How to Host a Dinner Party
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Authors: Corey Mintz
HOW TO HOST
A DINNER PARTY
COREY MINTZ
Illustrations by Steve Murray
Copyright © 2013 Corey Mintz
Illustrations copyright © 2013 Steve Murray
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Library and Archives Canada Cataloguing in Publication
Mintz, Corey, 1975-
How to host a dinner party / Corey Mintz ; Steve Murray,
illustrator.
Electronic monograph in HTML format.
Issued also in print format.
ISBN 978-1-77089-230-9
1. Entertaining. 2. Dinners and dining. I. Title.
BJ2038.M56 2013 395.3 C2012-906740-7
Library of Congress Control Number: 2012950668
Cover design: Steve Murray
Text design: Alysia Shewchuk
We acknowledge for their financial support of our publishing program
the Canada Council for the Arts, the Ontario Arts Council, and the Government of Canada through the Canada Book Fund.
For my father, the astronaut,
and my mother, the senator.
CONTENTS
The Table
The Date and the Guest List
The Invitations
Recipe: Ceviche
The Menu
The Plan
Recipe: Ptitim and Cheese
The Shopping
The Prep
The Cleaning and the Setting
Recipe: Braising
Recipe: Chips and Guac
The Door
The First Drink
The Introductions
Recipe: Punch
The Meddlers
The Snack
The Seating and the Seats
Recipe: Tomatoes
Getting Started
The Presentation
The Service
The Water
The Drinking
The Drunk
Recipe: Pork Shoulder
The Feedback and the Perfection
The Portioning
The Dessert
Recipe: Reese’s Rice Pudding
The End
Kisses, Hugs, and Handshakes
The Cleanup
Recipe: Beans and Grains
The Thank You
The Reciprocation
Recipe: Cornbread
by Sarah Polley
I
once had a driving instructor who taught in a way that made every lesson a life lesson. He had a knack for turning the specifics of driving into universal wisdom. One day, as we were driving on a busy Toronto street, I heard a car horn honk and yelped, “What did I do?”
“That honk wasn’t for you,” he said softly. “You are at a point where you worry too much about what other drivers think about you. You may reach a point where you don’t worry enough. Try to find a balance.”
For me, the only thing that has replicated the experience of learning so much about life from studying a specific skill is the reading of this book. It teaches you how to create a beautiful experience for the people you care about in the context of a dinner party. But since reading it I find myself applying many of the lessons in this book to my relationships and life in general. Be prepared. Be thoughtful. Listen. Watch for clues on how people are feeling and do what you can to make them feel comfortable, taken care of, and well fed!
I first knew Corey Mintz as a teenager, when his idea of cooking came from the back page of our copy of the
New Basics Cookbook
. The spine of the book was unbroken. On the very last page, in coloured marker, was written “Call Garlic Pepper on Yonge Street. Get them to bring food.” It was our only recipe and we used it every night that we didn’t eat Alphagetti. Corey and I lived with each other as delinquent teenagers. When I was fifteen I had major spinal surgery and Corey found himself caring for a child while he was still a child himself. He took care of me. Better care than a nurse or relative could have. He learned to cook. I remember lying in bed and hearing the clattering of utensils as he struggled his way through recipes, and the beautiful smells coming from the kitchen as he proudly completed a meal. Corey was and is an eccentric, sometimes brittle person who is capable of great tenderness. Through learning to cook, he developed an eloquent, uncomplicated way of showing love without irony.
Corey now hosts dinner parties for a living. For years he has had a weekly column called FED in the
Toronto Star
, centered around a dinner party he hosts for an interesting, eclectic group of people. I usually read with envy at his lucky guests who sometimes walk in without knowing what a treat they are in for. I’ve heard at least two FED guests say later that it was the best night of their year.
Recently Corey invited me over for dinner because it had been awhile and, as he said, “I’ve learned a lot about hosting since the last time you were here.” He wasn’t lying. Every dinner party experience I’ve had in the last ten years at Corey’s has been incredible. But practice really does make perfect and I can now honestly say there is nowhere I’d rather be in the world than at his table. The food is always stunning, but that’s not what I remember or what is important. What stays with me is the atmosphere he creates, the table and the people around it, and the feeling of being seamlessly taken care and thought of without ever feeling it happen. Somehow joy always arrives at his table, without him seeming to do anything specific to invite it.
It’s possible to leave these gatherings intimidated. There is such a frightening organization and charm to the host that it makes you wonder if you should ever bother to attempt to replicate it at your own home. Even though the night is seemingly perfect, Corey himself always seems to be having a good time. He always seems relaxed, engaged and the night appears effortless for him. I can’t begin to express the relief I felt in reading this book and realizing there was a method to his success. What I love most about this book is the way it illustrates that your experience and your guests’ experiences are intertwined. This is a guide to creating the maximum joy for your guests with minimum stress to yourself. Since you set the tone for the evening, it is paramount that you feel good about it. After reading the book I found it was possible to go back over the dinner parties I’d attended or hosted in my mind to figure out what went wrong, what could have been done differently, and how to avoid those pitfalls in the future. Moreover, it made me feel excited to host more dinner parties of my own.