The V-Word (24 page)

Pepper Schwartz
received her PhD from Yale University and is professor of Sociology at the University of Washington in Seattle. She is the past-president of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality and the Pacific Sociological Society. She has been honored for her work by the American Sociological Association and been named a Distinguished Alumni from Washington University in St. Louis. She has written twenty-two books and over fifty academic articles. Several of her books have received national recognition, including
The Normal Bar: The Surprising Secrets of Happy Couples
(a
New York Times
bestseller),
Ten Talks Parents Must Have with Kids about Sex and Character
(an Outstanding Book by Mothers' Voices) and
Dating after 50 for Dummies
. She is currently the Love, Sex, and Relationship Ambassador for AARP and serves on the board of Trojan and the Sexual Studies PhD program for the Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco. Known for her translation of academic work into popular formats, she has appeared often on
Oprah
,
The Today Show
,
CBS Morning News
,
NPR
and other national programs. She also serves as one of the four relationship experts on
Married at First Sight
, a television series on A & E network on the FYI channel. She lives in Snoqualmie, Washington, on a horse ranch.

Al Vernacchio,
MS Ed, is the sexuality educator at Friends' Central School in Wynnewood, Pennsylvania. He teaches classes, organizes sexuality programming, provides parent education on human sexuality, and is the faculty advisor for the Gay-Straight Alliance Network. A human sexuality educator and consultant for over twenty years, Al has lectured, published articles, and offered workshops throughout the country on sexuality topics. His work has been featured in “Teaching Good Sex,” a November 2011 cover story in
The New York Times Magazine
. In addition, Al is a TED Talk speaker and is the author of
For Goodness Sex: Changing the Way We Talk to Teens about Sexuality, Values, and Health
.

1
. “American Teens' Sexual and Reproductive Health,” Guttmacher Institute Fact Sheet (May 2014): 1-4.

2
. Al Vernacchio, sex educator, interviewed by Amber J. Keyser, September 2014, records in author's personal archives.

3
. Amy Lang, sex educator, interviewed by Amber J. Keyser, August 2014, records in author's personal archives.

4
. Jo Langford, sex educator, interviewed by Amber J. Keyser, July 2014, records in author's personal archives.

5
. Al Vernacchio,
For Goodness Sex: Changing the Way We Talk to Teens About Sexuality, Values, and Health
(New York: HarperCollins, 2014), ix.

6
. Vernacchio,
For Goodness Sex
, 55-7.

7
. Imogen Parker, “Young People, Sex, and Relationships: The New Norms,” Institute for Public Policy Research (August 2014): 21,
http://www.ippr.org/assets/media/publications/pdf/young-people-sex-relationships_Aug2014.pdf
.

8
. Vernacchio, August 2014.

9
. Lang, August 2014.

10
. Pepper Schwartz, sex educator, interviewed by Amber J. Keyser, July 2014, records in author's personal archives.

11
. Langford, July 2014.

12
. Langford, July 2014.

13
. Langford, July 2014.

14
. Schwartz, July 2014.

15
. Lang, August 2014.

16
. Sarah Mirk, “The Dramatic History of American Sex Ed Films,” Bitch Media, June 2014,
http://bitchmagazine.org/post/the-suprising-history-of-american-sex-ed-films
.

17
. Langford, July 2014.

18
. “Who Are the Victims?” RAINN (Rape Abuse and Incest National Network), accessed September 18, 2014,
https://www.rainn.org/get-information/statistics/sexual-assault-victims
.

19
. “Who Are the Victims?” RAINN, accessed September 18, 2014.

20
. “Rape and Sexual Assault: A Renewed Call to Action,” The White House Council on Women and Girls, (January 2014): 1,
http://www.whitehouse.gov/sites/default/files/docs/sexual_assault_report_1-21-14.pdf
.

21
. The White House Council, January 2014, 1.

22
. “Statistics,” RAINN (Rape Abuse and Incest National Network), accessed September 18, 2014,
https://www.rainn.org/statistics
.

23
. “Statistics,” RAINN, accessed September 18, 2014.

24
. Vernacchio, August 2014.

25
. Lang, August 2014.

26
. Schwartz, July 2014.

27
. Langford, July 2014.

28
. Lang, August 2014.

29
. Vernacchio, August 2014.

30
. Vernacchio, August 2014.

31
. Lang, August 2014.

32
. Parker, “Young People, Sex, and Relationships,” 22.

33
. “American Teens' Sexual and Reproductive Health,” Guttmacher Institute (May 2014): 1,
http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/FB-ATSRH.pdf
.

34
. Langford, July 2014.

35
. Lang, August 2014.

36
. Sharon Lamb,
The Secret Lives of Girls: What Good Girls Really Do—Sex Play, Aggression, and Their Guilt
(New York: The Free Press, 2001), 2.

37
. The White House Council, January 2014, 1.

38
. “Comprehensive Sex Education: Research and Results,” Advocates for Youth (September 2009): 1,
http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/storage/advfy/documents/fscse.pdf
.

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

The V-word : true stories about first-time sex / [edited by] Amber J. Keyser.

pages cm

Includes bibliographical references and index.

1. First sexual experiences. 2. Virginity. 3. Sex. I. Keyser, Amber.

HQ21.V185 2016

306.7—dc23

2015019131

ISBN 978-1-58270-590-3 (hc)

ISBN 978-1-58270-521-7 (pbk)

ISBN 978-1-4814-2729-6 (eBook)