relieve his body of excess semen so that it will once again begin to think it needs to replenish the supply. In other words, he can get blue-balls again! Blue-balls are not as bad as people might like to think. They are an aching in the groin (and possibly the balls) that makes his balls more sensitive to the touch (or the punch, as might be the case).

So what does all this mean to you? Nothing really, but if you want to practice prostate milking for any number of reasons, including, but not limited to, humiliation, be my guest. The problem I most often hear from women who try is trouble getting anything out. First of all, don't stick your finger in as far as you can get it (unless you have pretty short fingers). When you can feel the sphincter tighten around your second knuckle, you are probably in far enough. The prostate is a small gland about the size of a walnut (or it should). If you massage it around the edges, it will produce a fluid (semen). There may or may not be any sperm or other fluids in the semen produced. It all depends on how aroused he was before the milking began. If the liquid you get is clear, it just the semen from his prostate. If it has a milky color, then there are other liquids (or sperm) present.

It may take you many tries before you get the hang of it, and don't expect to get copious amounts of ejaculate every time, especially when you are just starting out. I read a Doctor's note about that once and in it he stated that five or six drops (of fluid) is about all you can expect to get.

At the very least, you should be able to stimulate the production of seminal fluid (the clear stuff). Its main purpose is to neutralize the acid from any urine that might still be in his system, provide nutrients for sperm, and lubrication for entry into the vagina. It has very little taste but is about the slipperiest liquid I know of. However, it drys very quickly when spread over the skin. But the longer you massage his prostate, the more of this you should be able to produce.