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Authors: Franklin Veaux

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A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship,
Laurie B. Mintz (Adams Media, 2009). A book aimed at heterosexual women with the goal of rekindling desire in long-term relationships, with success that has been supported by peer-reviewed research.

POLYAMORY

Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines for Responsible Open Relationships,
Wendy-O Matik (Defiant Times Press, 2002). A tiny manifesto on abandoning the relationship escalator and creating intentional, ethically non-monogamous relationships.

The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families,
Elisabeth Sheff (Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, 2013). An in-depth, inside view of polyamorous families based on over a decade of research.

The Polyamory on Purpose Guide to Poly and Pregnancy,
Jessica Burde (CreateSpace, 2013). A complete guide to pregnancy in poly relationships, covering topics including planned pregnancy, unintended pregnancy, custody and child care.

The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships,
Kathy Labriola (Greenery Press, 2013). Forty-two practical exercises that can be completed solo, with a partner or with the help of a therapist.

BLOGS AND WEBSITES

More Than Two, morethantwo.com.
Franklin's own website, maintained since 1997, with a wealth of information on managing poly relationships. He and Eve also maintain a blog at morethantwo.com/blog.

Solopoly, solopoly.net.
An excellent blog from a solo poly perspective, covering everything from the politics to the practicalities of solo polyamory.

The Polyamorous Misanthrope, polyamorousmisanthrope.com.
A long-running blog that's a gold mine of supremely practical poly advice, all written with a good dose of humor.

The Radical Poly Agenda, radicalpoly.wordpress.com.
A blog that takes on the political and ideological implications of polyamory from a feminist, anarchic perspective.

Sex Geek, sexgeek.wordpress.com.
Andrea Zanin's blog on polyamory, sex positivity, kink, and all things sexy and geeky. Pragmatic poly advice that goes beyond the couple-focused, heterosexual, monogamy-plus model.

Polyamory in the News, polyinthemedia.blogspot.ca.
A site that reviews global media coverage of polyamory and also contains comprehensive lists of worldwide poly events, poly groups and poly books.

Polyamory Weekly, polyweekly.com.
A weekly, down-to-Earth podcast by Cunning Minx, covering poly issues with a good dose of compassion and humor.

MEMOIR

Open: Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage,
Jenny Block (Seal Press, 2009). A personal memoir of suburban polyamory that narrates Block's exploration beyond her monogamous relationship.

The Husband Swap,
Louisa Leontiades (CreateSpace, 2012). An emotionally raw and deeply vulnerable memoir of Leontiades's entry into polyamory when she and her husband began a cross-coupled quad. Likely to resonate with many couples who are in the early stages of opening their relationship.

OUR SUPPORTERS

The following people generously contributed $25 or more to the Indiegogo campaign that funded production of this book. A full list of all backers can be found at
www.morethantwo.com/book
.

Adam Burr

Aella

Alan

Alan Escreet (polyhydra)

Alan M. MacRobert

Alex Blue

Allison Frame

Alyse M.

Amanda Richardson

Amy Graff

Andrea Cookson

Andrea Longo

Andrew Kent

Annalisa Castaldo

Annamarie Stockwell

Anne Dorey

Anne Honeycutt

Anonymous B. Shylock

Antti Qvickström

Barry L. Kramer

Beth Fettig

Bitsy

Brian and Cassandra Johnson

Brian Spinetti

Brian Watson

Brian Y.

Brittainy Shaw

Brodie Kristensen

C. Karl Neitzert

C. Thompson

Cameron Blackwood

Carl de Malmanche

Carla

Carole Chanteuse

Cascade Spring Cook

Charcoalhibiscus

Cheryl Martin

Chris Boyle

Christian Schnabel

Coralie Gill

Curvaceous Dee

Dan Girellini

Dan Mahoney and MK Williams

Daniel Cardoso

David Furcas

David H. Clements

David Lindes

David the Good

David Wheeler

Davide Rizzo

Deborah Wallach

Devin Lee

Dominica Malcolm

Dr. D. Paproski

Edward Martin III

Eilish McCahill

Elena Churilov

Elise West

Elisie

Eric Côté

Eric Wagoner

Ewen McNeill

Feygon Willow

Fred Brown

Fritz Neumann

Gabrielle Lamoureux

Geo

inger Nic

gnomees

Golfxs con principios

Grant A

Gwyneth

Hannah "Er00" Fordham

Heather Hill

Heather M.

Herbalwise

Ian Darson

Ian Neufeld

In Loving Memeory of Peter Mannon

Irene S. Khavin

Isa Pdx

J.Burton

Jan&Brian

Jared Pinkham

Jason Rodriguez

Jen Tilson

Jesse Masterson

Jessi Smith

Jessica D.

Jet Summers

Joachim Brackx

Jodie Brown

John Tse

John Ullman

Johnnemann Nordhagen

Joshua Ohmer

K. Hoffman

K'La Albertini

Karen Hill

Katrina Elisse Caudle

Ken & Jen Brown

Kendra Holliday

Kenneth R. Haslam MD

Kennita Watson

Kirsten

Kittykatkatja

Kitwench

Krister Svanlund

Leda

Lesley Mitchell

Liam Newman

LightFoot

Linda Kirkman

Lisa Meece

Liz P.

Lolita Wolf

Louisa Leontiades

Luca Boschetto, Poliamore.org

Luca Pellanda

Luís Miguel Viterbo

Lynne Everett

Mara L

Marc from Quebec

Marilou Rickert

Mark Ellis

Mark Staudt

Matt Grierson

Matt Jones

Matthew Sheahan

Maxine Green

Melissa McCollum

Metalmensch

Michelle Dunn

Mika

Mislav Marohnić

Mr Gentle Brutal

Noël Lynne Figart

NotSoSwiss

Ola Rozenfeld

Pepper Mint

Pyrategrrl

Rachel and Alex Langshall

Rae White

Rebekka K. Steg

Rob Igo

Robert Galloway

Robert Martindale

Roger Penguino

S M Weidmann

Sabrina R

Samantha Marion Perera

Samantha Miller

Sarah Levinson

Sasha Sagan

Sean Donohue

Sesselja María Mortensen

Shakira Searle

SmilingVenus

squishelle

Star Straf

Stuart Cheshire

Terry Steiner

The Atlanta Fraggle Rock Community

The GrahamJoys

Theresa A. Bruckner

Thereza

Thom Linton

Tiffany Adams

Tony Parker

Tucker McKinnon

Vernon Putman

Viktor Leberecht

Wendy Hourston

Yorkshire O.P.E.N

ABOUT THE AUTHORS

As a child,
Franklin Veaux
heard a fairy tale about a princess forced to choose between two handsome princes, and thought, "Everyone knows princesses live in castles. And castles are big enough for both princes. So why does she have to choose?" He has been writing about polyamory since 1998 at morethantwo.com, one of the top-ranked sites about polyamory on the Web. He currently has five long-term partners and lives in Portland, Oregon.

Eve Rickert
is a professional writer, editor, entrepreneur and mastermind. Her approach to poly has evolved over many years: from early experiences in high school, to first hearing the word "polyamory" in 1998, to her first swingers' party in 2006, to her current three long-term relationships. She's learned a lot of hard lessons. She co-wrote
More Than Two
to share those experiences with anyone who is struggling to maintain ethical multiple relationships with integrity, compassion and courage.

Table of Contents

Contents

Foreword

Acknowledgments

Introduction

PART 1 What is Polyamory?

1 Starting the journey

2 The many forms of love

3 Ethical polyamory

PART 2 A Poly Toolkit

4 Tending your self

5 Nurturing your relationships

6 Communication pitfalls

7 Communication strategies

8 Taming the green-eyed monster

PART 3 Poly Frameworks

9 Boundaries

10 Rules and agreements

11 Hierarchy and primary/secondary poly

12 Veto arrangements

13 Empowered relationships

14 Practical poly agreements

PART 4 The Poly Reality

15 How poly relationships are different

16 In the middle

17 Opening from a couple

18 Mono/poly relationships

19 Sex and laundry

20 Sexual health

21 Poly puzzles

22 Relationship transitions

PART 5 The Poly Ecosystem

23 Your partners' other partners

24 Finding partners

25 The rest of the world

Last words: Love more, be awesome

Glossary

Notes

Resources

Our supporters

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