Posterity (35 page)

Clara Barton, the founder and president of the Red Cross, was once reminded of a wrong a friend had done to her years earlier. “Don't you remember?” the friend asked. “No,” replied Clara firmly. “I distinctly remember forgetting that.” Not bad advice. Take a lesson from your dad. He says that when I remind him that someone has been hateful, “Isn't it better to make a friend rather than an enemy?” He's right too.

Don't talk about money . . . either having it or not having it. It is embarrassing for others and quite frankly vulgar.

DO NOT BUY SOMETHING THAT YOU CANNOT AFFORD. YOU DO NOT NEED IT.

If you really need something and can't afford it . . . for heaven's sake call home. That's what family are all about.

Do not try to live up to your neighbors. They won't look down on you if you don't have two television sets. They will look down on you if you buy things that you cannot afford and they will know it! They are only interested in their possessions, not yours.

Be sure that you pay people back. If you have dinner at their house or they take you out, have them back, but remember you don't need the expensive thing. You can make the best spaghetti in the world. People love to come to your home. Plan ahead and it will be fun.

Value your friends. They are your most valuable asset.

Remember loyalty is a two-way street. It goes up and down. So be loyal to those people who are loyal to you. Your dad is the best example of two-way loyalty that I know.

Love your children. I don't have to tell any of you that. You are the best children any two people ever had. I know you will be as lucky. Your kids are great. Dad and I love them more than life itself. I think you know that about your dad. I do also.

Remember what Robert Fulghum says: “Don't worry that your children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.”

For heaven's sake enjoy life. Don't cry over things that were or things that aren't. Enjoy what you have now to the fullest. In all honesty you really only have two choices; you can like what you do
OR
you can dislike it. I choose to like it and what fun I have had. The other choice is no fun and people do not want to be around a whiner. We can always find people who are worse off and we don't have to look far! Help them and forget self!

I would certainly say, above all, seek God. He will come to you if you look. There is absolutely
NO
down side. Please expose your children and set a good example for them by going to church. We, your dad and I, have tried to live as Christian a life as we can. We certainly have not been perfect. Maybe you can! Keep trying.

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Births, Deaths, Marriages, Children

Adams, Abigail (November 22, 1744—October 28, 1810)

m. John Adams (married October 25, 1764; deceased 1826)

Abigail (1765–1813)

John Quincy (1767–1848)

Susanna (1768–1770)

Charles (1770–1800)

Thomas (1772–1832)

Adams, Ansel (February 20, 1902—April 22, 1984)

m. Virginia Best (married January 2, 1928; deceased 2000)

Michael (1933– )

Anne (1935– )

Adams, John (October 30, 1735—July 4, 1826)

m. Abigail Smith (married October 25, 1764; deceased 1810)

Abigail (1765–1813)

John Quincy (1767–1848)

Susanna (1768–1770)

Charles (1770–1800)

Thomas (1772–1832)

Adams, John Quincy (July 11, 1767—February 23, 1848)

m. Louisa Catherine Johnson (married July 26, 1797; deceased May 14, 1852)

George Washington (1801–1829)

John (1803–1834)

Charles Francis (1807–1886)

Louisa Catherine (1811–1812)

Anderson, Sherwood (September 13, 1876—March 8, 1941)

m. Cornelia Pratt Lane (married May 16, 1904; divorced July 27, 1916)

Robert (1907–1951)

John (1908–1995)

Marion (1911–unknown)

m. Tennessee Claflin Mitchell (married July 31, 1916; divorced April 1924)

m. Elizabeth Prall (married April 5, 1924; divorced February, 1932)

m. Eleanor Gladys Copenhaver (married July 6, 1933)

Audubon, John James (April 26, 1785—January 27, 1851)

m. Lucy Bakewell (married 1808; deceased 1874)

Victor (1809–1860)

John (1812–1862)

Lucy (1815–1817)

Rose (1819–1820)

Bell, Alexander Graham (March 3, 1847—August 2, 1922)

m. Mabel Hubbard (married July 11, 1877; deceased 1923)

Elsie (1878–1964)

Marian “Daisy” Hubbard (1880–1962)

Edward (1881–1881)

Robert (1883–1883)

Bradstreet, Anne (c. 1612—September 16, 1672)

m. Simon Bradstreet (married c. 1628; deceased 1697)

Dorothy (1633–1671/72)

Samuel (c. 1632–1683)

Sarah (c. 1636–1707)

Simon (1640–1683/84)

Hannah Ann (c. 1643–1707)

Mercy (1647–1714)

Dudley (1648–1702)

John (1652–1717/18)

Elizabeth (1662/63–unknown)

Annie (1665–unknown)

Bush, Barbara (June 8, 1925– )

m. George Herbert Walker Bush (married January 6, 1945)

George (1946– )

Robin (1949–1953)

John Ellis “Jeb” (1953– )

Neil (1955– )

Marvin (1956– )

Dorothy “Doro” (1959– )

Bush, George Herbert Walker (June 12, 1924– )

m. Barbara Pierce (married January 6, 1945)

George (1946– )

Robin (1949–1953)

John Ellis “Jeb” (1953– )

Neil (1955– )

Marvin (1956– )

Dorothy “Doro” (1959– )

Byrd, Richard (October 25, 1888—March 11, 1957)

m. Marie Ames (married 1915; deceased 1974)

Richard Jr. (1920–1988)

Bolling (1922– )

Katherine (1924– )

Helen (1926–1974)

Catlin, George (July 26, 1796—December 23, 1872)

m. Clara B. Gregory (deceased 1845)

[child died in 1836]

Elizabeth Wing (1837–unknown)

Clara Gregory (1839–unknown)

Louise Victoria (1841–unknown)

George, Jr. (1843–1846)

Chase, Salmon P. (January 13, 1808—May 7, 1873)

m. Katherine Garniss (married March 4, 1834; deceased December 1835)

Catherine Jane “Kate” (1835–1840)

m. Eliza Ann Smith (married September 1839; deceased September 29, 1845)

Catherine Jane “Kate” (1840–1899)

Elizabeth (1842–1842)

Elizabeth (1843–1844)

m. Sarah Bella Dunlop Ludlow (married November 6, 1846; deceased January 13, 1852)

Janet Ralston “Nettie” (1847–1925)

Josephine Ludlow “Zoe” (1849–1850)

Cronyn, Hume (July 18, 1911—June 15, 2003)

m. Emily Woodruff (married 1935; divorced 1942)

m. Jessica Tandy (married September 27, 1942; deceased September 11, 1994)

Susan Hawkins (Jessica Tandy's daughter from marriage to actor Jack Hawkins) (1934– )

Christopher (1943– )

Tandy (1945– )

m. Susan Cooper (married 1996)

(stepchildren Jonathan Grant and Kate Glennon)

Douglas, William O. (October 16, 1898—January 19, 1980)

m. Mildred Riddle (married August 16, 1923; divorced 1954)

Mildred (1929– )

William (1932– )

m. Mercedes Hester Davidson (married December 14, 1954; divorced 1963)

m. Joan Martin (married August 1963; divorced 1966)

m. Cathleen Heffernan (married July 1966)

Douglass, Frederick (ca. February 1817—February 20, 1895)

m. Anna Murray (married September 15, 1838; deceased 1882)

Rosetta (1839–1906)

Lewis (1840–1908)

Frederick (1842–1892)

Charles (1844–1920)

Annie (1849–1860)

m. Helen Pitts (married January 24, 1884; deceased December 1, 1903)

Du Bois, W. E. B. (February 23, 1868—August 27, 1963)

m. Nina Gomer (married May 12, 1896; deceased 1950)

Yolande (1900–1960)

Burghardt (1897–1899)

m. Shirley Graham (married February 27, 1951; deceased April 4, 1977)

Edison, Thomas Alva (February 11, 1847—October 18, 1931)

m. Mary Stilwell (married December 25, 1871; deceased 1884)

Estelle (1872–1965)

Thomas Alva, Jr. (1876–1935)

William (1878–1937)

m. Mina Miller (married February 24, 1886; deceased August 24, 1947)

Theodore (1898–1992)

Madeleine (1888–1979)

Charles (1890–1969)

Edwards, Jonathan (October 5, 1703—March 22, 1758)

m. Sarah Pierpont (married July 1727; deceased 1758)

Jerusha (1730–1748)

Esther (1732–1758)

Mary (1734–1807)

Lucy (1736–1786)

Timothy (1738–1813)

Jonathan, Jr. (1745–1801)

Pierpont (1750–1826)

Einstein, Albert (March 14, 1879—April 18, 1955)

m. Mileva Maric (married January 6, 1903; divorced 1919)

Lieserl (February 4, 1902–?)

Hans Albert (1904–1973)

Eduard (1910–1965)

m. Elsa (married June 1919; deceased 1936)

Eliot, Charles W. (March 20, 1834—August 22, 1926)

m. Ellen Peabody (married October 27, 1858; deceased March 13, 1869)

Charles (1859–1897)

Francis (1861–1861)

Samuel (1862–1950)

Robert (1866–1867)

m. Grace Hopkinson (married October 30, 1877; deceased 1924)

Fisher, M. F. K. (July 3, 1908—June 22, 1992)

m. Alfred Young Fisher (married 1929; divorced 1937)

m. Dillwyn Parrish (married 1937; deceased 1941)

Anna Kennedy (1943– )

m. Donald Friede (married May 1945; divorced 1951)

Mary Kennedy (March 1946– )

Fitzgerald, F. Scott (September 24, 1896—December 21, 1940)

m. Zelda (married April 3, 1920; deceased March 10, 1948)

Scottie (1921–1986)

Franklin, Benjamin (January 6, 1706—April 17, 1790)

m. Deborah Read (married September 1, 1730; deceased December 19, 1774)

William (1731–1813)

Francis Folger (1732–1736)

Sarah “Sally” (1743–1808)

Garrison, William Lloyd (December 10, 1805—May 24, 1879)

m. Helen Benson (married September 4, 1834; deceased 1876)

George Thompson (1836–1904)

William Lloyd, Jr. (1838–1909)

Wendell Phillips (1840–1907)

Charles Follen (1842–1849)

Helen Frances “Fanny” (1844–1928)

Elizabeth Pease (1846–1848)

Francis Jackson (1848–1916)

Gates, Henry Louis (September 16, 1950– )

m. Sharon Lynn Adams (married September 1, 1979)

Maude Augusta “Maggie” (1980– )

Elizabeth Helen-Claire “Liza” (1982– )

Guthrie, Woody (July 14, 1912—October 3, 1967)

m. Mary Jennings (married October 28, 1933; divorced 1945)

Gwen (1935–1976)

Sue (1937–1978)

Will (1939–1962)

m. Marjorie Greenblatt Mazia (married 1945; divorced 1953)

Cathy Ann (1943–1947)

Arlo (1947– )

Joady (1948– )

Nora (1950– )

m. Anneke Van Kirk (married 1953; divorced 1956)

Lorina Lynn (1954–1973)

Hammerstein, Oscar II (July 12, 1895—August 23, 1960)

m. Myra Finn (married August 22, 1917; divorced 1928)

William (1918–2001)

Alice (1921– )

m. Dorothy Blanchard (married May 14, 1929; deceased 1987)

James (1931–1999)

Houston, Sam (March 2, 1793—July 26, 1863)

m. Eliza Allen (married January 22, 1829; divorced November 30, 1833)

m. Margaret Lea (married May 9, 1841; deceased December 3, 1867)

Sam (1843–1894)

Nancy (1846–1920)

Margaret (1848–1906)

Mary (1850–1931)

Antoinette (1852–1932)

Andrew Jackson (1854–1941)

William (1858–unknown)

Temple Lea (1860–1905)

Howard, Moses “Moe” (June 19, 1897—May 4, 1975)

m. Helen Schonberger (married 1925; deceased 1975)

Joan (1927– )

Paul (1935– )

Howells, William Dean (March 1, 1837—May 11, 1920)

m. Elinor Gertrude Mead (married December 24, 1862; deceased 1910)

Winifred (1863–1899)

John (1868–1959)

Mildred (1872–1966)

James, William (January 11, 1842—August 26, 1910)

m. Alice Howe Gibbens (married July 10, 1878; deceased 1922)

Henry III (1879–1947)

William (1882–1961)

Herman (1884–1885)

Mary Margaret “Peggy” (1887–1952)

Alexander “Tweedy” (1890–1946)

Jefferson, Thomas (April 13, 1743—July 4, 1826)

m. Martha Skelton (married January 1, 1772; deceased September 6, 1782)

Martha “Patsy” (1772–1836)

Jane (1774–1775)

unnamed son (1777–1777)

Maria “Polly” (1778–1804)

Lucy Elizabeth (1780–1781)

Lucy Elizabeth (1782–1785)

Lanier, Sidney (February 3, 1842—September 7, 1881)

m. Mary Day (married December 21, 1867; deceased 1931)

Charles (1868–1945)

Sidney (1870–1918)

Henry Wysham (1873–1958)

Robert (1880–1912)

Lee, Robert E. (January 19, 1807–October 12, 1870)

m. Mary Anne Custis (married June 30, 1831; deceased 1873)

George Washington Custis (1832–1913)

Mary Custis (1835–1918)

William Henry Fitzhugh (1837–1891)

Annie (1839–1862)

Eleanor Agnes (1841–1873)

Robert E., Jr. (1843–1914)

Mildred Chase (1846–1905)

Lincoln, Mary Todd (December 13, 1818—July 15, 1882)

m. Abraham Lincoln (married November 4, 1842; deceased April 15, 1865)

Robert (1843–1926)

Edward (1846–1850)

William “Willie” (1850–1862)

Thomas “Tad” (1853–1871)

London, Jack (January 12, 1867—November 22, 1916)

m. Bess Maddern (married April 7, 1900; divorced, October 1905)

Joan (1901–1971)

Bess (1902–1992)

m. Charmian Kittredge (married October 1905; deceased 1955)

Joy (1910–1910)

Luce, Clare Boothe (April 10, 1903—October 9, 1987)

m. George Tuttle Brokaw (married August 10, 1923; divorced 1929)

Ann Clare (1924–1944)

m. Henry Luce (married November 23, 1935; deceased February 28, 1967)

Mahan, Alfred Thayer (September 27, 1840—December 1, 1914)

m. Ellen Lyle (married June 11, 1872; deceased 1927)

Helen (1873–1963)

Ellen Kuhn (1877–1947)

Lyle Evans (1881–1966)

Marx, Groucho (Julius Henry) (October 2, 1890—August 19, 1977)

m. Ruth Johnson (married February 4, 1920; divorced July 15, 1942)

Arthur (1921– )

Miriam (1927– )

m. Catherine Gorcey (married July 21, 1945; divorced 1951)

Melinda (1946– )

m. Eden Hartford (married July 17, 1954; divorced 1969)

Melville, Herman (August 1, 1819–September 28, 1891)

m. Elizabeth Shaw (married August 1847; deceased 1906)

Malcolm (1849–1867)

Stanwix (1851–1886)

Elizabeth (1853–1908)

Frances (1885–1938)

O'Hara, John (January 31, 1905–April 11, 1970)

m. Helen Ritchie Petit (married February 28, 1931; divorced 1933)

m. Belle Mulford Wylie (married December 3, 1937; deceased January 9, 1954)

Wylie (1945– )

m. Katharine “Sister” Barnes Bryan (married January 31, 1955; deceased 1974)

Olmsted, Frederick Law (April 26, 1822—August 28, 1903)

m. Mary Perkins Olmsted (married June 13, 1859; deceased April 23, 1921)

John Charles (1852–1920)

Charlotte (1855–1908)

Owen (1857–1881)

John Theodore (1860–1860)

Marion (1861–1948)

unnamed boy (1866–1866)

Henry (Frederick Law Olmsted, Jr.) (1870–1957)

O'Neill, Eugene (October 16, 1888–November 27, 1953)

m. Kathleen Jenkins (married October 2, 1909; divorced July 1912)

Eugene, Jr. (1910—1950)

m. Agnes Boulton (married January 1918; divorced July 1929)

Shane (1919–1977)

Oona (1925–1991)

m. Carlotta Monterey (married July 1929; deceased November 18, 1970)

Patton, George (November 11, 1885—December 21, 1945)

m. Beatrice Ayer (married May 26, 1910; deceased 1953)

Beatrice (1911–1952)

Ruth Ellen (1915–1993)