Get In Her Mind, Get In Her Bed (18 page)

Layering clothing is also a good idea. Wear a long sleeved shirt or thermal. Layer that with a vintage type t-shirt or a button up. If you go with the button up roll the sleeves up to the elbow. Long sleeves may make you appear even skinnier. You could go with a button up with a t-shirt over the top. Pull out the collar and roll up the sleeves. Stay away from baggy clothes. Big sweatshirts will look stupid. Wear smaller t-shirts. Short sleeve shirts that are to big will make your arms look even smaller. If the shirt is snug, not tight, you will actually appear to be bigger.

Any kind of jeans are okay. I like pants with designed holes in them, but that’s just me, Nick likes to keep it looking good, without any holes. If you go some place nice you need nice jeans or some kind of slacks. The big thing with your pants is make sure they fit. Don't get tight jeans and then tuck your shirt in. Both have slimming effects.

Big Guys

You know you’re big, and so does everyone else. What you wear isn't as important as how you stand and position yourself. Remember your body language will carry you. If you are comfortable with you so will everyone else. Vertical stripes are slimming. Wear a t-shirt and a button up with small vertical stripes. Wear a shirt that fits. No baggy clothing for you. You can add a sports coat/evening jacket if you want. I would.

Any kind of jeans or slacks will do. Again, wear pants that fit. If they are too small your belly will look bigger. If you sag them, or they are too baggy, you will look like a fat gangster. That’s not what you are going for.

Average or Athletic Guys

You are the lucky ones, most clothes will look good on you. Since all clothes look good on you, style is most important. Wear clothes that are the right size. If you don't know what that means ask the girl working in the store, "Does this look to big, or does this look to tight?" For a top option any of the things we mentioned above will work. Be creative.

Because of your body type you should wear jeans that will show off your ass. All that means is pants that fit and wear them up around your waist. Wear shirts that are short. They should end one or two inches below the waistline of your pants.

To Look Taller and Thinner:

Wear clothes that fit well. 

Wear solid colors from head to toe. 

Wear your pants at the waist. 

Avoid too many accessories. 

Wear vertical stripes. 

Avoid patterns with a lot of detail.

To Look Shorter and/or Heavier:

Wear contrasting colors. 

Accent with bold colors. 

Wear patch pockets or styling details. 

Wear layers. 

Select a top coat in a thick fabric. 

Limit using the same color from head to toe.

Style

"Peacocking" is a term used to describe a certain type of style. The term is used to reflect how a peacock bushes out their tail as big as possible, showing all the colors and design, when attracting a mate. The more colors, the more beautiful. The more bold and flashy of design, the better. Some people will wear outrageous clothing or accessories to draw more attention to themselves. This is referred to as peacocking. You have to dress within your personality so if you are not over the top, you can peacock conservatively with maybe one or two accessories such as a hat or sports coat. You could also wear a shirt that says something really crazy. The brighter and bolder your personality, so will be your clothing. Just keep in mind, you will get more attention the more outrageous your clothing and accessories, so you better be ready to handle that.

Shirts

Go with the types of shirts described above. When I go out I wear button ups over t-shirts, or long sleeved shirts or button ups under some kind of stylish jacket. Sometimes I will go more casual with a crazy t-shirt under a jacket or t-shirt over long sleeved shirt. If I'm feeling crazy I may wear a button up with a tie, tied loosely, sometimes with a jacket, sometimes without. Or maybe I will wear a t-shirt over a button up.

Pants

Depending on what I'm wearing up top and where I'm going will determine my pants. I mainly wear jeans but when the occasion calls for it, I will wear dress pants. Most of my Jeans have designed holes in them because that’s my style, it's a subtle form of peacocking. If I am going to a high end club or a nice restaurant I will wear nice jeans or dress pants.

Belts

You can use belts in a variety of ways. With a big flashy belt/belt buckle you can use that as a form of peacocking. A small stylish belt is used for just that and to hold your pants up where they belong. I wear smaller stylish belts. You need a few belts to match the rest of your clothing. This is very important to a woman. It is also imperative that your belt matches your shoes.

Shoes

Shoes are extremely important. Shoes are sometimes the first thing a woman will notice. If it's not the first it is definitely within the first few seconds of noticing you.

Not only is it important as to what type of shoes you are wearing, but it is also important that they match the rest of your outfit, belt included. I don't know shit about shoes, but the cute girls that work at department stores that sell men's and women's clothing and shoes do (Nordstrom... etc). I do not hesitate to walk up to the best looking one and ask her, "Can you help me pick out some shoes. I don't know anything about shoes. Pick me out something that girls will think are hot. What would you want to see me wearing in a club if I had on..." You can say anything from there. All you need to know is what color you need. You probably need black and a couple shades of brown. The girls will tell you what you need.

Did you also notice that this is a perfect way to build up sexual chemistry in a non threatening manner? You are essentially role playing out a real life scenario. You can take it as far as you want. Walk in and tell her, "I need all new shoes and I need help. I have no style at all, you are cute you could probably pick out some shoes that will...." Whatever you want from there, "that will get me laid, that will make girls notice me in a good way, that girls will see and think that guy is hot, he's got style."

Accessories

Using accessories is really just a way for guys to look our best, to peacock. I have earrings, some flashy, all types of necklaces, bracelets, three of which I never take off, rings, belts, sunglasses, I have even worn an ankle bracelet for an extended period of time. Sports/evening jackets are accessories. I will wear any combination of these at any time to achieve a desired look. It all depends on my mood that night and what will go well with the clothes I am wearing.

Just like with shoes, you can ask any girl in any department store for help with clothes. Yea you get to have a non-threatening interaction with a girl, but you really do need help with your style. Just be honest with her. And don't be a chicken shit and ask a guy or an ugly girl. The guy probably got his style from those same hot girls that work there, and the ugly girl is not the kind of girl you want to impress so her opinion doesn't mean shit. Simply walk up to a cute girl and say, "I need a new wardrobe and my style sucks. You are cute so you probably know what is in. Can you help me pick out...." and continue with what ever you are planning on buying, whether its a shirt and pair of pants, or ten shirts, five pairs of pants, and two jackets.

One trick I have learned with accessories is how easy it is for a girl to make a connection with a particular item of yours. You know how they love to sleep in our shirts or boxers. Each time I go out I wear a cheap ring or necklace that has little meaning to me so I don’t care if I still have that item at the end of the night. When I meet a girl I make a connection with I will tell her, “Wow, I really think we have something going here, I want you to take my ring to remember me by.” I give her my ring, get her number, and move on. To me it was no big thing, but to the girl it’s huge. Every time she looks at the ring she is reminded of me, all night long and each day after until I decide to call her up. Anything will do, even a ring out of a quarter machine will work.

Grooming

Grooming is an act that has been incorporated over thousands of years. It is important that we put our best foot forward, and we must groom ourselves. It is okay for guys to be man pretty.

Eyebrows

Keep your eyebrows in check. There are men out there with a unibrow but are to macho to do anything about it. No women out there find this attractive. Same with bushy eyebrows, grab some tweezers and go to work.

Nails

Only children bite their nails. Keep your nails trimmed short. This applies to toe nails as well. Some women like rough hands but I find more of them prefer soft hands. If you have big ass, rough calluses on your hands get rid of them.

Facial Hair

There are studies that suggest men who shave every day have more sex than men who don't. That means that more women prefer clean shaven to anything else. If you want facial hair, by all means have it. Just keep it in check. You can be clean cut with facial hair. If you like the rugged look, then get a trimmer and use it everyday. Keep your shit looking good.

Hair

Most men don’t get haircuts often enough, once a month is fine for most men. If you like it long, still go in once a month to clean it up. If you use gel or other products in your hair, wash your forehead after you are done. Most products will leave a shiny film on your head making your forehead light up.

As with facial hair, keep the hair on top of your head clean cut. By clean cut I mean keep it looking good. Any messed up, spiky type style is good. Women like it when your hair looks like you spent ten seconds on it. For most of you, you probably do spend ten seconds on it. The truth is, it takes time to make it look that way. Learn how to do it. If you are losing your hair, once you go from thinning, to power alleys and a bald spot in the back, it's time to just shave it off.

Grooming is something that some of you will have a real problem with. It is a concept that some aren't willing to accept. You don't have to believe in it, but just take it as fact and do something about it. Go into a salon, put the fate of your new look in their hands, and tell them you need a make over in the hair department. Tell them you want something that is trendy and in. Then tell them to teach you how to style it.

Just as our body language says what we are really thinking, the colors we wear also send out a certain message. Colors enhance our appearance and influence our behavior. For instance, the color pink is known to have a calming effect on people, therefore it has been used in jail cells and in the locker rooms of a visiting sports team. A lot of restaurants use red, orange, and yellow to attract customers, but these colors are designed to encourage you not to stay long making room for more customers and more sales. The color red increases your appetite causing you to eat more. Colors can affect the size of a room, your sense of temperature, and most importantly, how women see you.

Black

Black is the color of authority, elegance, sophistication, and seduction. It is a slimming color and makes people appear thinner. Black can also imply submission such as a woman who is wearing black panties implies she wants the man to see her in her underwear.

White

White symbolizes innocence and purity, which is why the wedding dress is white. Doctors wear a white coat to imply sterility and cleanliness.

Red

The color of dominance, power, and sexual energy, the color red attracts attention. It is also the color of love.

Blue

One of the most popular colors, blue represents knowledge, authority, and loyalty. Blue causes the body to produce calming chemicals so it is often used in bedrooms. The color blue shows loyalty, it is a popular color to wear at a job interview.

Green

Green represents compassion, prosperity, money, and vitality. It is a relaxing color. Many TV studios have a “green room” for people to sit in to relax before they go on the air.

Yellow

Yellow is another attention getter. While it is considered an optimistic color, symbolizing enthusiasm and playfulness, the color yellow is very difficult for the human eye to take in and can be overpowering.

Purple

Purple is the color of royalty. It represents luxury, wealth, and sophistication. It is also feminine and romantic and rarely found in nature.

Brown

Old reliable brown. Brown shows stability. It is the color of earth and a favorite of most men.

6-Cold Reading

Women love men that are both mysterious and entertaining. Cold reading is a technique used to convince another person that you know much more about them than you actually do. With enough practice you can quickly obtain a lot of information about a woman by carefully observing her body language, clothing, fashion, hairstyle, religion, race, education, and speech. Much like a detective will create a profile of his assailant, you too can find out personal details in a matter of minutes.