How to Be Sick (24 page)
Authors: Toni Bernhard,Sylvia Boorstein
Nakagawa, Soen
Neem Karoli Baba
Nyoshul Khenpo Rinpoche
Old Path White Clouds
(Hanh)
(Hanh)
Only Dance There Is, The
(Ram Dass)
(Ram Dass)
Opening heart to suffering
Opera
Orr, Mary
Palin, Sarah
Past, regrets about
Paticca-samuppada
(“wheel of suffering” )
(“wheel of suffering” )
Patient endurance (
khanti
)
khanti
)
Poetry of Zen Buddhism
Practices
accepting things as they are
acting on generosity immediately
“am I sure?”
appreciating that one had enjoyed activities for years
blaming oneself for one’s illness, not
breathing in suffering/breathing out kindness, etc. (
tonglen
)
tonglen
)
“broken-glass”
caregiver burnout, handling
disappointment of failed treatments, coping with
dismissive treatment from medical professional, handling
“don’t-know mind”
“drop it”
equanimity
family and friends, handling problems with
“half-smile”
“inquiry,” Byron Katie’s
“let go a little”
loneliness, coping with
loving-kindness phrases
mindfulness of the present moment
only thing true for sure in present moment
opening heart to suffering
opposite action in response to negative impulse
patient endurance
physical symptoms or medical problems, coping with
“putting head in lap of the Buddha”
“sky-gazing”
stroking arm with hand of other arm
sublime states, directing at one’s self
suffering present in lives of all beings
sympathetic joy, cultivating,
“there is sickness here, but I am not sick”
uncertainty about future, handling
“weather”
wheel of suffering/four sublime states, combining
“who am I?”
“why not me?”
wise action and inaction
wise speech
Present Moment Wonderful Moment
(Hanh)
(Hanh)
Ram Dass (Richard Alpert)
Rodriguez, Richard
Rumi
Rusty (dog)
Ryokan
Saint James, Susan
Salzberg, Sharon
Sangha
(community)
(community)
Seeking the Heart of Wisdom
(Goldstein and Kornfield)
(Goldstein and Kornfield)
Sekida, Katsuki
Self, lack of fixed (
anatta
). See
anatta
(no-fixed-self)
anatta
). See
anatta
(no-fixed-self)
Selfless Persons
(Collins)
(Collins)
Setcho Juken
Seung Sahn
Seven points of mind training
Shocking the mind (Zen Buddhism)
Silence, noble
“Sky-gazing” practice
Sleeplessness
Solitude
Speech, wise
Noble silence
Spirit Rock Meditation Center
Still Forest Pool, A
(Chah)
(Chah)
Stricken
(Munson)
(Munson)
Stroking arm with hand of other arm
Sublime states, four (
brahma viharas
)
brahma viharas
)
practicing by combining with wheel of suffering
Suffering
present in lives of all beings
See also
Opening heart to suffering;
Dukkha
Opening heart to suffering;
Dukkha
Suzuki, Shunryu
Sympathetic joy (
mudita
)
mudita
)
Tanha
(desire/aversion).
See
Desire; Aversion
(desire/aversion).
See
Desire; Aversion
Ten perfections (
paramis
)
paramis
)
Teresa, Mother
Thoreau, Henry David
Thoughts
Katie’s inquiry questioning validity of
Three marks of existence
Tibetan Buddhism
Tillich, Paul
Tonglen
(“sending and taking”)
(“sending and taking”)
Travis, John
Treatments
Trungpa, Chögyam
Twain, Mark
Tyler, Brad (son-in-law)
Tyler, Malia (granddaughter)
Tyler, Mara (daughter)
Uncertainty and unpredictability
Unwise action
Upekkha
(equanimity).
See
Equanimity (
upekkha
)
(equanimity).
See
Equanimity (
upekkha
)
Vipassana Meditation as Taught by S. N. Goenka
(Hart)
(Hart)
Weather Man, The
(motion picture)
(motion picture)
“Weather” practice
What the Buddha Taught
(Rahula)
(Rahula)
Wheel of suffering (
paticca-samuppada
)
paticca-samuppada
)
When the Iron Eagle Flies
(Khema)
(Khema)
“Who am I?” practice
“Why not me?”
Working in the face of illness
Yamada, Koun
Year to Live, A
(Levine)
(Levine)
Zen Buddhism
About the Author
TONI BERNHARD fell ill on a trip to Paris in 2001 with what doctors initially diagnosed as an acute viral infection. She has not recovered.
In 1982, she’d received a J.D. from the School of Law at the University of California, Davis, and immediately joined the faculty where she stayed until chronic illness forced her to retire. During her twenty-two years on the faculty, she served for six years as Dean of Students.
In 1992, she began to study and practice Buddhism. Before becoming ill, she attended many meditation retreats and led a meditation group in Davis with her husband.
She lives in Davis with her husband, Tony, and their hound dog, Rusty.
Toni can be found online at
www.howtobesick.com
.
www.howtobesick.com
.
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Bernhard, Toni.
How to be sick : a Buddhist-inspired guide for the chronically ill and their care-
givers / Toni Bernhard.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
Bernhard, Toni.
How to be sick : a Buddhist-inspired guide for the chronically ill and their care-
givers / Toni Bernhard.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
eISBN : 978-0-861-71926-6
1. Religious life—Buddhism. 2. Chronically ill—Religious life. 3. Caregivers—
Religious life. 4. Chronic diseases—Religious aspects—Buddhism. I. Title.
BQ5400.B46 2010
294.3’4442—dc22
2010025648
Religious life. 4. Chronic diseases—Religious aspects—Buddhism. I. Title.
BQ5400.B46 2010
294.3’4442—dc22
2010025648
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