Diet Rehab: 28 Days to Finally Stop Craving the Foods That Make You Fat (6 page)

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Sound familiar? No wonder it’s so hard to let go of our favorite treats! We’re used to thinking of dieting as an emotional issue or a matter of willpower, and those certainly may be elements in our struggles. But at the same time, you’re suffering from profound physical symptoms and from the negative emotions inevitably generated by your unbalanced brain chemistry. Why
wouldn’t
you self-medicate those symptoms with your favorite treat?
If a steady diet of sugar, starch, and fat could keep you feeling good, it might be worth risking the weight gain, heart disease, diabetes, and cancer that you’re putting yourself at risk for, as well as whatever negative feelings you have as the result of your struggles with weight. Unfortunately, because of tolerance and withdrawal, food addiction is not a stable solution to the problem of unbalanced brain chemistry. You’re always going to keep wanting more—and you’re always risking withdrawal symptoms the moment you cut back. It’s hard to revel in the pleasures of food when food feels like your jailer.
How Stress Can Make You Fat
 
When you feel stressed, your adrenal glands produce a hormone called cortisol. Cortisol is intended for those times when you have to jump into action, as part of the “fight or flight” response. Cortisol raises your blood pressure, so you’ll be alert enough to face impending danger. It also instructs your cells to store fat in your midsection, since your body thinks this impending danger means you’ll need a storehouse of fat reserves if you’re forced to hibernate in a cave for a week with limited food.
Combine the rush of cortisol with the sugary, starchy foods you might crave under stress, and you have a recipe for insulin resistance, a condition in which your body stops efficiently metabolizing your blood sugar. As a result, more of your calories are stored as fat. You’ll have trouble losing weight and you’re likely to start gaining.
Initially, cortisol and the other elements of your adrenaline rush speed up your metabolism and suppress your appetite, so you’re focused on the danger at hand. But then when the rush wears off, you’re super-hungry. That’s because your body expected you to burn off all that extra blood sugar and fat running from a charging mammoth or fighting off an invader, so it creates some hunger to compensate for this supposed activity.
But if your emergency was a pressing deadline, a fight with a friend, or a crying baby, your efforts have likely been emotional, not physical. And further, if you’ve created additional stress through “pitfall” thoughts or attitudes (see page 53), your stress—and your subsequent hunger—will increase. Now you’re eating food that your body doesn’t really need—although your biochemical reaction is insisting that you’re hungry.
Cortisol also suppresses your immune system and depletes your serotonin and dopamine levels, sending you into a state of anxiety and, eventually, nudging you toward depression. Again, cortisol creates biochemical conditions in which you’re more likely to turn to food.
Finally, the fat cells around your belly are particularly sensitive to cortisol and to high insulin levels. This area of the body is also very effective at storing energy. That’s why excess stress often leads to weight gain on our bellies.
A fascinating study conducted at Yale University found that women with belly fat felt more overwhelmed by stressful tasks and produced more cortisol than women whose fat was stored primarily around their hips. So if you’d like a flatter belly, think about reducing the stress in your life. I’m the first one to agree that that isn’t easy—if just saying “reduce stress” were enough, none of us would be stressed! However, I can offer you something more helpful than empty advice: The activities suggested throughout this book to boost your brain chemistry are just the anti-stress tools you need! Boosting your serotonin levels will make you feel calmer and less stressed while giving you more emotional resources to cope with the stress you can’t avoid.
 
Addiction and Yo-Yo Dieting
 
Suppose, like my patient Sondra, we do make it through two weeks of chemical detox from our high-fat, high-sugar diets, however painful or unpleasant that might be? Suppose, like Sondra, that we’ve done that not only once but twice, three times, maybe up to a dozen times as we went from diet to diet to diet? Each time we lasted one month, maybe two, maybe even six, making it well past the withdrawal symptoms and maybe even dropping a few pounds. But sooner or later we find ourselves turning to high-fat or sweet and starchy foods, and our diets fail.
Once again, brain chemistry is the culprit. We need to maintain healthy serotonin and dopamine levels to feel good, and if we aren’t eating the right foods or engaging in the right activities, our levels will fall too low. We may force ourselves to forgo our “medication” for a few weeks or even a few months. But unless we genuinely learn to replace it with something healthier, we’ll always be tempted to come back.
Are You “Naturally” Fat? The Truth About Genetics
 
Can you be “naturally” fat? The answer is both “yes” and “no.”
Yes, up to one-third of the factors that determine body weight can be attributed to our family inheritance. Studies of twins and adopted children have revealed that biological relatives tend to be a similar body weight, even if they grew up in completely different households. First-degree relatives of moderately obese people (fifty to sixty pounds overweight) are three to four times more likely to become obese than people from a different type of family. First-degree relatives of severely obese people (ninety to one hundred or more pounds overweight) are five times more likely to develop obesity. At least some of this correlation seems to be genetic rather than having to do with family eating habits and emotional patterns.
But no, regardless of what anyone else in your family looks like, you don’t
have
to be obese—and you don’t have to starve yourself to stay thin, either. What you eat, how you exercise, and how you nourish your brain chemistry through both food and activities all play an enormous role in determining your metabolism and your weight.
In 2010, genetic researchers in the United Kingdom studied more than 20,000 people aged between thirty-nine and seventy-nine years. Their conclusion: Thirty minutes of moderate exercise per day can reduce any genetic tendency toward obesity by 40 percent. Other studies have come to similar conclusions.
So here’s the bottom line: Regardless of who’s in your family, if you undergo Diet Rehab and learn how to feed your brain chemistry, you’re well on your way toward achieving your healthy weight, especially if you build in thirty minutes of moderate exercise a day. And guess what? The right kinds of moderate exercise will also feed your brain chemistry, boosting your levels of both serotonin and dopamine. Now that’s what I call a win-win!
 
Getting to Know Your Hunger
 
I hope you can see by now that if you’re at an unhealthy weight, you’re responding to brain cues that have nothing to do with your body’s need for nourishment.
One of the best ways to address body, brain, and emotion together is to get in touch with your hunger, which is one of the first things I ask my patients to do. I’m going to ask the same of you. As you begin to move through the process of Diet Rehab, I’d like you to ask yourself the following questions each time you feel hungry. Don’t judge or blame; just notice.
 
WHEN
DO I FEEL HUNGRY?
—after something upsetting happened
—after something wonderful happened
—because I’m bored
—to take a break
—when I feel like I deserve a reward
—based on a cue: after a TV show is over, when I get home, etc.
HOW
DO I FEEL HUNGRY?
—suddenly I’m ravenous
—gradually, my hunger goes from being a small feeling to a progressively greater one
—I crave particular foods or types of food
—I feel desperate
—I feel calm and pleasant anticipation
—I am constantly hungry
—I am constantly looking forward to my next meal
—I look forward to the food itself
—I look forward to some other aspect of the meal: the break, the time with family or friends, the chance to get away from work or out of the house
None of these responses is wrong or bad, though some of them might be signs that your body, brain, or spirit isn’t getting something that it needs. Feeling constantly hungry, for example, probably means that you’re not nourishing yourself properly, whether you’re overly restricting your diet, eating too much sugar or starch (creating blood sugar spikes of “fullness” followed by crashes of feeling ravenous), or otherwise not correctly feeding your brain chemistry. It could also mean that there is a huge emotional hunger in your life that isn’t being met—but, as we’ve seen, that is a brain chemistry issue as well as a physical one.
If we’re eating healthy meals and snacks filled with booster foods, usually we’ll feel gradual hunger every two to three hours. If we’ve stuffed ourselves with a big meal, we may not feel physically hungry for at least six hours, as physical hunger usually comes on slowly and gradually. However, as we’ve seen, if you’ve been under stress and your cortisol levels have risen, you are likely not to feel hungry as you cope with the problem that stresses you. Then, when the stress is over—when the deadline is met or the baby finally stops crying—you may feel ravenous. That is also a physical response, triggered by your body’s response to a stress hormone, but it doesn’t necessarily indicate that you need food.
Eating when you’re bored, to give yourself a break, on a set schedule, or in response to a cue might mean that you’re eating food you don’t really need. One study compared Americans to French eaters, showing that the French are more inner-directed when it comes to hunger, listening to their bodies rather than to social cues. Americans, by contrast, ate according to external cues. For example, we tend to stop eating when the TV show we’re watching is over or when others have stopped eating.
As you can see, sorting out how, when, and why you feel hungry and how you might best respond is a complicated business, and there are no simple rules or easy answers. However, what will help break the hold of your food addiction is just to notice when, how, and why you feel hungry. Notice your body, your emotions, your schedule, and the cues you might be responding to. Don’t judge, blame, or expect yourself to do something; just
notice.
We’ll come back to this question of hunger and your body’s cues as we move through the four weeks of Diet Rehab. Later in the program, when you’ve added serotonin-boosting and dopamine-boosting foods and activities to your diet and your life, you may notice places you’d like to make a change. You might even notice that, naturally and gradually, a change has already taken place.
Gastric Bypass and Lap-Bands: Are They the Answer?
 
Lap-Bands and gastric bypass surgeries work by physically altering the stomach’s capacity. You become unable to eat more than a tiny amount at any sitting—perhaps as little as a small carton of yogurt. If the only problem with out-of-control eating were your capacity to fill your stomach, a gastric bypass or Lap-Band would work well.
The problem is that just restricting your access to food doesn’t change the reasons that you were eating excessively in the first place. If your brain chemistry remains unbalanced—if your brain is still jonesing for dopamine and serotonin—keeping yourself from eating too much at one time will not change the dynamic.
Certainly, these surgeries help save lives. Many morbidly obese people have benefited from them. But in my professional opinion, surgery alone is not enough. If you’re considering this procedure, it’s vital for you to receive psychotherapy for at least six months to help you deal with your emotional connection to food.
In fact, most patients are noncompliant with at least one of the behavioral changes recommended within one year of having bariatric surgery. Many do not adhere to the recommended changes in either diet or exercise. I have treated a number of patients who have had these surgeries and have regained all the weight they initially lost. When this is true, they are putting themselves at risk for complications and can stretch their surgically modified stomachs.
If you’re considering either of these procedures, start your psychological preparation before you go. Attend some free 12-step Overeaters Anonymous meetings, commit to a weight-loss group for a year, or go see a therapist for at least six months to figure out whether you can avoid surgery or, failing that, how to prepare yourself emotionally. Don’t fall into polarized thinking, where you see only a single “either/or” choice. My own recommendation is to keep the surgery option open while committing to a year of Overeaters Anonymous and individual psychotherapy—that would really be setting yourself up for success.
Bear in mind that after surgery, you’re going to be getting less serotonin and dopamine from food than you did previously. That makes it all the more important to follow the diet and lifestyle suggestions in this book, and that you make sure to get more of your feel-good chemicals from booster activities so that you are relying not only on food to keep your brain chemistry balanced.

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