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When we sat down to write a whole book together about marriage, it was with some trepidation. We'd written together for years, but never undertaken a project this big or this personal. So only half-jokingly we agreed that we would give back the publisher's advance if the book started to endanger the relationship. In reality, it was surprisingly smooth sailing, mainly because we had a lot of help along the way. Some wonderful people aided us in the actual writing of the book—our editor, Claire Wachtel, came up with the idea of a joint effort and guided us through it, nobly assisted by the industrious and delightful Jennifer Pooley. Ann Charnley, a friend of many decades, provided invaluable historical research; Colleen Connors, a former student of Steve's, shepherded us through the telling of our own story and brought her estimable daughter, Molly Rose Opinsky, along to entertain us; Jan Vulevich, who keeps track of our lives, transcribed and transmitted all of this material, while giving us a running review. Mike Silverstein at ABC Radio first told us the story of Lilly Friedman, and Suzy Snyder at the Holocaust Museum filled in some details. Jane Friedman and Cathy Hemming
welcomed us warmly to HarperCollins, and Laura Leonard's telling the world about this book, along with our colleague Su Lin Nichols at ABC News.

Taking on a project like this meant that we had to ask our friends at work for consideration and understanding, and they provided both in abundance. Robin Sproul, the bureau chief, and everyone else at ABC News in Washington, especially the folks who work with Cokie at
This Week
and with Steve at ABC Radio, have been cheerleaders and handholders. We'd also like to thank Steve's colleagues at George Washington University, particularly Jean Folkerts, director of the School of Media and Public Affairs, and his producers at CNN's
Late Edition
, PBS's
Washington Week in Review,
and NPR's
The Diane Rehm Show.
Cokie's colleagues at National Public Radio, especially Ellen McDonnell, executive producer of
Morning Edition,
have been thoughtful and supportive as always. In our joint enterprises, Bob Laird, op-ed-page editor at the New York
Daily News,
Marcia Bullard, publisher of
USA Weekend,
and the people at United Media encouraged us along the way. Our dear friend Bob Barnett, lawyer extraordinaire, can always be counted on for good advice, and Kim Roellig keeps body and soul together for us on the homefront. We'd also like to say thanks to the Workman family of Charlotte, North Carolina. Their house at Pawleys Island, South Carolina, has been a place of renewal and refreshment for more than twenty years and it's where we started writing this book. A final word of gratitude to all the “old marrieds”—particularly our moviegoing and beach-walking buddies, Linda and Fred Wertheimer—who continue to inspire us with their devotion to each other.