Understanding Sexual Attraction (4 page)

Ch. 5 Overall Base Attraction

Now we will put all we learned together to see the big picture. Base Attraction is 38% looks, 30% status, and 32% personality. Now that you understand what these three parts of attraction are, and how important they are, you can understand the things that you can improve about yourself.

Good looks are not set in
stone; you can improve almost every part of looks, even facially. You can use products, and go to the gym. Do what you can to improve your looks then move onto the next part.

You should always be trying to improve your money and status, however
, usually this take more time to improve than the other two areas. Work on improving this area, but understand that of the three it is the least important in terms of attraction.

The third is personality, and this is the one you should spend most of your time and energy improving. You can show and develop these qualities with much less work. By developing most of these qualities it will actually make you "look" better and possibly help you to advance in your career to improve your status.
Guys think that personality isn’t important to women because they have good personalities but women aren’t swarming over them. They may have good personalities, but they don’t have personalities with enough of the good characteristics.

Remember that
with any of these attributes, if they are below average, can actually kill attraction. For example, a very unattractive body will not only NOT receive any attraction, it will kill other attraction that you have with the girl from other attributes. Average is the great equalizer. What is better than average is usually attractive, and what is worse than average is usually unattractive. The quiz at the end of the book will help you to understand this better. Attraction is a positive thing, but there is also a negative. If you have something about you that is killing a woman’s attraction for you, get rid of it. If you can’t get rid of it, focus on other positive attributes so you can make up for it.

Base attraction is the core of what makes women sexually attracted to men. In the next chapters I will show you the ways to strengthen the three main parts of attraction and to use psychology to help build even more attraction in the moment.

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Chapter 6: Body Language

The reason that body language is so important is because it is visual proof of all the positive attributes of Base Attraction. Your body language can improve your looks, say that you have money and status, and convey positive personality attributes. Body language is a very large part of attraction. You can lie very easily about your job, but it's much harder to make your body lie. Body language is a very big subject. I have written about it before in my book 120 Body Language Secrets That She Likes You, and I will be writing about how to have good body language around women in my next book. However, I will touch on some basics here.

Eye Contact
- Eye contact is the most important type of body language because it shows others where your thoughts lie. Are your eyes fixed on the floor or in the eyes of the person you are speaking with? Somewhere in the middle?

Here is some body language you should try to do:
With women, you want to have strong eye contact at all times, however, it is good to look away at times. Look away as you think about what they are saying, then, go back to looking into their eyes.

Smiling
- Smiling is very important, but not just smiling, smiling the right way. Among primates, smiling is seen as a sign of submission. If you smile you do not want to smile as a sign of submission rather, as a sign of confidence and reassurance. Your usual smile should be more of a smirk and your other smile should be one of reassurance. If somebody says something funny, don't laugh because you want them to like you, laugh because it's funny. If you do this it will come out in your body language.

Posture
- It's very important to have good posture. The two important things to remember with posture are to have your chin up and shoulders back. You want to keep your chin parallel with the ground, and you want to keep your shoulders back with your chest slightly protruding at all times. This will make you come across as more confident and dominant.

Be Relaxed and Comfortable
- Look at the body language of James Bond; he is always calm and relaxed up until the moment he springs into action. His movements are sure and not rushed. He slowly and confidently faces what he needs to.

Voice tone and speed of speech
- Listen to President Barack Obama speak. There is a reason he was the first African-American president in the United States. He oozes charm and charisma. If you listen to his speeches you will hear how he has a deep voice tone. How he speaks slowly. How he pauses for dramatic effect. As his words get more meaningful he will get louder and his speech will quicken. He is in complete control of his words.

Only 7% of communication is done through words. People will only believe you have the desired attributes if you have the body language that goes with it. In fact, if you show good body language they will actually believe you have more positive attributes than you really do. My next book will teach you, in depth, how to achieve that perfect body language.

Chapter 7:
Tricks to Creating Attraction

These are psychological tricks you can memorize to help to build attraction in the moment. If you develop the personality attributes that you read about earlier in this book, you will find yourself doing these things naturally. However, until then it is good to know what you can do in the moment.

Teasing
- Teasing should be one of the main things that you should do upon meeting a girl. It manages to keep things fun, shows that you are not intimidated by her, and helps you stay aloof all at the same time. I cannot stress how important teasing is when interacting with a girl. If you remember only one thing from my Tricks to Creating Attraction, remember to tease her.

However, b
e careful not to overdo it. I don't like to use teasing as a way to make a girl insecure. I like to tease a girl about things that aren't important, for example, being short. If I was teasing a man about that, it would make them insecure since height is considered manly, but since you are teasing a woman about it, it’s not something that will make her too insecure. Make sure to keep the teasing fun.

The takeaway
- When somebody loses something, it makes them want it more. Usually, when you start hitting on a girl you send the message that she can have you. After you establish that you might be into her it's a good idea to take that away. For example, you could say something like "You're cute. It's too bad I don't date girls who have read the Twilight Books."

You can use the takeaway in more serious situations as well, but it is more risky. If a
girl is acting inappropriate, make sure she knows it, turn your back and walk away. Tell her that it is over between the two of you. However, only use this when you already have a relationship with the girl. The less of a relationship you have with her, the less intense that your takeaway should be.

Passing shit tests
- When girls are subconsciously trying to see if you really have the personality attributes from Base Attraction, they will throw out tests. They will say things to try to rattle you. For example, she might say "You know I don't even like you." after she has been telling you with her body language that she is very interested in you. She knows that a man with experience with women (Desired by Women) will know that she is lying. So if you see that for what it is, and react like the test that it is, she will become more attracted to you. A good response to that could be "I don't like you either, the only reason I am here is because I like to keep my friends close and my enemies closer." Say it with a cocky grin, so she will know you are not taking her serious. You will pass the shit test with flying colors, and you will subconsciously confirm to her that you have the attractive personality trait: Desired by Women.

Being mean, then nice
- A famous version of this that is used by police is called good cop, bad cop. They are both cops, but after dealing with a mean guy, then being confronted so quickly with such nice guy, it psychologically makes the person being interrogated like the good cop much more than they would if they had never had to deal with the bad cop.

You can use this yourself by starting off
your interaction with the girl by being a little mean. Then a while later she will do something and you will say "Hey, that's pretty cool. I was wrong about you." Then you start being nice, and she will be ten times more appreciative of it than if you just started out being nice.

Another way to use this is to fol
low a guy who just tried to approach a girl by being too mean. If you talk to her after he does, it will be one of the few times being a nice guy will be attractive. The contrast will make you being nice seem so much better.

Creating sexual tension
- The best way to understand this is to watch how sexual tension is created in movies. Pay attention to how the sexual tension is built and what happens to create it. Usually it all leads up to the kiss. You don't want to just kiss her, you want to make her think you're not interested, then make her think you might be, then come close to kissing her. When your lips get close to her lips look at her cheek and tease her about a pimple, then back away. This will build great sexual tension, and make the kiss much better when you finally kiss her.

Creating jealousy
- Jealousy is a human emotion that is experienced by everybody. It is very powerful and can create very strong attraction. The key to creating jealousy is that it can never seem like you are creating jealousy or it will backfire. Creating jealousy is something that women are masters of, so why not use their own tools against them.

A good way to create jealousy is to take a girl to a place where there are many more girls than guys. Take her to a place where you might get hit on by other girls, because there are no more options
or because of some niche. This will create jealousy and make her like you more. It will also hit the Desired by Women attraction switch.

Another way is to let her glimpse a text from a
nother girl. When she asks about it say "It's just a friend." and change the subject. She will wonder about that text and it will create some jealousy.

Be a challenge
- One of the biggest things that nice guys do wrong is that they are never a challenge. They are always trying to please the girl. You don't want to be that guy. People appreciate things they have to work for, not things that are given to them. The harder she has to work for you the stronger her bond to you will be. Don't make it too easy on her.

To understand the psychology behind this you need to understand that when somebody of lower status interact
s with someone of higher status, they will constantly try to please them. They will try proving that they are of equal status, but a person of equal status wouldn't need to prove it. You want to act high status, so you want to be a bit of a challenge.

There are many ways to be a challenge. When a girl ditches you, then texts you the next day to ap
ologize and give you X excuse, don't text back immediately and say "It's OK, let’s do it another night." No, she just ditched you. Don't text her back for a day. Make her wonder if you are mad, or if you even care. The opposite of love is indifference, so the thing that will affect her the most isn’t getting mad. After that you can text her back, but when you text her back don't act mad, act like you had something to do as a backup, so you didn't really care. Indifference.

Have a fault she can heal
- Girls love to think that they can change a man. Sometimes they can, but you can use that desire to your advantage. It is the main psychological factor behind why chicks are attracted to assholes and badboys. They want to be the only person that the asshole is nice to. They want their feminine presence to change and soften him. They want the badboy to fall madly in love with them, and then with the power of his love for her he will change and become a perfect boyfriend. This is also the reason girls are usually only into badboys as part of a phase. When they realize they can't change the guy, that he has to change himself, they move on from this phase.

You can use th
is by emulating it. Act like a badboy, even though it's not your nature. She will easily change you and be happy. It's the fact that they think they might be able to change you that will make her want you more.

Make her feel a strong range of emotions
- The main reason we enjoy movies is because they make us feel emotion. A good movie will make us laugh, make us cry, and bring out our adrenaline with some adventure. Women want the same thing when they are with men. They want to feel. They don't want a dull night out, they want to feel emotion.

You can make her feel a range of emotions by doing something exciting like rock climbing, or maybe a bit illegal like tres
passing into a pool in the middle of the night. If she is not up for anything too exciting you can lead her through emotions just by talking with her. Tease her, do something annoying, then do something sweet, then make her laugh, and then watch a scary movie. She will leave the night feeling many different emotions and feeling like she really lived.