Off Balance: A Memoir (27 page)

During one of Tata’s visits, he and Mama got into an explosive argument late one night. I didn’t even know what started the fight, but it escalated super fast. I stepped in to try to calm Tata down, which only opened the door for him to yell at me for everything wrong I’d ever done. It got ugly. Tata said he was moving Mama and Christina back to Houston. Mama, who was usually the calm, quiet one in the room, started to lose it and argued back at Tata in Romanian. Tata grabbed Mama’s car keys and headed outside to Mama’s car, saying something about driving to Texas. Tata was screaming in front of our apartment building at the top of his lungs, and I was convinced the neighbors would call the police any minute. Somehow we ended up sitting in the car—Tata and Mama in the front seats and Christina and I in the back.

I thought things might settle down once Tata realized the craziness of the situation—a family of four screaming loudly at one another in a parked SUV in the middle of the night—but Tata was undaunted and proceeded to complain about Texas and how we needed to be there. He was just getting started, it seemed. With one quick lunge, I dove over the front seat and grabbed the keys from the ignition. I opened the car door and dashed for the apartment, looking back to see Christina and Mama scrambling along behind me. We got into the apartment, and I locked the door before Tata could enter. Mama looked taken aback that I had the courage to lock out an enraged Tata.

“Dominique, open the door!” Tata demanded in Romanian as he pounded loudly on the door. “Open the door right now!”

“No,” I said, literally shaking in my boots, hoping that that flimsy door could hold Tata back. Mama was afraid, too, but was worried what the neighbors would think of our ordeal. The pounding on the door continued. “Don’t you dare let him in,” I kept telling Mama before I finally picked up the phone and dialed 911. It was the first time I’d ever actually called the police, but I was fed up with feeling terrorized by my own father. I wasn’t going to wait until Tata broke down the door or got into a fight with neighbors coming out of their apartments. He continued pounding on the door and swearing at me, saying what a bad person I was.

Two male officers responded to my call. They made sure we were okay, then took Tata to the airport, so he could fly home to Houston. Tata was a great talker, and even though he had just tormented our entire apartment building with his ranting and banging on the door and walls, he managed to convince the officers to take him to the airport when any bystander would think he was headed straight to the local jail.

The quiet in the apartment lasted only a short while, as Tata started calling Mama’s cell phone nonstop from the airport. My jaw dropped when Mama answered the phone to talk to him, so I quickly grabbed it from her and hung up on him. It was pointless, since she answered immediately when he called back again. A few minutes later, Mama was grabbing her keys to go pick up Tata from the airport like he’d asked. Apparently, Tata was sitting with his head drooped downward on an outside bench when Mama pulled up. His tail between his legs, he knew he was in the wrong. I was still too angry and didn’t want to see him, so I left the apartment before they returned. He never apologized to any of us, and life carried on like nothing had ever happened.

This was the kind of craziness that confused me while I was growing up. We had finally come to a place without rage and violence, only to invite it right back in. I knew it was a cycle I didn’t want to continue when I had my own family one day.

Sadly, 1999 came and went with a lot of pain and angst, but not a lot of gymnastics. For the first time in my life, I didn’t compete in a single competition the entire year. I had struggled with several new lows that year and I had started to question if I’d ever be able to compete again. I felt defeated. Luckily, my agent, Janey, one of the few people who hadn’t given up on me, recognized that deep down I wasn’t ready to retire, and she stayed positive, looking for new opportunities.

Chapter 11

JENNIFER: FLASH FORWARD

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t had only been a few months since the mind-blowing revelation that I had another sister. And even though I hadn’t met Jen in person yet, I felt like I was rapidly growing closer to her. We shared a tireless series of stories over the phone and provided midday updates through text and sometimes email. Despite the fact that I had just given birth to my first child and was consumed with the joy and daily discoveries that come with that, I still couldn’t get enough news from Jen. I felt fortunate to have been able
to support her as she began her journey into aerial acrobatics, which she’d later turn into a promising career.

It was during one of our early phone conversations that Jen mentioned an interest in getting back into gymnastics herself. She was living in Orlando and working at Disney World as an operations cast member for the park’s parades and shows. She loved watching the stage shows with acrobatics and aerial work, and she felt with her strength and agility, she could perform those routines if given the chance. She had been such a powerhouse in tumbling and gymnastics when she was younger, so I thought it was a great idea for her to try it. She’d already proven to be a champion tumbler—despite having no legs—so why couldn’t she be an acrobat?

I was impressed to see how quickly Jen moved to make this dream a reality. One minute she was telling me she “just knew” she could do what these acrobats were doing, and by the next time we spoke, she was already lining up a professional partner. One of her Disney managers had given her the name of an aerial gymnast, and Jen was arranging to meet with him. I was so impressed by her focus and determination. Boy, when she wanted to get something done, look out.

I looked forward to Jen’s updates about her training sessions with her new partner, Nate. I could tell from the pure joy and excitement in her voice that she’d found a new challenge—one she absolutely loved. Her enthusiasm was contagious, and I even got excited hearing about her strenuous workouts and how they’d make her so sore she could barely lift her wheelchair into her car afterward. She hadn’t worked out hard for the past four years, but she was doing all the right things to get back into shape. I remember when she talked about being a bit nervous to train on “silks” since many of the tricks required the use of legs for support, but a week later when we spoke, she reported that she was already doing “roll-ups” on the silks, which typically only male acrobats are strong enough to do. I could barely keep up with her progress because she
was moving ahead so quickly. It was very rewarding and inspiring to follow her path as she achieved a succession of goals. My “new” sister was growing into a real superhero to me. I couldn’t wait to meet her in person, yet I was still a little nervous. I didn’t want to rush into a meeting too fast and ruin what we had built so far.

Jen and Nate shared gym space with soccer and volleyball players, so they would warm up and practice stunts on the trampoline while they were waiting for their floor time. These trampoline “stunts” soon turned into a full-length act that got the attention of other gym patrons and promoters. Before they knew it, they booked their first gig, center stage at the Amway Arena in Orlando with more than five thousand people in the audience. I remember Jen was over the moon describing how they had “knocked the performance out of the park.”

I liked it when Jen bounced ideas off of me and asked for my input or feedback on training and performing. I was desperate to do something more for her, my sister. I tried to give Jen every bit of advice that I thought could possibly be helpful with her career. I’d been burned too many times by people I thought I could trust, who’d claim they wanted to be my friend or help me, when they really just wanted to use me for their own gain all along. I didn’t want Jen making the same mistakes I’d made over the years. I already felt that we were close enough to talk about those things honestly.

Christina, Jen, and I began to brainstorm about where and when the three of us should meet in person. I think we all knew that we’d maximized our “getting to know each other” period over the telephone and it was time to take the next step. My sisters took mercy on me as a new mom and agreed that it would be easiest if the two of them came to my home in Cleveland.

I finally met Jen in May 2008. As she wheeled herself through the elevator doors at the airport, she was exactly what I’d pictured—beautiful, spirited, confident, and independent. She’d traveled from Florida to Ohio and arrived midday, an hour and a
half before Christina’s flight from Texas. I hugged her tightly, then handed her the rose I bought on the way to the airport. I wasn’t sure if it was what one gives a long-lost sister, but she seemed to like it.

“This is your auntie Jen,” I said to Carmen, who was watching us from her stroller. Jen smiled from ear to ear as she cooed with Carmen.

It was surreal, yet stingingly real. Having her in front of me, I could see she was a Moceanu through and through. I’d already seen lots of her photos, but it was much more obvious in person. She reminded me so much of Christina and myself—not only the striking physical similarities, but the way she talked and laughed, even the way she moved her hands when she was describing things. I just kept staring at her. We had a chance to talk and get comfortable in each other’s presence as we ate and waited for Christina.

Once Christina’s flight arrived, I became even more emotional. It seemed like our circle was complete, and I tried my best to hold back tears as the three of us hugged. Jen and Christina seemed to be keeping it together, and I didn’t want my crying to distract them from their own first moments together. Back at my house, we sat in the living room for hours, talking about our childhoods, sharing photos, and trying to fill in the gaps. I asked her to retell stories she’d already shared on the phone, just to make sure I didn’t miss any details.

“I just can’t believe we’re all really here together, and I’m finally meeting you and Christina in person!” Jen repeated a few times that first night, almost in disbelief. She had dreamed of us coming together for so many years, I think it was a bit overwhelming that it was actually happening at last.

We avoided talking about Mama and Tata at first, but we all knew we’d have to discuss them at some point. It was like the elephant in the room that everyone pretends doesn’t exist. Tata and
Mama were what bound the three of us together. They were our parents, at least sort of. How do you reconcile one sister being put up for adoption? By that time, we all understood the circumstances surrounding Jen’s adoption, and it was pretty clear that Jen’s childhood was a lot more stable and happier than mine and Christina’s had been, but it still had to be addressed. I took a deep breath and told Jen that Tata and Mama had been asking a lot about her and that they were supportive that we were building a relationship. I told Jen that Tata had become quite ill recently, but that he and Mama hoped they would be able to meet Jen one day, too, even though they were nervous about it. Jen listened to my words. She seemed so gathered and mature, I had to remind myself she was only twenty years old. I knew she had prepared for this moment—meeting her biological family—for a long time, and I’d hoped she was getting the answers she needed. I looked forward to Jen ultimately meeting Tata and Mama because I thought it might give her more closure about her birth and how she ended up with her family, the Brickers.

Those few days together were magical. We were able to open up and share our feelings, cry, laugh, and bond in new ways, and the fact that we did all this within the walls of my home made it even more special for me. As we hugged good-bye, we all promised to get together again sooner than later. I had no worries; I knew we’d make it happen.

Jen and Nate’s first performance at Amway Arena in Orlando gave them immediate media attention. They started to land trampoline and silk performances, first in Florida, then all around the world, including the modern dance arena with the world-renowned Heidi Latsky. It all happened very quickly and in 2009, Jen was invited to join the biggest tour in the pop world at the time, the Britney Spears tour. Nate had been hired onto the tour and once he showed the producers video of Jen performing, they invited her to become part of the cast. What performer doesn’t dream
about doing their thing alongside a world-famous pop icon? Heck, I would’ve loved to have gone on tour with Britney Spears myself! And to think that Jen had only been involved in aerial gymnastics for one year at that point was mind-boggling. I remember telling her how proud I was and how she deserved it all as she set off for the second leg of the US and Australian tour.

I was fortunate to see Jen and Nate perform when the tour stopped in Columbus, Ohio. Jen and Nate’s routine on the trampoline electrified the arena and left fans screaming for an encore. I had chills up and down my arms. It was a richly satisfying, emotional experience for me to see Jen perform on this grand stage.

In the short time I’d known Jen, I’d watched her break boundaries and do things most people with all their limbs only dream about. I looked forward to seeing what other tricks she had up her sleeve as she ventured out to Los Angeles to pursue her solo career. One thing I’d learned so far was that when Jennifer Bricker sets her mind to something, you’d better believe it will be happening.