Labor of Love (37 page)

Revenge of the Nerds
(film)

Revolt of Modern Youth, The
(Lindsey)

Reyburn, Samuel

Richards, Sarah Elizabeth

Richman, Phyllis

Risky Business
(film)

Roberts, Julia

Robinson, Smokey

Rockefeller, John D., Jr.

Rockwell, Norman

Rogan, Seth

Rogers, Ginger

Rosary College

Rosett, Jane

Rosin, Hanna

Ross, Diana

Rubin, Jerry

Rules Girls

Rules, The
(Fein and Schneider)

Saab

Saleslady, The
(Donovan)

Salt-N-Pepa (hip-hop trio)

Sandberg, Sheryl

Sanders, Ed

San Francisco; AIDS crisis in; the Castro; Mission District; Tenderloin; Haight-Ashbury; homosexual experience in

San Francisco AIDS Foundation

San Francisco Mime Troupe

Sanger, Margaret

Sarria, José

Savage, Dan

Savage Love
(newspaper column)

Sawyer, Diane

Say Yes to the Dress
(TV show)

Schneider, Sherrie

Schrader, Julie Ann

Seale, Bobby

Seattle

SeekingArrangement

segregation

Seinfeld
(TV show)

Seinfeld, Jerry

self-help industry

7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The
(Covey)

Seventeenth Summer
(Daly)

sex; abstinence from; advice about; in age of AIDS; at college; group; and inhibited sexual desire (ISD); as leisure; as liberating force; premarital; pre-premarital; safe

Sex and the City
(TV show)

Sex and the Office
(Brown)

Sex and the Single Girl
(Brown)

sex education; abstinence only; online

Sex for One
(Dodson)

Sex in the Nineties
(TV show)

sex therapy

Sex Tips for Straight Women from a Gay Man
(Anderson and Berman)

Sexual Dictionary
(1916)

Sexual Freedom League

sexual health

sexual revolution

sexual violence

sexually transmitted diseases (STDs);
see also
AIDS; human immunodeficiency virus (HIV)

sex workers

Shins, the (rock band)

Shopgirls; as Charmers

Silver, Cookie

Single Girl; desirability of; financial independence of

singles bars

singles chat rooms

Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence

Skinny Girl Margaritas

slavery; “white slavery”

Sleeping Beauty
(film)

Sloan, Alfred P.

Smith, Dr. David

Smith, Lamar

Smiths, the (rock band)

Smith, Wendell

Smylie, Catherine

Sneak Previews, Inc.

Social Register

Sonnabend, Dr. Joseph

Sonnichsen, Natalie

Sopranos, The
(TV show)

sororities

Soul Date a Mate

Soul Mates Unlimited

Soviet Union

Spears, Britney

Sperm Bank of California

sperm banks;
see also
fertility; pregnancy; reproduction;
individual names of sperm banks

SRI International

stagflation

Standard Oil

Stanford University

Stanton Street Settlement

Steadies

Steady Era

Stein, Gertrude

Stewart, Martha

Stillman, Alan

Sting

Stone, Oliver

Stonewall riots (1969)

Stover at Yale
(Johnson)

Strand Hotel (New York)

Stranger, The
(newspaper)

Strauss, Neil

StrawClub (app)

Stritch, Samuel Alphonsus Cardinal

Student Nonviolent Coordinating Committee (SNCC)

Studio 54 (nightclub)

Sugar Babies

Sugar Daddies

Sulzberger, Iphigene Ochs

Summer of Love (1967)

Summers, David

Supremes, the

swingers

Syracuse University

Taylor, Kate

Technique of the Love Affair, The
(Moore)

teenagers; black; gay; hookups among; Latina; life planning of; marriage among; pregnancy among; runaways; sex among; spending of;
see also
sex education

Teen Mom

television; sex education from; sitcoms on

Temptations, the

T.G.I. Friday's

Think and Grow Rich
(Hill)

Third World AIDS Advisory Task Force (TWAATF)

This Side of Paradise
(Fitzgerald)

Thorne, Richard

Thurber, James

Thurman, Wallace

Till, Emmett

Time
(magazine)

Tinder (app); hooking up on

Today For Singles, Inc.

Tokyo

Toronto

Town and Gown
(story collection, 1922)

Toyota

Toys in Babeland

transgendered; public spaces for

Transvestites
(Hirschfeld)

Tri Ess

Trojan condoms

True Love Waits

Tuscaloosa

Twenge, Jean

Uber

Ullman, Estelle

Ullman, Jeff

Understanding AIDS
(Koop)

Vacio, Natividad

Valdez, Scott

Van Wilder
(film)

vaudeville

Veness, T. W.

Venning, Rachel

vice

vice squads; target homosexuals

Vietnam War

Virginia Slims cigarettes

Virginia, University of

Virtual Dating Assistants

Vogue

Von Teese, Dita

Wade, Brandon

Wade, Lisa

Wallace, David Foster

Waller, Willard

Wall Street
(film)

Wall Street Journal

wanting; to be wanted

Washington, D.C.

Washington Post

Watkins, Gloria,
see
hooks, bell

Weaver, Sigourney

Weird Science
(film)

welfare

Wellesley College

Werther, Ralph

West, Kanye

West, Mae

West, Nathanael

What's Your Number?
(film)

What to Eat and When
(Cocroft)

When Harry Met Sally
(film)

White Collar
(Mills)

White, E. B.

White Noise
(DeLillo)

Whitman, Walt

Wicker, Randy

Williamson, Terry

Winfrey, Oprah

Wired

Wisconsin, University of

Wizard of Oz
(film)

Wolfe, Tom

Women's Army Corps (WAC)

women's liberation

Working Girl
(film)

Working Woman
(magazine)

Woodhull, Victoria

work; being overworked; effect on dating of; effects on reproduction of; emotional; freelance; precariousness of; women's

Work and Education Survey (Gallup, 2014)

World War I

World War II; effect on dating

Wright, Frances

Yale University

yippies

Young Men's Christian Association (YMCA)

Young Women's Christian Association (YWCA)

Youth International Party,
see
yippies

Yuppie Handbook, The
(Piesman and Hartley)

yuppies; consumer practices of; dating practices of; film portrayals of; work lives of

Zuckerberg, Mark

 

A NOTE ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Moira Weigel
was born in Brooklyn. Her writing has appeared in
The Guardian
,
The Nation
,
The New Republic
,
n
+
1
, and
The New Inquiry
, among other publications. She is currently completing a PhD in comparative literature at Yale University. After years of first-person research on dating, she is off the market. This is her first book. You can sign up for email updates
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CONTENTS

TITLE PAGE

COPYRIGHT NOTICE

DEDICATION

 

INTRODUCTION:
DATES

  
1.
TRICKS

  
2.
LIKES

  
3.
OUTS

  
4.
SCHOOL

  
5.
STEADIES

  
6.
FREEDOM

  
7.
NICHES

  
8.
PROTOCOL

  
9.
PLANS

10.
HELP

AFTERWORD:
LOVE

 

SELECTED BIBLIOGRAPHY

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

INDEX

A NOTE ABOUT THE AUTHOR

COPYRIGHT

 

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Copyright © 2016 by Moira Weigel

All rights reserved

First edition, 2016

 

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Names: Weigel, Moira, 1984– author.

Title: Labor of love: the invention of dating / Moira Weigel.

Description: New York, NY: Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 2016.

Identifiers: LCCN 2015041606|ISBN 9780374182533 (hardback)|ISBN 9780374713133 (e-book)

Subjects: LCSH: Dating (Social customs)|Interpersonal relations.|BISAC: SOCIAL SCIENCE / Sociology / Marriage & Family.

Classification: LCC HQ801 .W6285 2016|DDC 306.73—dc23

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