March With Venus: 94 Love Games (Book 7) (4 page)

Follow your heart.

Following your heart in everything you do, especially with love matters, is imperative. If you want to implement a secret love game, know that it fits with your personality. In other words, don’t fill your brain with erotica material you’ve watched or read somewhere and found
awesome.

What you find awesome when performed by someone else might not look awesome to you – and your lover – if you are the one to implement it.

Remember, we are all different, and that’s the beauty of life, is it not?

So take it easy with enacting at all costs any type of role play, love game, sex fantasy, anything in between, or all of the above.

It took me a long time to realize that my passion really lay in writing and literature, especially everything motivational and inspirational.

I went to college, got an advanced degree in finance and business management, and was lucky enough to land a well-paid job.

But at the same time, I felt something was missing, some void I could not really describe.

I knew if I had to follow my heart, I needed to express my artistic talent more fully – and, thank God, I made that decision more than 10 years ago and never regretted it ever since.

I want you to do the same!

Not necessarily embracing authorship as a passion, but listening to yourself, to your heart, and make the right decision for you…

Tell me: What makes you happy? What makes you stand on your feet or focus so much and so long that you forget there are 24 hours in a day and that, at some point, you would need to eat and sleep?

That’s where you heart is!

In each decision you make in life, say ‘thank you’ and follow your heart. Let it decide how to proceed, what is important and what is not.

Deep inside you is buried a complex yet effective mechanism of protection that we all call ‘intuition.’ It is there to hedge you against risk, against adversity, helping you avoid costly mistakes.

Listening to your heart means staying in tune with the emotional side of your brain, the part that tells you whether you are comfortable doing something or whether you should walk away from it.

Don’t forget your heart – therein lies the key to a thankful, productive life.

Have the proper mindset.

After talking about the heart, I want to talk about the mind, particularly the mindset.

Again, the brain is the number one sexual organ, so you pay attention to your mood, brain, neurons…

Have the proper mindset before attempting any love game you already fancy or will read in the next few lines.

Do you follow me so far?

Now, get ready to be shocked!

To have the proper mindset, reduce your stress and boost your neuronal system (that is, your brain activity), you should drink…water.

Yeah, more water.

Crazy, you might think! But that’s my advice, backed by observations, research and personal practice.

Drink more water – not soda, not liquors, etc. – to feel hydrated, feel good and prop up your brain.

Did you know your brain contains nearly 78% water, and that it uses around 25% of the oxygen you breathe?

You do the math. 78% water and 25% oxygen…Sounds like (more than) 100% of positivity to me!

What’s my point here, really?

Simple: Take care of your mind, I mean, physically and spiritually, so you can increase your odds of success in life.

Your mind is the bedrock, the source of your happiness, but your thoughts are the stones that constitute the foundation of that bedrock.

This is where your patience should emerge and strengthen.

If you think positive and patient, you will act positive and patient and everything around you will be in harmony with yourself and the universe.

Plus, your personal thoughts are key elements in stress, so ban negative reflections as soon as they emerge.

Don’t let them simmer.

Live to the fullest.

Continuing on the buildup of your mental framework, I want to live your life to the fullest.

No more fear, no more restraint! Just live
la vida loca
! Oh by the way, this reminds me, I have to fly to Italy one of these days.

So you should live completely and explore your inner potential.

Be grateful for your life and live to the fullest, but plan for the bare minimum.

This means you prepare yourself to leverage your talent and inner circle to do big things when the time is right and opportunities abound.

But until then, you set yourself up for the bare minimum. That way, you save energy, resources and money.

You wait for the right opportunity, quietly cultivating your strength before the big moment arrives.

While you await a life-altering event, take the time to talk to others and help them find their own path and be prepared for their altering-event.

Maybe they are the ones whose lives are going to impact your life positively.

Remember the magic number of 86,400.

Don’t worry; this is not the number of love games you should implement to save your marriage or relationship!

Well, what if it were? Hmmm… No, that’s too many days or hours or seconds.

Well, 86,400 is the number of seconds you have in a day. Every day, remember to devote at least one second to say ‘thank you’ to the people, things and memories that matter in your life.

Do this as often as possible, although a daily routine is what I recommend.

Keep in mind the past is gone and the future uncertain, so the best thing you can do is being thankful for the present.

Say ‘thank you’ now.

Say thanks to your partner.

Keep in mind frequency is not enough.

As you prepare your game plan to stir passion in your relationship and heat up your bedroom, keep in mind the game is more about quality, not quantity.

Remember that – QUALITY, not quantity.

So try to focus less on frequency, quantity…anything numeric. Favor the amorphous, the non-quantifiable, the qualitative.

In some cases, frequency is not enough; substance matters more.

And don’t worry about past trauma or other fears that might cripple your motivation especially if you are afraid that an improvement you want to introduce in your relationship might not work – or worse, that your partner might start suspecting you. . To better manage or quickly overcome your fears, see
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Romance Matters: Taboo or Fair Topic?

Take a deep breath and read the next few lines carefully.

Up until now, nobody knew about your deepest sexual secrets and love scenarios – and that was okay.

Before you even think about sharing even a hint or shred of fantasy with your loved one, make sure you lay out a solid foundation.

Prepare the terrain. Make things cool. Trivialize the subject of sexual fantasy.

Talk about it more and more, but in a playful way.

I suggest you allude to it at unexpected places, in an indirect tone, and test how your partner reacts to the subject.

For example, if you just watched a movie featuring a scene that directly or indirectly alludes to your fantasy, talk about it openly and see your partner’s reaction.

You can say something like “Honey, that scene really moved me.

It is fantastic how he/she reacted, and I loved the way they were able to turn things around and make awesome love that night.”

Playful is always good, safe, riskless.

Use things and concepts that are not controversial, such as the weather, vacation, a book (such as the one you are reading), a TV or radio show, or a movie.

The idea is to use something indirectly related to your couple or your own personality to introduce a topic that may carry suspicion or passion, depending on your partner, your culture and the social norms where you live.

Once you introduce the subject of fantasy, see your sweetheart’s reaction. If he/she loves it, explore it more.

But do it gradually, though!

Don’t give the impression of someone who spends 90% of her day trying to become the next top-rated sex doctor! Or someone who has nothing else to think about, but sex!

The crazy thing is, sex is looked upon and gauged with a stricter moral litmus test – and therefore subject to more censorship.

But we all think about it, some more than others, and history has shown it is
the
one subject that receives the most cautious attention from social leaders around the world.

Yet sex sells, attracts, fascinates, and triggers amazing and ascending careers while destroying others’ professional aspirations.

So, first you introduced the subject.

Second, you saw your partner’s reaction.

Third, you have to decide whether it is worth implementing one or more of the fantasies described in this book.

Your sweetie might find the theoretical discussion around fantasies appealing, but that does not mean he/she will relish the actual implementation of a fantasy.

There is a reason why some things are called fiction – and we like them as
fiction.

When they are no longer fiction, they might shatter our lives, derail our thinking or embed doubt in our belief system.

Hint: Maybe you love the Harry Potter series as I do. But would you want to have your life governed by wizardry and esotericism of yesteryear?

Or wake up in the middle of the night thinking about spiritual entities flying around your house, looking for, say, magician elves?

You got the point. Sometimes, fiction must remain fiction.

On the other hand, if your partner has shown strong interest to the subject of fantasy, that is FANTASTIC!

Here’s the gateway to extraordinary sensual and romantic exploration, the kind that, if done right, can sustain your relationship in the long run.

A Few More Things

Know your limits.

I spoke earlier about knowing what works for you and what doesn’t, suggesting you not mimic everything you watch or read in the erotica genre…because it is fiction even though the intercourse looks real.

People performing those “love games” are actors and actresses, not regular folk.

So, again, know your limits and don’t try to replicate in one night what took many takes before the video producer actually got the right shot, the proper 1- or 2-minute footage.

So lower your expectations a bit.

Life is all about expectations, is it not?

At the end of the day, and at the day of your life, you will judge yourself mostly on expectations you had set for yourself throughout your life.

Whether you are happy or not will depend on your expectations.

Know what you can and cannot do, so you do not step on other people’s toes.

If you know your abilities and their limits, you grow in confidence. You are able to articulate clearly your opinion and act on your aspirations.

People will respect you and value your opinion because they see its delineations and limits.

You will become a respected voice on a particular topic, which, believe me, is much better than being just a “voice” on many topics.