Forgiveness
Authors: Iyanla Vanzant
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D
EDICATION
This book is dedicated to
my mother Sahara Elizabeth,
my grandmothers Rissie Holloway and Laura Gill Jefferson,
my stepmother Lynnette May Brown-Harris,
my aunt Nancy McCullum,
my sister Leola Ijalu McCullum-Opeodu,
and all the women who have mothered me
throughout my life.
I forgive my mind for thinking and myself for believing
that who you were and what you gave me was not enough,
was not right, and was not exactly what I needed.
I forgive myself for judging the women who mothered me.
Everything that happens to me is part of the plan for my awakening, including those challenging events that force me to shift out of my inertia and self-limiting behavior patterns. From the depth of my soul, I call out for growth. I pray to be released from my burdens and to discover and express my gifts. From deep within my pain, I call for peace. From deep within my co-dependency, I call for the courage and the freedom to be myself, to forgive myself, and to forgive all others.
—P
AUL
F
ERRINI
, E
VERYDAY
W
ISDOM
CONTENTS
Why Forgive?
Emotional Triggers
Judge Not!
Tapping Into Forgiveness
Day 1: I Forgive Myself
Day 2: I Forgive My Body
Day 3: I Forgive My Life
Day 4: I Forgive My Mother
Day 5: I Forgive My Father
Day 6: I Forgive God
Day 7: I Forgive My Feelings
Day 8: I Forgive My Weaknesses and Failures
Day 9: I Forgive My Choices
Day 10: I Forgive My Relationship with Money
Day 11: I Forgive My Job, Work, or Career
Day 12: I Forgive Women
Day 13: I Forgive Men
Day 14: I Forgive My Partner/Ex-Partner
Day 15: I Forgive My Brother/Sister
Day 16: I Forgive My Son/Daughter
Day 17: I Forgive Others
Day 18: I Forgive the World
Day 19: Forgiveness Letter 1
Day 20: Forgiveness Letter 2
Day 21: Forgiveness Letter 3
Acknowledgments
About the Author
W
ELCOME
, B
ELOVED
!
We are about to embark on an exciting and life-changing journey. For some of us, this trek will be as challenging as climbing up a steep mountain while carrying a hundred pounds on our backs. For others, it will be like having a tooth extracted without Novocain. For many of us—those of us who are ready to change, heal, and grow—we will be energized and sometimes shocked with joy over how much we learn about ourselves and how good we begin to feel in the process. We are about to dive headfirst, soul deep into the practice of forgiveness.
What I have learned during my 30-year sojourn through the science of personal and spiritual growth and healing is that forgiveness will cure whatever ails you. The other thing I am totally convinced of is that while forgiveness ain’t easy, it’s the most important inner work you can do within your mind and heart.
Most of us were never taught that any experience that comes into your life comes by energetic invitation. For this reason, it is imperative that you learn how to keep your energy clear. The practice of forgiveness is your ticket to clarity, vitality, and freedom.