Forgiveness (22 page)

– I F
ORGIVE
M
YSELF FOR
J
UDGING
–

EXAMPLE

I forgive myself for judging myself as a failure because I was passed over for a promotion at work.

I forgive myself for judging myself as weak because

I forgive myself for judging myself as a failure because

I forgive myself for judging myself as weak when

I forgive myself for judging myself as a failure when

– I F
ORGIVE
M
YSELF FOR
B
ELIEVING
–

EXAMPLE

I forgive myself for believing I failed in college and that I’m too old to go back now.

I forgive myself for believing I am weak because

I forgive myself for believing I am weak because

I forgive myself for believing I am weak because

I forgive myself for believing I am weak because

– T
APPING
S
EQUENCE
–

Review Basic
Tapping Sequence
Guidelines.

1. Review each of the day’s 12 Forgiveness Statements out loud. This will help you identify the specific aspects of the issue that you want to tap on.
   
2. Rate the intensity level of any unforgiveness you hold about today’s topic on a scale of 1 to 10. Write the number down.
   
3. Neutralize all subconscious resistance. Repeat a Reversal Statement 3 times while tapping continuously on the Karate Chop point.
   
4. Focus on the issue you’ll be tapping on. Repeat a Set-Up Statement 3 times while tapping continuously on the Karate Chop point.
   
5. Tap 7 times on each of the 10 meridian points while repeating out loud the key details from the 12 Forgiveness Statements. This process can be modeled on the bonus Tapping Scripts.
   
6. Recheck the intensity level of any unforgiveness you hold about today’s topic. Write the number down. If the level is at 8 or higher, repeat the entire sequence. If the level is less than 8, tap on a Modified Set-Up Statement, then perform the 10-point Tapping Sequence on your 12 Forgiveness Statements until you are at a 0 level of intensity.
   

– REFLECTIONS –

Instead of slapping your forehead and asking, “What was I thinking,” breathe and ask yourself the kinder question, “What was I learning?”

—K
AREN
S
ALMANSOHN

– DAY 9 –

I F
ORGIVE
M
Y
C
HOICES

I am affected only by my thoughts.

My thoughts can frighten me, but since they are my thoughts, I have the power to change and exchange them. It is in my own best interest to train my mind to be affected only by the thoughts I do desire. I deliberately choose the thoughts I desire. I choose the feelings I experience. I forgive the conflicting ideas that harm me.

—P
RAYER FOR
A C
OURSE IN MIRACLES
W
ORKBOOK
L
ESSON
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– Forgiveness Friend Story by Rev. Manazerine Baptiste –

I
love you and I forgive you for everything.

On August 16, 2012, I wrote these words to my mother. For three and a half years, I had been in a process of forgiveness. Sitting on the edge of my bed halfway under the covers with tears streaming down my face, my Holy Instant arrived, and I pressed send. It was 6:20 p.m., and I was filled with a deep sense of peace and contentment. There was no longer any anger, judgment, blame, or pain. The story was no longer important to tell. This time the freedom of forgiveness was all that mattered. I wept because I remembered the time that she had come knocking, a time when I wasn’t ready. What a difference a moment can make when we choose to heal.

I thought about the Christmas Day when I asked my mother if she wanted to talk. I had planned it to be our first exchange about a very old hurt and deep wound. I thought that I wanted to hear her version of why she never came back for me. As a bonus, she would get to hear my version of how she broke my heart, shattered my life, and left me with no compass or understanding of life and love. We sat in a small room while the rest of the family exchanged laughter; we exchanged hearts. With each story, we wept. We wept until we could no longer speak. She “just didn’t know how to love [me] and had no clue how to be a mother.” In that moment, I saw her innocence as my own. In that moment, my heart opened to her love and the possibility of forgiveness. In that moment, however, it was still just a possibility.