Read Open: Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage Online
Authors: Jenny Block
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Helen Fisher, PhD,
Anatomy of Love
:
A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray
(New York: Random House, 1992), 86.
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(Philadelphia: W. B. Saunders Co., 1948), 409.
Nena O’Neill and George O’Neill,
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(New York: Avon Books, 1972), 236.
4. Ibid., 237.
David P. Barash, PhD, and Judith Eve Lipton, MD,
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(New York: Henry Holt and Company, 2001), 21.
Nena O’Neill and George O’Neill,
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254.
Hilda Hutcherson, MD, “10 Sex Questions Every Woman Should Ask Herself,”
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E. J. Graff,
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Susan Faludi,
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10. Ibid., 161.
11. Graff,
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98
12. Ibid., 96.
Barash and Lipton,
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2, 4.
Ibid., 1.
bell hooks, “Subversive Desire,”
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Fisher,
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Kipnis,
Against Love,
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Anne Kingston,
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Chapter 3. Just Pick Someone Already
Fisher,
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163.
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Anne Kingston,
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Kipnis,
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18.
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Iris Krasnow,
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7. Ibid., 23.
Chapter 4. Everyone Else Manages to Do It, Why Can’t I?
Fisher,
Anatomy of Love,
298.
Barash and Lipton,
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2.
Barash, “Deflating the Myth of Monogamy,”
Chronicle of Higher Education,
April 20, 2001, B16–17.
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Stephanie Coontz,
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Ibid., 7.
Kipnis,
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Ibid.
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Kinsey and others,
Sexual Behavior in the Human Male;
Kinsey and others,
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(Philadelphia: W. B. Saunders Co., 1953).
Chapter 5. This Is a Test
Polyamorous Percolations, September 21, 2007,
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Michelle Chihara, “Multi-Player Option: Young polyamorists are rewriting the laws of desire,” Nerve.com, June 8, 2004, www.nerve. com/dispatches/multiplayeroption.
Ibid.
Chapter 6. Having Our Cake and Eating It, Too
Kipnis,
Against Love,
132.
Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt,
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Patrick Carnes, PhD, “Contrary to Love: Helping the Sexual Addict” (Minneapolis: CompCare Publishers, 1989), 5–6.
Annie Sprinkle, “Sex Addiction,” AnnieSprinkle.org, www.annie sprinkle.org/html/writings.
Block, “Portrait of an Open Marriage.”
Ibid.
Stephen A. Mitchell,
Can Love Last?
(New York: W. W. Norton & Company, 2002), 104.
Graff,
What Is Marriage For?,
82. 11. Ibid., 103.
Chapter 7. You Can’t Run Out of Love
Lisa Diamond, “Development of sexual orientation among adolescent and young adult women,”
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Diamond,
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Baumgardner,
Look Both Ways,
10.
Jeannine DeLombard, “Femmenism,” in
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Ibid.
Baumgardner,
Look Both Ways,
170. 7. Ibid., 50.
8. Kinsey,
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639.
Chapter 8. It’s Not Necessarily What You Think
Olive Skene Johnson, PhD,
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Ibid.
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13. 10. Ibid., 174.
Judy Syfers, “Why I Want a Wife,”
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13. Ibid., 337.
Deborah Anapol, ABC News, August 10, 2007, www.abcnews. go.com/US/LifeStages.
Chapter 10. Our Very Own Happily Ever After
1. “Growth of Infidelity in the United States,”
New York Times,
August 9, 1854.
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